Do you find it hard to be "just friends" with people of the opposite sex?

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tourist

tourist

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seoulsearch said:
Seoul is no one's girl, but thank you for thinking of, and mentioning me. :)

I guess I should clear up all the rumors while I have a chance.

I am not dating Lynx.

I am not dating Tommy.

And, for all the really old timers here, I am not, and was never dating Catherder.

They're all cool guys whom I banter with here well, but no, I am not, have not been, and do not plan on dating any of them.

Instead of going down the list of guys that others have said I was dating over my going-on 10 years here on CC, it's just easier for me to say, "No, I am not dating anyone. And, unless I myself--me, myself, or I--specifically state that I like someone and/or am dating them, please DO NOT believe anything that anyone else might say about my personal life."

I know it's crazy, but I actually have the nerve to think that I know more about my own life than other people. o_O

This has been an official Public Service Announcement about The Life of Seoul--thank you very much for listening. (y)
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I always like Catherder and found him interesting and often amusing. He always treated me respectfully that was reflective of his character.
 
Tommy379

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LaVieEnRose said:
Oh, well I’ve not been pulled over that much. The stupid DOT changed the speed limit on our road from 55 to 45, and I still drive 65. The last time I got pulled over was for failing to make a complete stop at a stop sign.
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You need to quit that, and pay attention. You ain't the only one on the road.
 
seoulsearch

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LaVieEnRose said:
The very wicked side of me enjoys rattling your cage by shipping you. Don’t be mad, take it as a compliment.

Everyone shipped my with Lynx, and it was funny for all (except Lynx).
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Don't worry, you don't rattle my cage. It takes a lot more than that to shake my rattle. ;)

Lynx is one of my best friends here and has been for years, and I talk to him regularly.

We couldn't care less if people ship us together.

However... I myself (speaking only for myself, not for Lynx) WILL step in to make sure people aren't making false assumptions that our friendship is anything more than that. And as all could see in my previous post, I will do the same regarding any guy people seem to think I might be dating and am not (I want to spare him the hassle.)

I'm perfectly fine with joking around, but I'm also adamant that people know it's just a joke and not a springboard for a rumor mill.
 
Tommy379

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seoulsearch said:
Don't worry, you don't rattle my cage. It takes a lot more than that to shake my rattle. ;)

Lynx is one of my best friends here and has been for years, and I talk to him regularly.

We couldn't care less if people ship us together.

However... I myself (speaking only for myself, not for Lynx) WILL step in to make sure people aren't making false assumptions that our friendship is anything more than that. And as all could see in my previous post, I will do the same regarding any guy people seem to think I might be dating and am not (I want to spare him the hassle.)

I'm perfectly fine with joking around, but I'm also adamant that people know it's just a joke and not a springboard for a rumor mill.
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I have a bad reputation to uphold. I can't have people thinking I'm locked down.
 
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I’ve never gotten a ticket. My dad told us kids whenever we got our drivers licenses that he was expecting NOT to see ANY of our names on a ticket on his desk. I took that mighty seriously. Still do.👼lol.
 
tourist

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LaVieEnRose said:
Oh, well I’ve not been pulled over that much. The stupid DOT changed the speed limit on our road from 55 to 45, and I still drive 65. The last time I got pulled over was for failing to make a complete stop at a stop sign.
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I got pulled over for that last year but was not given a ticket. The officer asked to see my license, ran it through the computer, gave it back to me and told me to have a good afternoon. No ticket. Usually I make it a point to come to a complete stop but got a little sloppy that one time.
 
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seoulsearch said:
Don't worry, you don't rattle my cage. It takes a lot more than that to shake my rattle. ;)

Lynx is one of my best friends here and has been for years, and I talk to him regularly.

We couldn't care less if people ship us together.

However... I myself (speaking only for myself, not for Lynx) WILL step in to make sure people aren't making false assumptions that our friendship is anything more than that. And as all could see in my previous post, I will do the same regarding any guy people seem to think I might be dating and am not (I want to spare him the hassle.)

I'm perfectly fine with joking around, but I'm also adamant that people know it's just a joke and not a springboard for a rumor mill.
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In my defense, I shipped you two in a shipping thread- it seemed to me that you two are compatible. Another user speculated you two were dating for real, and I said maybe you were.

I guess it is safe to reveal to the group that Tommy and I have been serious for four years, now. I am the scarlet woman and the reason why his marriage failed. A femme fatale, if you please.
 
seoulsearch

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LaVieEnRose said:
In my defense, I shipped you two in a shipping thread- it seemed to me that you two are compatible. Another user speculated you two were dating for real, and I said maybe you were.
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No worries, Gal.

Like I said, I've been here for nearly a decade. With all the things I've seen and dealt with here (and am still learning everyday), it takes a heck of a lot more than someone shipping me up with one of my guy friends to get me riled up (and remember, multiple people shipped me with Zero in that thread as well--another guy friend, so I certainly didn't care about you and several other people shipping me with Lynx.)

However, when people start to speculate and possibly reinforce the idea of something that is not at all true, this is when rumors start, and often grow into unsavory things.

Now, I like to read in the threads about what people think I am or am not doing just as much as anyone else, because apparently, I'm unable to decide for myself. ;) Usually, I just let things slide, and I don't catch everything that's said.

But if people are starting to turn false assumptions into what could be interpreted as truth, that is the point where I will step in if I can and make the necessary corrections about what is and what is NOT true about my own life.

I'd rather be open and just put it out there rather than allow others to decide for me--THAT is what made me speak up (the notion that Lynx and I "might" be dating or "are probably already" together--and NOT just people shipping me with Lynx out of good fun.
 
melita916

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i shipped myself with pizza.

i've been stopped by a cop. i was driving 80 in a 60 lol. instead of a ticket, he gave me defensive driving since it was my 1st time violation. according to my friends, i should have told him my sister is a cop, and he would have let me go. i will never know now lol.

anywho.... what are we talking about?
 
Tommy379

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LaVieEnRose said:
In my defense, I shipped you two in a shipping thread- it seemed to me that you two are compatible. Another user speculated you two were dating for real, and I said maybe you were.

I guess it is safe to reveal to the group that Tommy and I have been serious for four years, now. I am the scarlet woman and the reason why his marriage failed. A femme fatale, if you please.
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I can see now, you'd make a terrible side piece.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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Tommy379 said:
I can see now, you'd make a terrible side piece.
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I’m too bossy and not submissive. I’d scratch the other woman’s eyes out and yank every hair out of her head. I’m white trash, after all.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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melita916 said:
i shipped myself with pizza.

i've been stopped by a cop. i was driving 80 in a 60 lol. instead of a ticket, he gave me defensive driving since it was my 1st time violation. according to my friends, i should have told him my sister is a cop, and he would have let me go. i will never know now lol.

anywho.... what are we talking about?
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Who knows?
 
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WineRose said:
Okay, what's even going on now? :/
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Oh- I just alienated half the forum. My toxicity may have driven Tinuviel away. 😔

I’m feeling guilty. I think I’ll post an apology thread. No one will believe me, because I go back to being a jerk again.
 
tourist

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LaVieEnRose said:
Oh- I just alienated half the forum. My toxicity may have driven Tinuviel away. 😔

I’m feeling guilty. I think I’ll post an apology thread. No one will believe me, because I go back to being a jerk again.
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I apologize to someone at least once a month. There are some peeps that don't quite get my quirky amusing side. On these types of posts I usually include a smiley but there are those that still take offense at my twisted attempts at humor. Go figure. :)
 
Demi777

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LaVieEnRose said:
What would you do if you fell in love with a man and your friendship with this guy made your lover insecure? Would you sever ties with your friend or with your lover?
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I am in a situation like that. I simply loosened the ties with my friend a bit and had a good long conversation with my sweety.
 
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