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Ok Adultry is justification for divorce and also when your husband is a non-believer who wants to divorce you..
So by Christianity you are still married and the devorce you have is only recognised by the state.. Of course if you are being abused and you believe that your childern are being damaged you have the option to seperate from your husband.. But that is a state of seperation not divorce.. If your husband starts a sexual relationship with another woman after you seperated then that is then grounds of a Biblical divorce.
So by Christianity you are still married and the devorce you have is only recognised by the state.. Of course if you are being abused and you believe that your childern are being damaged you have the option to seperate from your husband.. But that is a state of seperation not divorce.. If your husband starts a sexual relationship with another woman after you seperated then that is then grounds of a Biblical divorce.
Given the OP's answer to you in post 13, I have to respectfully disagree with you, my brother. God is gracious, and He'd rather someone be free from abuse than suffer throughout the duration of an entire lifetime. I'm confident God will bless her with a new husband when she's ready according to God's timeline.
Well, kill an abusive man then. Lots of people I'd knock off too.
I think the problem you have is this; the remarriage part.
God didn't say anywhere in the bible to say with an abusive spouse, but he didnsay this:
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians ch 7
I'm sorry, but I don't read in the bible where leaving an abusive spouse entitles you to a new one.
I think the problem you have is this; the remarriage part.
God didn't say anywhere in the bible to say with an abusive spouse, but he didnsay this:
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians ch 7
I'm sorry, but I don't read in the bible where leaving an abusive spouse entitles you to a new one.
Me personally, I believe that God knows we are living in rough times and He understands that our generation has no idea about commitment. I know of one woman that gave her testimony and how hurt she was when her believing husband went off the deep end and she stayed with him for awhile, one day she knew God released her from their vows. God really does care about our hearts and knows what we can handle. He is in a good mood and is fair and just!
now quite speaking death over your future ! If you would like to get married again = start asking!!!
Thats my 2cents worth
now quite speaking death over your future ! If you would like to get married again = start asking!!!
Thats my 2cents worth
Question, was your ex unfaithful, you don't have to answer that, but that is the only reason for divorce. Matthew 19:8-9 "He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
The only reason the example of a man is used is because of the way the Jewish culture was, man can be human.
The only reason the example of a man is used is because of the way the Jewish culture was, man can be human.
God knows what your going through.. He I am sure will send a great person for you to fall in love again.. He will understand why you did what you did and he will not hold it against you... I feel you made the best choice for your safety... So make life great with someone new when your ready... if it happens it happens..
We as Christians are the most unforgiving forgiving people/religion in the world.
The Bible also teaches us that if we look at a person with lust we are guilty of committing adultery. Who of us are not guilty of this sin? I know I for one sometimes struggle with sins in my life.
We can find times in the Bible where men of God received Biblical advice but turned to God for answers. One such time was when David and Abishai went to the camp of Saul. Abishai gave David word and said to him “God gave your enemy into your hands”. This is Biblical advice but David said to him he will not touch an anointed of God.
All the Bible verses are true and correct but let us look at this from a different angle. The word of God tells us that if we sleep with each other we enter a covenant (become one) and that is why we should not fornicate. God gave Israel a bill of divorce because they lust after other gods. The Bible teaches us that Jesus is our Groom and we are His bride. We are all in the world before turning to God. Repentance is not the flowing of tears as we know it in church but the Hebrew picture is an action to turn away from what you did before and then do the will of God. So it is this action of changing your old ways and turning back to God/Jesus (our Groom). We were all in the world (thus adulterers) before turning to back to God but He takes us back without ever mentioning our old sins again.
My understanding is that if there is true repentance from both parties they can get together. The difficulty is that the Bible teaches us that God’s bride is without spot or blemish, so He basically writes off all our sins never to be mentioned again. If we are not able to do that with each other we will not be able to reconcile and we will destroy each other. This should be an act of faith by two parties willing to forgive and forget. They should turn away from the past focussing on each other and ask God for His will.
One more thing, if you have sex with somebody you are basically married to him/her. So how many of us got married a virgin? Basically without the grace of God we are all fornicators and adulteress whether we like it or not.
The Bible also teaches us that if we look at a person with lust we are guilty of committing adultery. Who of us are not guilty of this sin? I know I for one sometimes struggle with sins in my life.
We can find times in the Bible where men of God received Biblical advice but turned to God for answers. One such time was when David and Abishai went to the camp of Saul. Abishai gave David word and said to him “God gave your enemy into your hands”. This is Biblical advice but David said to him he will not touch an anointed of God.
All the Bible verses are true and correct but let us look at this from a different angle. The word of God tells us that if we sleep with each other we enter a covenant (become one) and that is why we should not fornicate. God gave Israel a bill of divorce because they lust after other gods. The Bible teaches us that Jesus is our Groom and we are His bride. We are all in the world before turning to God. Repentance is not the flowing of tears as we know it in church but the Hebrew picture is an action to turn away from what you did before and then do the will of God. So it is this action of changing your old ways and turning back to God/Jesus (our Groom). We were all in the world (thus adulterers) before turning to back to God but He takes us back without ever mentioning our old sins again.
My understanding is that if there is true repentance from both parties they can get together. The difficulty is that the Bible teaches us that God’s bride is without spot or blemish, so He basically writes off all our sins never to be mentioned again. If we are not able to do that with each other we will not be able to reconcile and we will destroy each other. This should be an act of faith by two parties willing to forgive and forget. They should turn away from the past focussing on each other and ask God for His will.
One more thing, if you have sex with somebody you are basically married to him/her. So how many of us got married a virgin? Basically without the grace of God we are all fornicators and adulteress whether we like it or not.
Well i try to telling something, coz iam in this position also. I was marroed with Man who more young than me. We married just for 2years after that he just left us for another woman, when i got pregnant our second kids. In our marriage he do something bad at our kids, he was torture my first son when my son 9months old. My mom is an evangelist, so she know we cant get divorced if just because violence. So she entertain me to be more patient, and then my husband left me for another woman, iam very sad.. Iam still young 31yo, i never do anh carrier in my life, o never have any friendship so iam feel soo depresssed about my life. I life in my parent now. My dad is very old and cant help me about money, my mom is too busy woth her service on church, school etc, theres no vody cant help us to keep my kids. I ever do looking for job but till now i never get any job. I was graduate from university, but no have any experience. This already 3years my husband left me Without any comunication. I dont know where he live or he is still life or not. But i never take legal divorced because i dont have money for doing that and my husband just gone. I just thinking my only way is for my future is married again... I feel depressed and hopeless. Its hurt me soo much, and i believe God will permitt me to married again because my husband cheated and never has any responsibility at me or his kids. I just want to be happy, i hist want give my kids best life, and i dont have to be are burden for my parent anymore...
If i had a job or has carrier, i will not too thinking for married again, coz i have 2 sweet kids.but i less financial and no friend.. Everyday i just talking with my kids. Never talking with real friends.. I just try myself to dont too depresed with heard gospel song... And made a poem for christianchat
I heard you mention what his Pastor said, but what did your Pastor say to you. Every situation is different and the bible speaks about seeking Godly counsel which I think is much needed in situations of domestic abuse. My suggestion would be to search the scriptures for yourself (simply google scriptures on divorce and remarriage), seek God by spending personal time with Him and seek Godly counsel (you would know them by their fruit). God loves you and sometimes listening to various opinions at once can bring additional feelings of rejection and hurt that is why you have to be careful of whose counsel you seek.