God gave a wife to a man as a help meat, he did not tell her to shut up, they were to become one, man may have been given the responsibility so he is held to a higher standard, but any man that does not allow a woman to speak into his life, and listen to her guidance is a fool.
In my household we have equal say, if we can not come to an agreement, we figure god has not blessed it, so we do not do it.
That has happened maybe twice in the last 12 years, since we pray and seek gods will, most of the time, we come to an agreement, and even prayer f we are not 100%, we love each other enough to give in on things which will not hurt us, or bring us down.