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Hello everyone,
I am new on this forum and would like some help regarding my situation. I am a non christian in a relationship with a christian woman and currently facing some issues with our interfaith beliefs.
We both first met at work in Thailand in a tech start and have been in a relationship for over a year. When I first met her I really liked her and started to pursue her, I didn't think her religion would have any affect on loving someone who wasn't a believer. I also don't discriminate on a persons beliefs, cultural identity or ethnicity. I consider myself an agnostic but would happily go to a church, mosque or a buddhist temple. Iv'e gone to a few churches with my girlfriend, the Evangelical denomination. And making friends with some of the people who I met at church. We both live together and have done for over a year, without her family knowing. We have had sexual intercourse, she lost her virginity to me. We have also talked about getting married and having kids although I don't want that yet as i'm not in a suitable financial situation.
After living in Thailand for four and half years I decided to go back to the U.K to see my family for a few months. Two months later she came to visit me in the U.K, we spent some time in London followed by a romantic trip to Paris for her birthday. After that she went to LA for two weeks where she is from. Within those two weeks I had hardly any contact with her, I frequently messaged her and tried to call her but on the last week I realised something must be wrong. I was aware that she has some family issues. Her brother is a drug addict and her mother is getting frail and ill because of it. But for the last week she did not call me or message me, she was trying to avoid the situation she knows how upset I would become if something were to happen. I l also know her well enough to know something is wrong, even if she hasn't said anything. I also believe her mother found out about us and that she disapproved of the relationship. She also changed her views towards me when she made a visit to her local church in LA. Maybe the church minister or bible studies had an affect and mentioned how it was a sin to have no sex before marriage.
Well just a couple of days ago I had repeatedly called her to see what was happening, she was upset and crying and said how she had to move back to the united states to support her mother and brothers, this is also A Thai cultural thing. She also said how we're incompatible because i'm a non believer and how it would never work out as we don't share the same values. She said she has to end it because of her relationship with god and her religious values. I would get in the way of that.
BTW I am Thai/British while she is Thai/American, so thats another complication if one of us moves back home to the west.
I'm currently in the U.K at the moment and am thinking wether I should travel back to Thailand to see her one last time or to salvage as much as I possibly can from the relationship. She said that I should not come back and she has decided on ending it and moving back to the states.
I truly want to be with her and I love her very much. I would spend my whole life with her and she has been the best thing that has happened to me. But because of these values it makes it very difficult for us.
I am unsure what to do at this minute in time and would appreciate the help of any of the forum readers would give. If any one has been in a similar situation or is in a interfaith relationship I would love to hear from you. I'm sure there are some church leaders may also give invaluable advice.
Much appreciated
David
I am new on this forum and would like some help regarding my situation. I am a non christian in a relationship with a christian woman and currently facing some issues with our interfaith beliefs.
We both first met at work in Thailand in a tech start and have been in a relationship for over a year. When I first met her I really liked her and started to pursue her, I didn't think her religion would have any affect on loving someone who wasn't a believer. I also don't discriminate on a persons beliefs, cultural identity or ethnicity. I consider myself an agnostic but would happily go to a church, mosque or a buddhist temple. Iv'e gone to a few churches with my girlfriend, the Evangelical denomination. And making friends with some of the people who I met at church. We both live together and have done for over a year, without her family knowing. We have had sexual intercourse, she lost her virginity to me. We have also talked about getting married and having kids although I don't want that yet as i'm not in a suitable financial situation.
After living in Thailand for four and half years I decided to go back to the U.K to see my family for a few months. Two months later she came to visit me in the U.K, we spent some time in London followed by a romantic trip to Paris for her birthday. After that she went to LA for two weeks where she is from. Within those two weeks I had hardly any contact with her, I frequently messaged her and tried to call her but on the last week I realised something must be wrong. I was aware that she has some family issues. Her brother is a drug addict and her mother is getting frail and ill because of it. But for the last week she did not call me or message me, she was trying to avoid the situation she knows how upset I would become if something were to happen. I l also know her well enough to know something is wrong, even if she hasn't said anything. I also believe her mother found out about us and that she disapproved of the relationship. She also changed her views towards me when she made a visit to her local church in LA. Maybe the church minister or bible studies had an affect and mentioned how it was a sin to have no sex before marriage.
Well just a couple of days ago I had repeatedly called her to see what was happening, she was upset and crying and said how she had to move back to the united states to support her mother and brothers, this is also A Thai cultural thing. She also said how we're incompatible because i'm a non believer and how it would never work out as we don't share the same values. She said she has to end it because of her relationship with god and her religious values. I would get in the way of that.
BTW I am Thai/British while she is Thai/American, so thats another complication if one of us moves back home to the west.
I'm currently in the U.K at the moment and am thinking wether I should travel back to Thailand to see her one last time or to salvage as much as I possibly can from the relationship. She said that I should not come back and she has decided on ending it and moving back to the states.
I truly want to be with her and I love her very much. I would spend my whole life with her and she has been the best thing that has happened to me. But because of these values it makes it very difficult for us.
I am unsure what to do at this minute in time and would appreciate the help of any of the forum readers would give. If any one has been in a similar situation or is in a interfaith relationship I would love to hear from you. I'm sure there are some church leaders may also give invaluable advice.
Much appreciated
David