Amen I am thankful for the people who did not let me just continue as I was, but judged me, and showed me the err of my ways.
In fact, the word of God is alive and powerful it judges itself. So by just sharing the word, we are judging others through Christ
the problem is not the judging, it is the hard heart and closed minds. We are told to share the word in season and out, so that by seeing they may not see, and by hearing they may not hear. God hardens (literally strengthens) ones heart by continually putting truth in front, So the more they have to deny truth, the harder it will be to repent.
I am in complete agreement on one aspect of your comments; and diametrically opposed to another. As long as things are kept covered up we think God's judgement is severe, but let the Holy Spirit reveal the secret vileness of sin until it blazes out in conspicuous glare, and we realize that His judgement is right. To this end I am in complete biblical agreement. But, once again, this is not a place for our judgement it is the Holy Spirit's and His Word's role.I never have even suggested to let sin not be called what it is in what we don't judge. I am saying just the opposite; when we don't judge we let God do what He does best - Be God!... and implement His judgement on mens hearts thru His convictions of spirit, not by mans cynicism plowing the fields.
We say that a man is not right with God unless he acts on the line of the precedent we have established. We must drop our measuring-rods for God and for our fellow men. All we can know about God is that His Character is what Jesus Christ has manifested; and all we know about our fellow man presents an enigma (or riddle) which precludes the possibility of the final judgement being with us. In every life there is one place where God must have "elbow room." We must not pass judgement on others, nor must we make a principle of judging out of our own experience. It is impossible for a man to know the views of Almighty God.( not in what views He decides to give us in His will, but in all His thoughts as they exist).
Ironically, whenever a truth comes home to me my first reaction is to want to fling it back on you, but the Spirit of God brings it straight home, "Thou art the man." We always want to lash others when we are sick with our own disobedience. So, God has wrought me out and I understand now, that if I see mean, and wrong, and evil in others, let me take the self-judgement at once - that is what I would be guilty of if I were in their circumstances.
The searching light of the Scriptures comes over and over again on this line, and we find that there is no room in a Christian for cynicism made to be painted as proactive love. But immediately satan will say to you, "Well this is not my character or goodness, so it is not me he is speaking to!"
But, we pronounce judgements, not by our character or our goodness, but by the intolerant ban of finality in our views, which awakens
resentment and has none of the Spirit of Jesus in it, (And it shows in our demeanor; set aside from our doctrines that outside of our judgements would be the food to feed them in reconciling if God would so direct). Jesus never judged like that. It was His presence, His inherent Holiness that judged. Whenever we see Him we are judged instantly.
We have to practice the presence of Jesus and work on the basis of His disposition. When we have experienced the unfathomable forgiveness of God for all our wrong, we must exhibit that same forgiveness to others; and not adopt a policy of judging them for their greater good, meaning holding them in contempt until they change while saying we only hold their sins in contempt... Again God says not to judge lest ye be judged. You have not accounted for this yet. And if we lift Christ up in front of men He will draw all men unto Himself. Which also means He will convict as you cannot nor should try. As we see and discern their needs by way of our spirit intuitively, it is our mission (if called) to reconcile, restore, bridge the gap of a relationship mis-aligned to God to being re-aligned properly. God says unless we wrap it in love it is like clanging cymbals.
We cannot judge ourselves by ourselves or by anyone else; there is always one fact more in everyone's life that we do not know. Harsh judgement is based not on the sternest of the Holy Spirit, but on my refusal to bear someone else's burden. There is no room for harsh judgements on the part of a child of God, regardless of how you paint it up.