Men or Women?

[Lion222]

Apart from the not having sex part who do you think is happier being single?

 

[TheIndianGirl]

Hard to say. I believe single women generally have a larger social network, so I think they will be happier.

 

[tourist]

Apart from the not having sex part who do you think is happier being single?

A lot of single people engage in sex. As far as being happy single, that depends on the individual and various circumstances.

 

[Lanolin]

if you are into stats you could do a quantitative assessment on CC singles forum. divide all the thread posts by gender and count them into happy ones and unhappy ones.

Get back to us on the results. Make sure you put it into an infographic like bar graphs and pie charts.

For a control count unhappy/happy ones on the married forums too. I dont know how long CC has been going but you could have at least ten years worth of data.

Pew Research will be happy to recruit you.

 

[Oncefallen]

For a control count unhappy/happy ones on the married forums too. I dont know how long CC has been going but you could have at least ten years worth of data.

Quite a bit more than 10 years, Our oldest existent thread in Singles dates back to January of 2009.

As for the thread topic, I think it (by far) is more dependent on personality type than gender.

 

[p_rehbein]

Quite a bit more than 10 years, Our oldest existent thread in Singles dates back to January of 2009.

As for the thread topic, I think it (by far) is more dependent on personality type than gender.

OR, how much access one has to chocolate

 

[Just_Jo]

IMO...men
They don't have emotional baggage women do.

 

[kinda]

This thread is a battle of the sexist, which doesn't really build each other up.

Whether male or female, we can all worship God being single, or married.

 

[Lynx]

IMO...men
They don't have emotional baggage women do.

Sure they do. They just handle it different. Women handle it by talking about it. Men handle it by consciously not thinking about it.

Quite a bit more than 10 years, Our oldest existent thread in Singles dates back to January of 2009.

As for the thread topic, I think it (by far) is more dependent on personality type than gender.

Yup. I know a lot of happy single men, but I also know a lot of happy single women. I also know a few unhappy single men, and a few unhappy single women... I don't know a lot of the unhappy ones because I don't try to maintain communication with them, because they are big grumps. But gender doesn't seem to have anything to do with it.

 

[cinder]

Apart from the not having sex part who do you think is happier being single?

Why does it matter? If we're single we pretty much have to find ways to be content with it or change it ( or a bit of both) or just sit around and wallow in misery (which isn't any fun at all).



BTW the answer is: it's a toss up between me and Lynx. We're both pretty happy being single.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I'd definitely say women because they have more things to keep them busy like cooking, cleaning, scrapbooking, reading, crochetng, gardening, arts & crafts, watching chick flicks, window shopping, entertaining guests, decorating, journaling, meditating, yoga, etc...
Men mostly just have video games, watching sports and taking naps.

 

[Lynx]

BTW the answer is: it's a toss up between me and Lynx. We're both pretty happy being single.

Who would we do the tossup with for being single and miserable?

Wait... never mind. I have a few ideas for both genders, and it would probably be mean to say them. >.>

 

[Lynx]

I'd definitely say women because they have more things to keep them busy like cooking, cleaning, scrapbooking, reading, crochetng, gardening, arts & crafts, watching chick flicks, window shopping, entertaining guests, decorating, journaling, meditating, yoga, etc...
Men mostly just have video games, watching sports and taking naps.

What more do you need?

Right now I'm skulking around NYC, knocking people out with tranq darts while I pursue the mission objective. How can a yoga position compete?

 

[laughingheart]

I think the people who are miserable single might be the same ones who'd complain about their marriages. In either state you can focus on the good or bad parts. It is a choice.

 

[Lynx]

I think the people who are miserable single might be the same ones who'd complain about their marriages. In either state you can focus on the good or bad parts. It is a choice.

Well thanks a lot. That just ruins the pity party I was going to have for myself.

You Pathetic Pity Party Pooper.

But yeah, the grumpy single people REALLY DO NOT want to hear that. They prefer to think it's all bad luck or all bad members of the opposite gender, which gives them license to complain (over and over and over and...)

 

[laughingheart]

Well thanks a lot. That just ruins the pity party I was going to have for myself.

You Pathetic Pity Party Pooper.

But yeah, the grumpy single people REALLY DO NOT want to hear that. They prefer to think it's all bad luck or all bad members of the opposite gender, which gives them license to complain (over and over and over and...)

Sorry you are right. Let me try again, " Why oh why do I have to have the whole closet to myself? The one empty hanger mocks me. Now I have to try to sleep in my quiet room without the sounds of snoring that sound like water buffalo in mating season. How is that fair? Well, since there is no one here who needs me to cook food limited to their latest eating plan, I'll have to pick my own meal. OK this is the final straw. Last night I left my book and embroidery project on the coffee table and look! It is still there. That's it. I'm going to go put on my walking sandals and go for a walk where I want, for how long I want to walk and choose to be in a pleasant mood. Can you believe it?!"
OK Lynx. How was that? @Lynx

 

[Runningman]

I want to say men are happier, but then again I'm biased. Really, it's just that there are pros and cons to marriage and being single. Married people often want their freedom again; single people want companionship again.

I think it's better to remain single and just find a network of friends and family. Marriage is only good if you plan on having kids or don't have self-control, aside from that it's just a friendship. Friendship can be sourced from anyone, making marriage redundant for someone who's just lonely.

 

[cinder]

Marriage is only good if you plan on having kids or don't have self-control, aside from that it's just a friendship. Friendship can be sourced from anyone, making marriage redundant for someone who's just lonely.

Going to have to disagree with this, if marriage was just friendship plus sex then there would be no such concept as emotional cheating and emotional affairs. I think marriage has to be a level of companionship and intimacy beyond friendship at a depth that it is not possible to sustain with multiple people. That whole forsaking all others and till death do us part level of commitment that you just don't quite have in the same way with friends. Friends are great and wonderful and awesome, but they're not spouses and friendship has its limits.

 

[Runningman]

Going to have to disagree with this, if marriage was just friendship plus sex then there would be no such concept as emotional cheating and emotional affairs. I think marriage has to be a level of companionship and intimacy beyond friendship at a depth that it is not possible to sustain with multiple people. That whole forsaking all others and till death do us part level of commitment that you just don't quite have in the same way with friends. Friends are great and wonderful and awesome, but they're not spouses and friendship has its limits.

I disagree with that a married couple need to love each other intensely. If they do that's great, but I don't see it as a prerequisite. I agree with a lifelong commitment to one another, but for me that's what a friendship is. If someone is my friend they have a lifelong companion, a shoulder to lean on, help in time of need, someone to just talk to.

I think we're really just throwing around a lot of ideals. I just don't think a spouse is the only one entitled to being devoted to as if everyone else is to be abandoned.

 

[17Bees]

I disagree with that a married couple need to love each other intensely. If they do that's great, but I don't see it as a prerequisite. I agree with a lifelong commitment to one another, but for me that's what a friendship is. If someone is my friend they have a lifelong companion, a shoulder to lean on, help in time of need, someone to just talk to.

I think we're really just throwing around a lot of ideals. I just don't think a spouse is the only one entitled to being devoted to as if everyone else is to be abandoned.

I don't think Cinder was talking about "intense"love. I think she was talking about eros or romantic love which is definitely a prequesite to marriage as the whole point is to be fruitful and multiply. There is affectionate love or philia that is love without romantic affection which is generally referred to as friendship, but I think romantic love is a must and often blooms into agape or selfless love and pragma or enduring love. These kinds of love are not 'throwing around ideals' any more than you would throw around your spouse or your friend or your family. These feelings of the different kinds of love are projected by your actions.