"It is not a matter of not forgiving it is a matter of whom I follow. I am not a citizen of anything less than the Kingdom of God with the King, Jesus-Yeshua."
His goal should be my goal.
If we are His, His goal is our goal, we are no longer our own, and He works through people. This end time harvest will be of people. I see you went back to using, "I cannot", showing not being conformed to the His will. This is required for all of us.
I learned this working with inmates in a corrections setting, using cannot in place of the true "will not" shows an area of personal growth and acceptance of personal responsibility that is required of us to grow to achieve.
All sins are just as bad as any other, to point at one persons and believe our own are less wrong misses the mark, we are ALL by default worthy of hellfire by being born in sin.