I see what you're saying Garee and don't think i can argue against what you said purely on the nature of the flesh, body although God is in it!
I think the symbol is of Mary being a visible form of the Holy Spirit just as Jesus is of the Father. Any glorification of Mary as a mere human would be a problem, she has to embody something truly divine, where one begins the other ends
This helps avoid the false new age doctrine the Holy Spirit is a force which i see is an attack on Christianity (and a gigantic failure found in the church sometimes! Leading to spiritual adultery), or as inanimate 'love' is another one they do which is at least partly true but still in error
So the idea of Mary gives flesh to our own understanding of the Holy Spirit. Mary is not 'needed' for this but serves as a thought
The incarnation is a genuine mystery like all birth is and being born again is
But it all has to lead to Jesus to be worthwhile
The marian apparitions are indeed real. The marian ghosts, however, do not bring glory to God, she brings glory to her self. look at all her statues and shrines. it is all idolatry. im sorry this is offensive. but i feel you may never been told it this way before
No offence taken it's quite ok, i'm used to it
If you look at those shrines and statues they were all built by men but if you look at the character of Mary portrayed she is not seeking her own glory. Compare this with the character of man, such as leaders in churches. Do they seek their own glory or receive it or misuse their power? Sure they do sometimes!
It does also help to see the feminine side of God also does exist which no-one needs Mary for either she just makes it more obvious we have Father and Mother, and all this is Jewish and nothing new