Well when you accuse your "opponents" of rather unsavory or even heinous behaviors, that's evidence that you've lost the argument.
Yahshua has made some rather insightful (and much needed, I might add) posts.
I'll add my thoughts:
To use examples from the Bible, so many women focus on men such as: David (with regard to Bathsheba), Nabal, Adam, Ahab, Herod the Great, Herod Antipas, Esau, Cain, Ammon, Nimrod, etc.
And men focus on women such as: Jezebel, Eve, Job's wife, Michal (one of David's wives), Delilah, Herodias, Vashti, etc.
Neither group stops to fully realize that WE ARE ALL SINNERS IN NEED OF A SAVIOR.
That Savior is none other than Christ Jesus Himself (Acts 4:12).