This instance of giving to the "visiting pastor" was on top of our regular weekly collection of tithe. I have always cheerfully given to my church for the purpose of tithing and for special functions, collections, etc. that we have, but it's hard to feel comfortable giving to a man who comes from some other place we know nothing about who is basically saying we all NEED to give to him money (over and over and over again) and make everyone feel horrible who will not. If you tithe with your church (we do), and you give separately to go on missions yourself with the church, donate, serve, etc .... I feel its enough. But this man made everyone feel that we should be donating $3000 more to his cause for him to teach people to be pastors in India. We are on a very budgeted income right now - but we tithe first. And we don't go out to eat after church. We come home and fix sandwiches every Sunday. As a matter of fact, we don't go out to eat at all. This particular service our own pastor gave us the announcements before the visiting pastor spoke. Our pastor asked us all to take an angel (or two) from the angel tree for our prison ministry program (we buy gifts for children who's parents are in prison) - and we always take 3 names of children and buy Christmas for them - he asked us to donate coats, hats and scarves for those without, and to sign up for other events we have planned. We do all that and more, but this guy coming in just irritated me with the drilling of giving him money. On the other end of the spectrum, our pastor was behind him 100%. He encouraged us to give to him as well.