I really don't mind being single

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roaringkitten

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God clearly shows in the Word(as others here have alluded to already) that some are called for singleness and some are not.....It's a blessing either way.

Looking at Scriptures as a whole is a good strategy in understanding the Word of God.

"Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." 2 Timothy 2:15
 
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eagleheart

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What I post on this forum,

The sheep will say bahhhhhhhhh

The goats will say but but but

2 Timothy 2:23
 
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bamberoons

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eagleheart said:
What I post on this forum,

The sheep will say bahhhhhhhhh

The goats will say but but but

2 Timothy 2:23
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Lol eagleheart... you twist the words of the bible to suit your opinion, you are then justifiably questioned by your peers... and this is the best response you could come up with?

mmmmmmmmmhmmm... k!
 
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roaringkitten

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"But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes. And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient" 2 Timothy 2:23-24

Putting 2 Timothy into context, this is talking about those who willingly argue for the sake of creating strife. We may disagree, but as servants we need to keep in mind who our master is, and that we are to teach in GENTLENESS and PATIENCE....
 
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roaringkitten

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A passage about goats and sheep can be found in Matthew 25.
 
Pheonix

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My ex and I met in high school at a time when I needed someone. it lasted about five years, but as we went to college, the "socks" began to not match quite so well. Its like two white socks started changing colours, mine got red strips hers went green.

While I don't really mind being alone, and I'm usually an alone sort of person, there are times as I get older that I find it hard to be alone. Especially after a hard day or week at work. I think the thing I miss most is having someone to talk to, and share life with.

This is going to sound like a personal add right now, but that isn't what I intend. I personally am looking for someone whom I can talk to about everything, no matter how embarrasing. I've had lots of time to think, and when the bible talks about "leaving father and mother and cleaving unto his wife" or "the two shall become one", what its really saying is, that we are to share our souls with the other person. If you can't do that for one reason or another, then the relationship isn't right.

Its better to be alone than in a terrible Marriage because you were in a hurry.

That's just my own humble opinion of course. Please feel free to poke holes in it.
 
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roaringkitten

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Its better to be alone than in a terrible Marriage because you were in a hurry.

I agree 1000%!!!
 
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bamberoons

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Pheonix I really like what you had to write and the heart you put into it.

Been down the bad marriage road and I can honestly say from experience you hit the nail on the head when you said the second to last line... exactly!

Pheonix said:
My ex and I met in high school at a time when I needed someone. it lasted about five years, but as we went to college, the "socks" began to not match quite so well. Its like two white socks started changing colours, mine got red strips hers went green.

While I don't really mind being alone, and I'm usually an alone sort of person, there are times as I get older that I find it hard to be alone. Especially after a hard day or week at work. I think the thing I miss most is having someone to talk to, and share life with.

This is going to sound like a personal add right now, but that isn't what I intend. I personally am looking for someone whom I can talk to about everything, no matter how embarrasing. I've had lots of time to think, and when the bible talks about "leaving father and mother and cleaving unto his wife" or "the two shall become one", what its really saying is, that we are to share our souls with the other person. If you can't do that for one reason or another, then the relationship isn't right.

Its better to be alone than in a terrible Marriage because you were in a hurry.

That's just my own humble opinion of course. Please feel free to poke holes in it.
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worldlover

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I totally agree with you dude!being single is advantageous like me lol
 
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sweetnshy

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I've had people tell me lots of times that being single has all kinds of advantages: more freedom, more time to focus on God, fewer distractions. This amazes me because I feel like the complete opposite is true. As a single person, I have to earn all the money, do all the cooking, all the housework, run all the errands, pay all the bills, and make all the decisions by myself. Now don't get me wrong--I know marriage comes with its own set of problems, and I'm not trying to say that marriage is easy. But at least if you're married, there are two people who can share the load and help each other. And people say "Well you're not doing it all by yourself, God helps you." Which is true, but the thing is, God can't do the dishes for me while I clear the table, and God can't start dinner while I run to the grocery store, and God can't pay the bills for me while I take care of housework. He can just give me the strength to do it all on my own. For all of you who feel like being single gives you lots of freedom and time to focus on you and focus on God, I wish I could experience that, but I don't really know how you do that when you have to take care of everything on your own.
 
MahogonySnail

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The question is does the other person in a marriage always share the load? From experience with house mates, having more people doesn't necessarily mean less work, actually can be more work. With marriage there's twice as many dishes, food, shopping, and twice as much mess. Unless you make your spouse eat tins of sardines from a disposable plastic bowl on the floor. It's all relative.
 
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sweetnshy

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lol, right, and I wasn't meaning to say that marriage makes all of that easier. It's just I think that people have this assumption that singleness gives you more free time and you can go out anytime you want and that it's easier to focus on God. Maybe that's true for someone who's 18 or in college, but once you're an adult and you're living on your own and supporting yourself, I feel like that advantage no longer applies. It gets frustrating hearing that from married people because they either married young and never had to experience what it was like to support yourself and do it all on your own, or they've forgotten how that felt. Oh, and if I do ever get married, I'm gonna remember the tip about eatng sardines from a bowl on the floor. ;-)
 
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AwakendAsALover

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"singleness" will always be a topic..hence the population of single people is maybe just as large as the married population. I dont think marriage is a bad thing..i think relationships are meant to be awesome..i think where people can err is the one on acting on impatience...even if we meet the right person..we may still have to be patient for everything to be worked out...and we waste away the present in our impatience...there is nothing absolutely nothing wrong in my opinion to desire a relationship because God created our desires and put them there..but i think that of course getting into an unhealthy relationship is not the answer to that..well hey everything is a learning experience, even the unhealthy relationships cause us to grow..but i dont think we should look for those of course..but either way we should learn to have fun in our lives and when we feel the ache of lonliness..feel that ache and give it to God...let Him take the ache and give us peace...when it comes...and believe me it will come...even the toughest people on earth i believe experience that from time to time...i see so many articles almost chastising singles for this ache in the heart..it is a real legitimate ache and only God himself can ease it...so feel the ache.....! and let God touch it and take it from you! Get yourself ready for marriage...learn to cook..handle your finances..spruce yourself up...so when the right person comes along and they wil...ull get to enjoy each other and each others company..get out of there and live your life so you can share those stories with them when you meet them...get out there and live..do something radical or not so they can be taken aback with how interesting and awesome you really are..cause you are awesome and what spouse doesnt want someone awesome?????more to comment later..
 
jaylynn83

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MahogonySnail said:
The question is does the other person in a marriage always share the load? From experience with house mates, having more people doesn't necessarily mean less work, actually can be more work. With marriage there's twice as many dishes, food, shopping, and twice as much mess. Unless you make your spouse eat tins of sardines from a disposable plastic bowl on the floor. It's all relative.
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I truly believe this is how the lord intended it. Sardines are the food of love. So why shouldnt we sit on the floor with the one we love eating foul smelling fish, that actually make you feel quite nauseous. Scratch that... maybe one of you should eat the sardines while the other holds your hair back while your puking in the toilet......... nothing says love better than that.
 
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Bianca33

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sweetnshy said:
well you all are lucky......I've been single my entire life, so really I should be used to it by now and not mind it so much. But it seems like the older I get, the harder it is, especially considering that I really want to have kids and there's only so many years that women can have babies before all of the risks and complications go up. I know God is in control and that if it's His will for me to ever get married, it will happen, but I feel like it's hopeless for me to even meet anybody. I kind of feel like if I get married at all, it won't be until I'm a lot older, and it's just discouraging to think about spending the next 20 or 30 (or more) years all alone.
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I understand what you are saying here, because I feel the same way, but I'm a little shocked that you feel this way at what, 25 yeas of age? I'm 40, and I don't have children yet, and I STILL have time. They'll come, trust me. You have lots of time to form a good family. Don't rush, find the right guy FIRST. And don't worry about spending the next 20 or 30 years alone. Honey, I did, and I LOVED, LOVED, every minute of it. I don't regret my life, the good friends I made, and the places I traveled to, the sights I've seen, the boyfriends I've had. LIVE! LIVE! LIVE! You are SOOOOOOOOOOOOO young still, and GOD is with you. You are NOT alone, ever. Be happy and live, and don't stress so much about having kids right now that you'll give in to the first schmo that is just half-way decent. Make sure you get a partner that is the one GOD wants for you to have kids with. LOL! HUGS!!!!!!
 
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missy2shoes

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......being single no longer bothers me :)
 
Pheonix

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sweetnshy said:
I've had people tell me lots of times that being single has all kinds of advantages: more freedom, more time to focus on God, fewer distractions. This amazes me because I feel like the complete opposite is true. As a single person, I have to earn all the money, do all the cooking, all the housework, run all the errands, pay all the bills, and make all the decisions by myself. Now don't get me wrong--I know marriage comes with its own set of problems, and I'm not trying to say that marriage is easy. But at least if you're married, there are two people who can share the load and help each other. And people say "Well you're not doing it all by yourself, God helps you." Which is true, but the thing is, God can't do the dishes for me while I clear the table, and God can't start dinner while I run to the grocery store, and God can't pay the bills for me while I take care of housework. He can just give me the strength to do it all on my own. For all of you who feel like being single gives you lots of freedom and time to focus on you and focus on God, I wish I could experience that, but I don't really know how you do that when you have to take care of everything on your own.
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I agree completely here! Well said.
 
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