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While this may certainly serve as good general advice, it does not cover all cases. Some of these things do not always result from "unfixable faults" in a person. Yes, I do realize that any of these things can cause problems in a relationship. And, some of them are likely to cause problems in a relationship. But, it is not true that all of them - in all cases - will cause problems in a relationship. It depends on the people involved, their compatibility, and their 'outlook' on life... 
In some cases - to [ permanently ] heal / fix it - a person needs to-love-or-be-loved...
Just sayin'...
In some cases - to [ permanently ] heal / fix it - a person needs to-love-or-be-loved...
Just sayin'...
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My female best friend when I was dating future-hubby kept asking me if I'd ever consider marrying a guy who was married twice before, but became born again after the second marriage failed. I realized she was talking about her BIL, and he was one of my male best friends, but I didn't catch the hint that she was trying to get me to date him. I had absolutely no problems dating him. In fact, I waited for him to ask me on a date, until future-hubby came along. (And only future-hubby told me why our other friend didn't ask me. Apparently I said something that scared him off. lol)
I honestly have no problems with anyone's baggage as long as the baggage came before rebirth, or I was, at least, aware of the baggage too.
And, I did marry hubby, knowing he had an ex (freakoid described her well, but we tend to think of her as the Wicked Witch of the West, lol), two kids, he quit cocaine ten days before we first met, he's the poster child for "dysfunctional family," and quit drinking about five years after we were married when he realized he was an alcoholic. I did not know that. Yes, I knew he got drunk every other Friday night with "the boys from work," but Dad's an alcoholic too, and he just never quit drinking, so I didn't realize binge drinking was "alcoholic."
And he? What did he get? An ex druggie who had some apprehension about sex because I was raped, someone who could be the poster child for "my dad is an alcoholic," and who takes, on average, 5 months to get a new job, and often gets really lousy jobs.
If you go around waiting for the perfect person, just lock yourself away and assume you're staying single. There is no such animal.
BUT as Christians we have one really big thing going for us -- GOD!
I honestly have no problems with anyone's baggage as long as the baggage came before rebirth, or I was, at least, aware of the baggage too.
And, I did marry hubby, knowing he had an ex (freakoid described her well, but we tend to think of her as the Wicked Witch of the West, lol), two kids, he quit cocaine ten days before we first met, he's the poster child for "dysfunctional family," and quit drinking about five years after we were married when he realized he was an alcoholic. I did not know that. Yes, I knew he got drunk every other Friday night with "the boys from work," but Dad's an alcoholic too, and he just never quit drinking, so I didn't realize binge drinking was "alcoholic."
And he? What did he get? An ex druggie who had some apprehension about sex because I was raped, someone who could be the poster child for "my dad is an alcoholic," and who takes, on average, 5 months to get a new job, and often gets really lousy jobs.
If you go around waiting for the perfect person, just lock yourself away and assume you're staying single. There is no such animal.
BUT as Christians we have one really big thing going for us -- GOD!