Apologetics is like evangelism. It's good to be ready if the occasion comes up, but that doesn't mean everyone is gifted in it.
I admire the woman who brought hubby to the Lord. Future-hubby (since I didn't know him back then) was the quintessential argumentative, arrogant, atheistic ass we've all met somewhere in our lives. Worse than most, because he had spent a couple of years studying the different religions of the world, and picked up a bit of healing through meditation in the process. (It works.) And he thought it was his duty to pull Christians away from the Lord. (He was good at it for the nominal christian too.)
The woman who brought him to the Lord was the wife of his co-worker/friend, and co-worker invited him (and his then-wife) to dinner. He spent the night arguing scripture with her, because he also memorized the usual scriptural arguments atheist just google nowadays. But she knew the Bible inside out and backwards, so every scripture he came up with, she could find (and this is in the days before at-home computers) and read in context to disprove his theory.
Three weeks of that, and each night he was angrier and angrier. And, it didn't help that she had a women's bible study, so her friends were praying that his self-healing would stop working. (He's allergic to chemical cleaners, but he was an HVAC mechanic so had to use them all the time. He had a rash on his hands that he could meditate away. When her friends started praying, not only did the rash not go away, it went up his arms. Peachy keen, arrogant atheist who itched and bled. lol)
On that last night on the way home, for the first time, he contemplated killing her. Last night, because the next morning he woke up regenerated -- born again.
Let's just say, because of that I have a special place in my heart for apologetic. I do contend for the faith, although I think it's more of a hobby than a gift. We all need to. We just don't know if God will place his next kid in front of us to be saved.
I also find it comes in handy with supposed Christians too. We also don't really know if the Christian we're talking to really is a Christian or just thinks he/she is.
And it also comes in handy for edifying the saints too.
No down side to contending, until we discover we can't. Which, if we are believers isn't a downside either. It's a good reason to learn more.