What is love?

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Galatea

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notmyown said:
i'm no poet.

love is walking the floor with a colicky baby when you're exhausted.
love is standing over your 7 yo for 30 minutes teaching her to change her bedsheets, a job you could do in 5 minutes.
love is doing your neighbor's grocery shopping after she has hurt you.
love is waiting dinner for your spouse, sister, parent.
love is forgiving a wrong done, not counting it as a debt.
love is chatting with the lonely older woman at the market when you're pressed for time.
love is allowing another to go and being happy for the time you've had together.
love is sharing what you have when you have very little.


these are all ways other people have loved ME. y'all can share your own examples, i'm sure.
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I do not think love is letting people go. Loving me means to never let me go.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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Galatea said:
Parental love is different from romantic love. One adult can not decide what is best for another person. I am in mind of How Green Was My Valley. The poor preacher would not marry his love because he did not want her to live in poverty. She married a wealthy man and had a miserable life.

She knew it was best to marry the poor man.

Love has no impediments. If a man loves me, nothing matters. Nothing. It is all extraneous. I know what is best for me.
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youre assuming many things

i will want the best for my wife if i get one

and if i need to sacrifice to make that happen id do it

if for some reason Gods will on something or "the best" isnt something either of us can determine or agree on through conversation, prayer and scripture

that doesnt change what love is


you can list examples like what you did where someone values whats best by worldly means

but that preacher obviously needs more understanding

God never said he couldnt provide for them
 
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I never knew Tenille played keyboard too :eek: :eek: And she can sing while doing it! I guess she never really needed the Captain after all... :eek: But they wouldn't be the same without him :)
 
notmyown

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Galatea said:
I do not think love is letting people go. Loving me means to never let me go.
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love is love, whatever the relationship. it's an action.

i was thinking of two women with whom i was closer than sisters for 20 years.
the time came for it to end, and we did so with gratitude to God for what we shared, and true best wishes for one another.

sometimes loving someone means allowing that person to continue on their journey with God without you, if that's in their best interests. because love does not seek its own, you see.
 
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renewed_hope

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notmyown said:
love is love, whatever the relationship. it's an action.

i was thinking of two women with whom i was closer than sisters for 20 years.
the time came for it to end, and we did so with gratitude to God for what we shared, and true best wishes for one another.

sometimes loving someone means allowing that person to continue on their journey with God without you, if that's in their best interests. because love does not seek its own, you see.
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I love you Ellie ❤
 
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Galatea

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notmyown said:
love is love, whatever the relationship. it's an action.

i was thinking of two women with whom i was closer than sisters for 20 years.
the time came for it to end, and we did so with gratitude to God for what we shared, and true best wishes for one another.

sometimes loving someone means allowing that person to continue on their journey with God without you, if that's in their best interests. because love does not seek its own, you see.
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Who gets to decide what is in the best interest of the other? I can not see how letting anyone go is love.
Love never fails, love endures, love perseveres.

It might be a blessed relief to let a draining vampire go- but that is not love if the vampire needs you.

I don’t let go of people I love. What is best for me is never being let go.
 
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Galatea

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NoNameMcgee said:
youre assuming many things

i will want the best for my wife if i get one

and if i need to sacrifice to make that happen id do it

if for some reason Gods will on something or "the best" isnt something either of us can determine or agree on through conversation, prayer and scripture

that doesnt change what love is


you can list examples like what you did where someone values whats best by worldly means

but that preacher obviously needs more understanding

God never said he couldnt provide for them
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If someone loves me, and he thinks it is in my best interest to let me go, I would tell him to let me judge this for myself.
 
Demi777

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I love my Lord, my mom, brother, grandma and bf
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notmyown

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Galatea said:
Who gets to decide what is in the best interest of the other? I can not see how letting anyone go is love.
Love never fails, love endures, love perseveres.

It might be a blessed relief to let a draining vampire go- but that is not love if the vampire needs you.

I don’t let go of people I love. What is best for me is never being let go.
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i know you don't consider this on par, but i have adult children. i have had to let them go, and it was very hard.

i'm still learning how to do this properly. :eek:

it doesn't mean i'm not still around if they need me, because loving them means i am. but it is they who determine that time, not i. as you say, love endures. love gives.
 
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Galatea

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NoNameMcgee said:
would you do this before or after considering whats best for him?


love isnt a one way street

i get what youre saying

the one point you made i agree with on this

is that we ought to be careful

but God fills in a lot of these blanks


that woman you mentioned didnt have to marry some random rich person for money and be miserable putting her faith in money and marriage to bring her joy

or disregard that silly preachers words (though she should have pointed out how what he said directly goes against scripture)

God may lead us away from some we love

and thats just the truth


to someone we married?

ehhhh maybe thats different
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I am in love with a man who is 65. He probably believes I should not be with him because of this age difference, because we come from different worlds, because I am inexperienced.

I would say, I am an adult. I can decide if I think this is a problem, it is not.
 
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Galatea

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notmyown said:
i know you don't consider this on par, but i have adult children. i have had to let them go, and it was very hard.

i'm still learning how to do this properly. :eek:

it doesn't mean i'm not still around if they need me, because loving them means i am. but it is they who determine that time, not i. as you say, love endures. love gives.
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I’m referring to romantic love, not parental.

Yes, parents must let children grow up, but romantic love does not let go- unless it is dead. He could not love me and let me go. This is true.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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Galatea said:
I am in love with a man who is 65. He probably believes I should not be with him because of this age difference, because we come from different worlds, because I am inexperienced.

I would say, I am an adult. I can decide if I think this is a problem, it is not.
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this man may not be going by Gods will

but his own understanding... in which case he could very well be wrong in making this choice


or hes lying
and its not for YOUR best but HIS best

i dont know much about this man
but if age is the reason ... or being from "different worlds"

i dont see how its scripture that decided that... unless he is in unbelief... which even scripture would say it is actually better to not get married or to let them go if they wish

does he have daughters who would be ashamed of him for dating someone your age?

or maybe he does not want to marry....

how much thought have you put in whats best for him?


but i agree with you

YOU will see things HE doesnt having a different perspective

and for something as serious as marriage

you absolutely have a voice in this

and if he loves you he should at least listen to it
 
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Love, apart from Jesus, has no meaning.

In this is love, that Jesus laid down His life for all of us, that we can be free to be who He has called us to be and not bound by the chains and limitations of this world. What the world can never comprehend is fully expressed on the Cross - that is love.

Love is love between a parent and a child, if Jesus is in between.
Love is love between a man and a wife, if Jesus is in between.
Love is love between friends, if Jesus is in between.

Otherwise, it is nothing but idolatry.
 
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