till death do us part...BUT divorce is unacceptable??

[BillG]

what does God think about divorce? does he accept it? should I continue on with a marriage that is chaotic? why should i continue on living with a person who does not accept me, love me, and cares for me??

Marriage is always chaotic.
Even more so if we have kids.

Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

Ephesians 5:25
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Yet we find that the wife is not called to not do the same.

Ephesians 5:22-24

Marriage—Christ and the Church
(cf. Col. 3:18, 19)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

The thing is it can be subjective when it comes to accept me, love me and care for me.
I could say that because I don't have a work shirt for tomorrow then my wife does not care for me or love me.

If I come home and the dishwasher is not done and I have to do it then she is not loving me because I have been at work all day as she has not.

What I find interesting is your point "She does not care for me"

What is it you want her to care for you?

 

[microxaen]

The reason why Im asking this is because I'm in a bible study group and we were talking about marriage and divorce and what I have heard is that divorce is unacceptable to God. If so, should i continue on with this marriage 'till death do us part?'

 

[Dino246]

The reason why Im asking this is because I'm in a bible study group and we were talking about marriage and divorce and what I have heard is that divorce is unacceptable to God. If so, should i continue on with this marriage 'till death do us part?'

Divorce is not "unacceptable" to God; that's a misconception, though a reasonable one. Scripture states clearly that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) but it also states that He gave Israel a certificate of divorce (Jeremiah 3:8).

Scripture does give some limited parameters within which divorce is "acceptable", though it is never "necessary". I would encourage you to make use of an exhaustive concordance and do some prayerful research. There is one available at BibleGateway.com.

 

[tourist]

What I find interesting is your point "She does not care for me"

What is it you want her to care for you?

That is the key question.

 

[Lanolin]

The reason why Im asking this is because I'm in a bible study group and we were talking about marriage and divorce and what I have heard is that divorce is unacceptable to God. If so, should i continue on with this marriage 'till death do us part?'

Yep that's the deal YOU made. When you said your vows. Unless you were lying about them. Your wife also said the same vows didnt she?

 

[JohnRH]

The reason why Im asking this is because I'm in a bible study group and we were talking about marriage and divorce and what I have heard is that divorce is unacceptable to God. If so, should i continue on with this marriage 'till death do us part?'

Yes.
... or if your spouse's unrepentant fornication do you part.
... or if the unbelieving spouse's departing do you part.

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to
commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another,
committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God
hath called us to peace.

 

[JohnRH]

what does God think about divorce? does he accept it? should I continue on with a marriage that is chaotic? why should i continue on living with a person who does not accept me, love me, and cares for me??

Ask not what your spouse can do for you, but what you can do for your spouse.
I don't know if you're the husband or the wife, but these admonitions address each. Each addressee is told what to give to, not what to get from his/her spouse:

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

 

[FollowHisSteps]

what does God think about divorce? does he accept it? should I continue on with a marriage that is chaotic? why should i continue on living with a person who does not accept me, love me, and cares for me??

This is a difficult question to answer.
We are commanded to love people.
Paul said if one is married to an unbeliever, it is fine to divorce them if they cannot accept ones position.

In an abusive relationship, this is the equivalent to adultery, dishonouring someone you should love and are for.
What makes things more complex is the emotions and things that tie one together are often deeper, and
more inter dependent. A trial separation can often start to work through what is abuse and what is antagonism
and what is call co-dependency. If co-dependency, punishment, pain and not just from one party to the other,
but interwoven. One bad side of abuse is manipulative personalities can devalue someone so badly they feel
blame and such a low view of their self worth they believe they cannot exist without their partner.

Because of the above complexities, finding counsellors really does help. God bless you.

 

[Alfred1963]

what does God think about divorce? does he accept it? should I continue on with a marriage that is chaotic? why should i continue on living with a person who does not accept me, love me, and cares for me??

You may not have to continue to live with that person. Yes. You might be able to get a divorce and still be right with God. But here's the catch: Only God can create or dissolve a marriage.

Are you certain it was God's will to marry your husband? Are you certain it is God's will that you either stay in your marriage or get a divorce?

Before all the judgements start on my previous statement...

Christians need to accept that divorce, in and of itself, is not a sin. Being out of God's will is a sin. Getting married without God's blessing is just as much a sin as getting a divorce without first being led on the matter by God. Yes. God does allow divorce. He did twice in the Old Testament: Ezra and Hosea.

If you are considering divorce, I would highly recommend this new book: When God Allows Divorce.
Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VD1181...llows+divorce&qid=1563736486&s=gateway&sr=8-1

You have to examine yourself and draw closer to the Lord at this crucial crossroads in your life. And don't let anyone tell you that divorce is never an option. People get married out of God's will, and people get divorced out of God's will. So why are Christians so set against one instead of both?

God bless you.

Sincerely, a brother in Christ.