This is a very nasty world, and can be very habit forming. So I will tell you what I taught my son.
It is never okay to tell a lie or hide something, or keep secrets unless it is for a surprise birthday party. If someone is telling you to lie to people or to not tell you something- then they are probably doing something wrong. There is nothing I will do or say to you that you should not be comfortable telling your mother or a teacher, and if your mother, a teacher, or any grown up or child tells you to lie, not to tell anyone, or to keep something a secret, it may be something that can hurt you, them, or both.
I felt I had to be very extreme with him on these kinds of things. One small lie can lead to a bigger lie, he will eventually learn the difference between altering the truth so he doesn't hurt someone's feelings and lying to keep someone out of trouble cause he doesn't know what to do)
Plus, I had to fight the powers that be on his mothers side (who were not good influences at all)
Sorry for the long winded post about it. I just feel like everything is a seed being planted. Sometimes the truth hurts.
NOW! Remember about little white lies, There is a difference between an opinion and a lie- so in the case of a wmoan asking me about her appearance,
She could look amazing in my eyes, but terrible in her mothers. So me saying she looks great or that she looks terrible is only an opinion of the situation, and I don't think that is really what she is asking.
Does she look appropriate for the event and is the dress (or whatever) wrinkled, does she not look sloppy. That is the hidden question I would be answering.
It is never okay to tell a lie or hide something, or keep secrets unless it is for a surprise birthday party. If someone is telling you to lie to people or to not tell you something- then they are probably doing something wrong. There is nothing I will do or say to you that you should not be comfortable telling your mother or a teacher, and if your mother, a teacher, or any grown up or child tells you to lie, not to tell anyone, or to keep something a secret, it may be something that can hurt you, them, or both.
I felt I had to be very extreme with him on these kinds of things. One small lie can lead to a bigger lie, he will eventually learn the difference between altering the truth so he doesn't hurt someone's feelings and lying to keep someone out of trouble cause he doesn't know what to do)
Plus, I had to fight the powers that be on his mothers side (who were not good influences at all)
Sorry for the long winded post about it. I just feel like everything is a seed being planted. Sometimes the truth hurts.
NOW! Remember about little white lies, There is a difference between an opinion and a lie- so in the case of a wmoan asking me about her appearance,
She could look amazing in my eyes, but terrible in her mothers. So me saying she looks great or that she looks terrible is only an opinion of the situation, and I don't think that is really what she is asking.
Does she look appropriate for the event and is the dress (or whatever) wrinkled, does she not look sloppy. That is the hidden question I would be answering.