Discipline your Child!

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Ramon

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Children don't have to be taught what is evil to do it. They have to be taught what is good. Because, everyone was born in sin and everyone was shaped in iniquity. This is why the Lord knew that from youth the heart of man is evil.

If you do not train your children up in the way they should go, then you are training your child to serve sin and you are responsible for leading your children to hell. There is nothing wrong with whipping children, and Satan has used even laws of this country to say you cannot or else you may be tried as an abuser. The rod is good in saving their souls from hell. If you chastise them you keep them from death.

In the same way, the children of God are chastised so that they will escape death. I thank the Lord that he loves me enough to not let me end up in hell. And Jesus Christ is The Way you should train your children in. He is the one who can save us from death. Yes, even though we walk through the valley of the shadow of Death we will fear no evil, his rod and his staff they comfort us!!!

The rod of a shepherd is to steer the sheep in the right direction so that they do not stray from the fold, and go off, and be devoured by wolves.

Jesus Christ is the Good Shepherd who gave his life for his sheep, and was like a lamb lead to the slaughter, like an innocent lamb in the midst of blood thirsty wolves.
 
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sarri

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agree, and raised three kids with the same. was i popular? not at all, was god glorified and obeyed? absolutly!
 
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wwjd_kilden

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My mother managed quite fine to raise me not to sin without "whipping" me thankyouwerymuch ....

Discipline does not have to equal violence. and yes, I count hitting as violence no matter who does it and why
 
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Must have belt.
 
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choZn

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I believe you must discipline your children with love. A spanking is permissable but should never be done in anger or excess. We should demonstrate not only discipline to our children, but also the same love, compassion, and tender hearted mercy and forgiveness that our heavenly Father demonstrates to us. There are other measures of discipline that work greater in most cases without resorting to physical punishment. It is a loving and wise parent who realizes this.
 
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ChristianTeen

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I completely disagree with physical punishments. Hitting a child when you are angry only teaches them to hit someone when they are angry. Even if they don't hit you (as the parent), they are taught to hit someone (or something) else when they are angry. There are many ways to teach them the same thing, without getting physically aggressive. And personally, from my expirence at home, parents who constantly beat their children for things they do wrong, tend to feel powerful over them. In a way they are no matter what, but this power can be very easily misused or abused. The parents can very easily turn on their children for the smallest things and beat them for it just because that it how they choose to 'discipline' them. (This happened many times in my family and still does. Something as small as the child not helping clean up the kitchen after a meal one night, gained them a severe physical punishment.) Personally, I consider this abuse. There are so many other ways to teach discipline.
 
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dmdave17

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I raised two daughters who turned out pretty well. I didn't always set a great example, but I always "preached" Christian values. (Yes. I was a hypocrite and a sinner.) I don't believe that I ever hit them, but I did show them the "wooden spoon" a few times.

In spite of my own shortcomings, I believe that parents lead best who lead by example. I guess that would include resorting to physical punishment in only the rarest of situations.
 
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Ramon

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The Rod is for instruction and correction. Because of sin a child does not understand the purpose of the Rod. The Rod is for comfort, in that it shows the care of the shepherd to keep his sheep in line, so that they do not go off to be devoured by wolves. In the same way not sparing the Rod will keep a child's soul from hell. Do not spare the Rod.
 
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Crazy4GODword

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there is a difference between abuse and Discipline. Abuse is wrong but Discipline must take action.....how can one learn without it..people might be led away into evil if Discipline was not in use. Discipline makes perfect or close to it, No Discipline then No acknowledgment of wrong doing.

aleichem shalom
 
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wwjd_kilden

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it is fully possible to dicipline a child without hitting them....
 
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Ramon

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wwjd_kilden said:
it is fully possible to dicipline a child without hitting them....
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This is amazing, I was just lead here:

Pro 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
 
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Bunce3

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im a 16 yr old nd i hav been disciplined by my parents from a young age, yes i may hav hated it at the time but i know tht it moulds me nd makes me in2 a betta person... in my opinion parents hav a very difficult job ( i hav obviously had no experience) nd they need to base their parenthood on the perfect father, God.
 
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I know I won't be a fan of physically disciplining my kids in the future. Some psychological tests have shown that people who were physically disciplined (not abused) as children are more likely to be physically abusive, aggressive or violent in adulthood.

If you HAVE TO do so, do it with care and only in the utmost necessary moments. Always or almost always using physical discipline can give your child the impression that hitting/slapping is the only way to deal with being upset.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Ramon said:
This is amazing, I was just lead here:

Pro 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
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chasten yes, NOT hit

if you hit your child and tell him not to hit others? what will he learn? what you tell him or what you do?
 
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Ramon

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FSUBoy966 said:
I know I won't be a fan of physically disciplining my kids in the future. Some psychological tests have shown that people who were physically disciplined (not abused) as children are more likely to be physically abusive, aggressive or violent in adulthood.

If you HAVE TO do so, do it with care and only in the utmost necessary moments. Always or almost always using physical discipline can give your child the impression that hitting/slapping is the only way to deal with being upset.
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What these tests show is only that Satan is abusive aggressive and violent. Tests have nothing to do with God. You can't fight Satan with mind games. As the rod is for the chastening of the flesh unto obedience, so is The Rod for chastening of the Spirit unto obedience. If you spare the Rod you spoil the child. And God does not deal with spoiled people.
 
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AnandaHya

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Ramon said:
What these tests show is only that Satan is abusive aggressive and violent. Tests have nothing to do with God. You can't fight Satan with mind games. As the rod is for the chastening of the flesh unto obedience, so is The Rod for chastening of the Spirit unto obedience. If you spare the Rod you spoil the child. And God does not deal with spoiled people.
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I'm sorry i think God deals with spoiled people all the time. Personally i don't think the problem is whether or not you beat your child but more the lack of understanding of what Divine Love is.

You don't hear about Jesus going around physically beating people, but He did carry a sword of Truth and He cut through peoples lies with His Words. We as parents should discipline our kids. If we have to get physical to get their attention, then we are justified in doing so. God often gets physical with us to get our attention. Sometimes disaster has to befall a believer before they realize they need to change and move closer to God. Crisis is a time when you either move closer or farther away from God. If you see the shadow of an anvil dropping on your current location, you should move or pay the consequences. I believe that if you communicate with your children the consequences of their action or in some case inaction, the shadow that tells them that punishment is coming might be enough to get them to do what they are suppose to do. God sends us warnings when we first think about doing wrong, that if we weren't in such a hurry we might hear and heed those warnings. We tell kids not to touch hot objects, but do they always listen?

We should discipline our children as God disciplines us with love and understanding being the basis of action or punishment. We do not act out of rage or selfish pride, we act to teach and educate our kids on the path they should follow with many warnings before physical punishment is implement.

I've always had nightmares when I think about doing something selfish at the cost of someone else. I'm placed in their shoes in those dreams and its not so nice. We should be careful about giving demons and the devil too much power and credit, remember always that The Holy Spirit that lives within us is more powerful then anything that is of this world. If God is with us, then who can stand against us? We trust God with our lives, shouldn't we be able to trust Him also with our children and their future? Faith.
 
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Ramon

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AnandaHya said:
I'm sorry i think God deals with spoiled people all the time. Personally i don't think the problem is whether or not you beat your child but more the lack of understanding of what Divine Love is.

You don't hear about Jesus going around physically beating people, but He did carry a sword of Truth and He cut through peoples lies with His Words. We as parents should discipline our kids. If we have to get physical to get their attention, then we are justified in doing so. God often gets physical with us to get our attention. Sometimes disaster has to befall a believer before they realize they need to change and move closer to God. Crisis is a time when you either move closer or farther away from God. If you see the shadow of an anvil dropping on your current location, you should move or pay the consequences. I believe that if you communicate with your children the consequences of their action or in some case inaction, the shadow that tells them that punishment is coming might be enough to get them to do what they are suppose to do. God sends us warnings when we first think about doing wrong, that if we weren't in such a hurry we might hear and heed those warnings. We tell kids not to touch hot objects, but do they always listen?

We should discipline our children as God disciplines us with love and understanding being the basis of action or punishment. We do not act out of rage or selfish pride, we act to teach and educate our kids on the path they should follow with many warnings before physical punishment is implement.

I've always had nightmares when I think about doing something selfish at the cost of someone else. I'm placed in their shoes in those dreams and its not so nice. We should be careful about giving demons and the devil too much power and credit, remember always that The Holy Spirit that lives within us is more powerful then anything that is of this world. If God is with us, then who can stand against us? We trust God with our lives, shouldn't we be able to trust Him also with our children and their future? Faith.
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Amen! Yes my sister, he does give us the understanding of ''Action or Punishment.'' This is why wisdom and understanding come from the fear of God, to keep his commands. And to hate evil. Amen! Just as the Holy Spirit teaches us to educate them on the path they Should follow, as he also teaches us on the path we should follow Which is the Way of Jesus Christ!!
 
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