Hello,
I having some trouble with my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five years now, we live together, and recently things haven't been great, or at least as good as they once were. I thought it was just the end of the honeymoon phase and all that, but now I'm not so sure. I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend was watching porn/viewing nudes on the internet.
Now, I was flabbergasted. I didn't know what to say. I only come preprogrammed with sitcom knowledge and unfortunately Full house never dealt with this.
My boyfriend however was inconsolable. He started crying. I thought he was going to have a stroke the way he was going on. He said what he was doing was cheating. I, still too much in shock to be mad or really any emotion, said I wasn't sure it was the same thing. he assured me it was. I asked him how if in his mind this was cheating, how could he do that.
His answer was insufficient. He was weak, yada yada.
After a long discussion, He told me he would make a promise to me and to God, that he would never do this again. And I encouraged him to read his Bible, and view other christian websites of people who might have gone through something like this before.
Time passed, and I asked him how he was doing with temptation etc, he said He had made his promise to me, to God, and he had not failed in his endeavor. That I could even look at his phone history if I wanted.
In the back of my mind I thought, well surely if you're offering you're at the least smart enough to have deleted any evidence.
Long story short, he in fact wasn't smart enough to delete his internet history.
He looked me in the eye and lied to me. He broke his covenant with God. And now I'm wondering, What am I supposed to do about it? I don't know who else to turn to, as I find this whole thing rather embarassing. So now, armed with the anomynity of the internet, I ask you, What do I do now?
Am I over dramatizing the whole thing?
Should this be where we part ways?
I'm out of my wheelhouse here people, please and thank yous in advance!
Bmerry
I having some trouble with my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five years now, we live together, and recently things haven't been great, or at least as good as they once were. I thought it was just the end of the honeymoon phase and all that, but now I'm not so sure. I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend was watching porn/viewing nudes on the internet.
Now, I was flabbergasted. I didn't know what to say. I only come preprogrammed with sitcom knowledge and unfortunately Full house never dealt with this.
My boyfriend however was inconsolable. He started crying. I thought he was going to have a stroke the way he was going on. He said what he was doing was cheating. I, still too much in shock to be mad or really any emotion, said I wasn't sure it was the same thing. he assured me it was. I asked him how if in his mind this was cheating, how could he do that.
His answer was insufficient. He was weak, yada yada.
After a long discussion, He told me he would make a promise to me and to God, that he would never do this again. And I encouraged him to read his Bible, and view other christian websites of people who might have gone through something like this before.
Time passed, and I asked him how he was doing with temptation etc, he said He had made his promise to me, to God, and he had not failed in his endeavor. That I could even look at his phone history if I wanted.
In the back of my mind I thought, well surely if you're offering you're at the least smart enough to have deleted any evidence.
Long story short, he in fact wasn't smart enough to delete his internet history.
He looked me in the eye and lied to me. He broke his covenant with God. And now I'm wondering, What am I supposed to do about it? I don't know who else to turn to, as I find this whole thing rather embarassing. So now, armed with the anomynity of the internet, I ask you, What do I do now?
Am I over dramatizing the whole thing?
Should this be where we part ways?
I'm out of my wheelhouse here people, please and thank yous in advance!
Bmerry
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