Hi Lemonadeanyone,
I have been where you are at, and I am sure I will be again, being single and all,(yes even at 60!) LOL
When I really don't know the answer, of course I go to the Word, study it, ponder on it, Pray on it.
Please remember our Lord is a personal God, and He brings to each of us with our own personalities, what He knows
in His wisdom,exactly what we need, and what we can easily attain.
He is so awesome in that aspect!
What He opened my eyes to was amazing, and now it is not a problem for me, should the situation arise.
" And the two became one"
(This is not just physical, but also Spiritual.)
Key word, Spiritual
What I was brought was this:
That we are all spiritual beings, serving God and not serving God.
This is important as we truly do need to be very careful, not to "become one" with non believers.
Im speaking of single people here.
We walk in the light, they walk in the dark.
Just as we all did at one point in our lives.
I asked myself,
Where did you walk when you were in darkness?
I shuttered!
I don't know about you, but I struggle, stumble and fall short, daily.
So has that person standing in front of you.
The hiccup here is that you don't know where he has tread!
What has his spirit been in to, up to and still doing?
If I am struggling in my own stuff, do I really want to take on another's
that I have no clue of what, where, how or when or if he even cares about that aspect.
So I told myself...look closely...with your heart and mind.
Do I want that with me spiritually for the rest of my days?
Cause that is what I am doing..when I "become one"
I think not...nope, nada, no can do!
Not only would I be making my walk harder, but his as well.
Because now he has mine as well
I took it to the next step:
If I were to peel back that "flesh suit"...what would I see?
That gave me a sobering thought....
So many Scriptures came to mind, to many to share, but I felt an overwhelming
sense of joy!
Scripture after scripture came flooding in, that was one long Bible study that day!
The truth revealed!
I guess you could say, once I was brought the truth of what was really happening..
beyond the physical...I was set free.
My desire was no longer for what my eyes see, or what my hormones wanted.
But what Jesus wanted for me.
The desire of my heart..to be truly loved for who I am in Christ.
Not who I am in the flesh.
I hope this helps, or maybe give you hope that you're not alone in your thoughts on this.