I am tempted by a coworker

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Frontios1996

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I work as a chef,and one of the waitresses appears to have a crush on me, and she is not being subtle. Ie. Flirting, asking if I'm single,my age, other things that go past a professional relationship.

From what I understand, she is currently in a relationship with another man. I am currently happily single, but have always felt a bit insecure about my overall attractiveness to the other gender. I am also worried that I may never find that special someone, when the time comes.

How do I maintain a friendly professional relationship with this woman, and still be godly and polite?

PS. I am in no way considering taking it up with HR, as I think she's basically a good person, but just on the wrong track a little?
 
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Zi

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Be honest and say you don't appreciate it because she is in a relationship.

You shouldn't want that type anyway.
 
Tommy379

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Frontios1996 said:
I work as a chef,and one of the waitresses appears to have a crush on me, and she is not being subtle. Ie. Flirting, asking if I'm single,my age, other things that go past a professional relationship.

From what I understand, she is currently in a relationship with another man. I am currently happily single, but have always felt a bit insecure about my overall attractiveness to the other gender. I am also worried that I may never find that special someone, when the time comes.

How do I maintain a friendly professional relationship with this woman, and still be godly and polite?

PS. I am in no way considering taking it up with HR, as I think she's basically a good person, but just on the wrong track a little?
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Why is she on the wrong track? Is there something wrong with you? She isn't obligated to the other guy if they aren't married.
 
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Frontios1996

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I know she's not legally obligated, but it does seem to be a serious relationship, and I don't want to be a cause to the end of a relationship
 
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But if she's in a relationship why would you be flattered that she's flirting?

Do you think you'll invest time in her and she'll respect or honor it?
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I know she's not legally obligated, but it does seem to be a serious relationship, and I don't want to be a cause to the end of a relationship
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Frontios1996

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I only found out she was in a relationship an hour ago, up until then I was okay with her flirting.
 
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Zi

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OK so since then how do you feel about her character?
Frontios1996 said:
I only found out she was in a relationship an hour ago, up until then I was okay with her flirting.
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Zi

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If you're comfortable then enjoy..

:)
 
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Frontios1996

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A bit put off, but I still consider her as a friend,and a relatively good person.
 
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No doubt she might be.
 
Crimson_Lark

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She has no problem asking you personal questions. Ask her if she has a boyfriend. Then watch how she responds.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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Frontios1996 said:
I know she's not legally obligated, but it does seem to be a serious relationship, and I don't want to be a cause to the end of a relationship
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she does not seem like wife material to be flirting while involved...

i would suggest to be honest with her

lay everything out on the table after you ask her personally if she is taken

and if she is offended or suggests leaving her boyfriend for you... that shows her level of maturity and loyalty
 
blue_ladybug

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Tell her to be a respectable girlfriend, and stop flirting with other guys. OR, ask her how many relationships broke up because of her flirting.. lol
 
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renewed_hope

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Frontios1996 said:
I work as a chef,and one of the waitresses appears to have a crush on me, and she is not being subtle. Ie. Flirting, asking if I'm single,my age, other things that go past a professional relationship.

From what I understand, she is currently in a relationship with another man. I am currently happily single, but have always felt a bit insecure about my overall attractiveness to the other gender. I am also worried that I may never find that special someone, when the time comes.

How do I maintain a friendly professional relationship with this woman, and still be godly and polite?

PS. I am in no way considering taking it up with HR, as I think she's basically a good person, but just on the wrong track a little?
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Well, there are people that tend to flirt naturally even when in a relationship and they honestly don't see it. I would ignore it, it is her personality and treat her like you would anyone else you work with....now, if she touches your behind or kisses you then by all means tell her it's inappropriate...other than that she is being nice and trying to make conversation :)
 
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mj007

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Maybe she isn't flirting but being overly friendly. The 2 get mixed up quite often, especially when someone is hopeful that someone is attracted to them.
 
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manofmen

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I think maybe she has no qualms what so ever about having more than one relationships.A lot of people think quantity over rides quality.
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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Frontios1996 said:
I work as a chef,and one of the waitresses appears to have a crush on me, and she is not being subtle. Ie. Flirting, asking if I'm single,my age, other things that go past a professional relationship.

From what I understand, she is currently in a relationship with another man. I am currently happily single, but have always felt a bit insecure about my overall attractiveness to the other gender. I am also worried that I may never find that special someone, when the time comes.

How do I maintain a friendly professional relationship with this woman, and still be godly and polite?

PS. I am in no way considering taking it up with HR, as I think she's basically a good person, but just on the wrong track a little?
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Wow! A chef :) that's wonderful :) please post some of your dishes here :D





I guess just be honest with her and tell her that you are not interest with her :)


I guess you can handle it well you seem like a considerate and a respectful person :)



God bless you ❤
 
Willie-T

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Frontios1996 said:
I know she's not legally obligated, but it does seem to be a serious relationship, and I don't want to be a cause to the end of a relationship
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Then, don't be. Is she stronger than you, and is going to beat you up, or something if you don't go out with her? It's really that simple........... unless your real intent is just to let us know how irresistible you are.
 
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