How to say No

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TemporaryCircumstances

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It isn't weird. Its what they're there for. Just tell them there is a situation you're uncomfortable with. Make them aware. Let them do the rest.
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Fine I will
 
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My wife is a teacher, and she just said the MOST EFFECTIVE thing is to have your PARENTS contact the school, and tell them that if something is not done about this, THEIR ATTORNEYS WILL BE CONTACTING THE SCHOOL.

And she was dead serious when she said this. She said it is the ONE thing school administrations will pay attention to... and FAST.
 
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My wife is a teacher, and she just said the MOST EFFECTIVE thing is to have your PARENTS contact the school, and tell them that if something is not done about this, THEIR ATTORNEYS WILL BE CONTACTING THE SCHOOL.

And she was dead serious when she said this. She said it is the ONE thing school administrations will pay attention to... and FAST.
Well, my step father will definitely not do that but I'll try to get my step mother to...
 

oyster67

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I know exactly how guys are. And what he is doing is a passive version where some guys are overtly aggressive but hes still way out of line. You owe him nothing. He doesn't need you to coddle him. You said stop and he isn't listening. THAT is alarming. Nice kid or not he needs to known that he can't push you. And you need to learn how to stand up for yourself.
It was a sad day when nice young ladies had to start 'standing up for themselves' while other young 'men' just stood by and gawked about like zombies. I realize that things may have come to that, even in my day. I remember that one girl in my class came to school with steel toed shoes, and she used them. Boys that get away with that kind of stuff grow up to be a real mess.

I am sorry, I know that you have a beautiful, kindly, and Christlike nature Natania, but it just frustrates me what this world has come to.
 
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When you are saying this "NO".... Are you doing it LUODLY, in public, where plenty of other people can hear it? If not. DO SO.
 

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It was a sad day when nice young ladies had to start 'standing up for themselves' while other young 'men' just stood by and gawked about like zombies. I realize that things may have come to that, even in my day. I remember that one girl in my class came to school with steel toed shoes, and she used them. Boys that get away with that kind of stuff grow up to be a real mess.

I am sorry, I know that you have a beautiful, kindly, and Christlike nature Natania, but it just frustrates me what this world has come to.
Sadly, it is the same world it was when I was a young teen.
 
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When you are saying this "NO".... Are you doing it LUODLY, in public, where plenty of other people can hear it? If not. DO SO.
No I don't say it loudly, I didn't think of it
 
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Since he refuses to listen, you do need to get others with more authority involved, as has been suggested. It does seem the best course of action.
I know ....
 
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It was a sad day when nice young ladies had to start 'standing up for themselves' while other young 'men' just stood by and gawked about like zombies. I realize that things may have come to that, even in my day. I remember that one girl in my class came to school with steel toed shoes, and she used them. Boys that get away with that kind of stuff grow up to be a real mess.

I am sorry, I know that you have a beautiful, kindly, and Christlike nature Natania, but it just frustrates me what this world has come to.
It's fine, I never expected the world to be a good place (how depressing) haha :p
 

Magenta

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No I don't say it loudly, I didn't think of it
Get away from me! Stop touching me! That will turn heads but more along the lines of wanted attention as opposed to the unwanted attention you are getting from him :p
 

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No I don't say it loudly, I didn't think of it
My older sister had a situation similar to this a couple years ago. She is very soft spoken and passive. He finally made her mad enough that she yelled LEAVE ME ALONE. At a football game. With a lot of people around. He listened that time :p As did many other non well intentioned males. Listen to Willie :p
 
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"I'm flattered that you asked me, but I am not ready to begin dating."

Set your boundaries now. If his feelings get hurt, that is on him. It's his choice to let your telling him "no thank you" bruise his ego. You can be firm and polite at the same time.
This sounds like a perfectly fine response!

"I'm flattered that you asked me...," lets him know that you take it as a compliment he was thinking of you.

"...but I am not ready to begin dating," states a simple fact.

He may feel disappointed, but there's no reason for him to feel rejected. If he falls apart over your honest answer, he's not ready to date and has some growing up to do.

Btw, I used to tell my kids when they were teens, "Blame everything on me and your father." In other words, to remove yourself gracefully from a situation, use the old standby, "My parents said I'm not allowed to date yet." :)
 
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Get away from me! Stop touching me! That will turn heads but more along the lines of wanted attention as opposed to the unwanted attention you are getting from him :p
Yeah It's just, and I'm being completely honest here;
People say that now a days just because or as a joke so no one really pays attention to that.
Heck I was even walking to school one time and I refused to help someone cuz I didn't know him and he screamed rape to try to get people over there but no one payed any attention. So I can try it but it may not work with what I've been seeing
 
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My older sister had a situation similar to this a couple years ago. She is very soft spoken and passive. He finally made her mad enough that she yelled LEAVE ME ALONE. At a football game. With a lot of people around. He listened that time :p As did many other non well intentioned males. Listen to Willie :p
I will.....
 
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AuntieAnt

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Oh.... I just got in from my morning walk and am having my first cup of coffee. I didn't read past the first page of this thread.

As for this boy taking liberties by touching you, that's a whole different matter. As a mother, I'd put a stop to his antics in one little "conference" with him and the police. If you told him to keep his hands off you and he ignores your request, it is assault.

At this point, getting his feelings hurt would be the least of his worries.
 

Magenta

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Yeah It's just, and I'm being completely honest here;
People say that now a days just because or as a joke so no one really pays attention to that.
Heck I was even walking to school one time and I refused to help someone cuz I didn't know him and he screamed rape to try to get people over there but no one payed any attention. So I can try it but it may not work with what I've been seeing
You still set up a chain of witnessed events. It is better than saying nothing and enduring his abuses.
 

oyster67

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It's fine, I never expected the world to be a good place (how depressing) haha :p
We are so fortunate to have Jesus and each other. Let's not forget to all pray sincerely about this matter. God would not be pleased if we neglected to look to Him in this time of need.