We can't control other people's behaviors. We can control how we respond to what is said to and about us.
God tells us what heavenly wisdom looks like.
I know we have spoken of these verses before:
James 3
17But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. 18And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
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I don't make peace because I am a peaceful person.
Folks don't always word things sweet and candy like..,that is not love or heavenly wisdom.
Love is wanting folks to know God's truth even if it hurts their feelings.
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Seeing past the name calling and labeling
...I see two main positions.
1. Folks want others to be secure in Christ and have Him alone as their foundation. They want others to enter Jesus Sabbath rest. They do this out of Love for those who are weary and discouraged. Those folks who tried to run but really just need a break.
2. These folks are disgusted by the sinful world and want folks to be called out and set apart as God's holy people. They want folks to be a light unto others and actively seek sanctification. Their goal is to motivate people to walk with God and do good works for His Glory. They are the cheerleaders for those running the race. They speak to those who have rested and might be afraid to walk with God or feel unworthy to be a part of God's team. They too speak out of Love.
Then I see a third group, but we aren't suppose to talk about them.
The third group that most folks ignore, is the demonic forces of darkness. They look at the other groups who seek to do God's will. Who have His light and seek to destroy or dim or make them look foolish or cause them to fight with each other, instead of doing what God calls them to do.
No one wants to talk about this because it's easier to ignore the spiritual strongholds within one self and see the speck in another's eye then cut up the log in our own.
Everyone has spiritual strongholds that war against God's wisdom. They are in our flesh and are what causes us to sin. Before we were born again we had demons creating them and building them in our hearts and minds.
Some are easy to spot and some are not.
For example: greed and selfishness.
Most people think they have those sins defeated, but their roots go deeper than many people admit.
How willing are you to go out of your way to help someone?
How willing are you to give up your comforts of it helped another person?
Would you literally give your shirt off your back?
So the desires of the flesh get built up into a spiritual stronghold..like anger that is not given to God every night turns to bitterness and murder.
So there is this third group. The demonic forces that whisper lies.
They make strawmen and tell you that is what the other people believe..and folks swallow the lie hook line and sinker.
Then they build up what they tell you is "righteous anger" against the straw man and get you to attack..building you up and encouraging you with their lies, blinding you by telling you that the other person isn't worthy of Love and that you are actually protecting innocents from them.
This third group does it to both of the other two groups and then sits back and laughs.
The light is so dim....no one even notices anymore the person dying in the corner.
What started as love gets corrupted and trampled under foot.
But no one wants to talk about the third group.