Would You Rather Date A Single-Partnered Parent, or Someone Who Had Several Partners But No Children?
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You mean like this one, where the people mention spending time together discussing the Scripture to get to know each other, and where they emphasize purity and chastity since that’s what they read about in Scripture?
A Refreshing Perspective On Relationships
A Refreshing Perspective On Relationships
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My thread idea is actually different from most anything I've done before. I would simply create a thread title, something like, "Eternal Fire Has Some Topics He Would Like to See Discussed."
I would then simply explain that Eternal Fire is interested in seeing a conversation about these things he's posted, and that I disagreed and felt that there WAS a need for a different thread. This new thread would actually HIS discussion and not mine, so he would be the leader and actual OP (Original Poster,) and it would be up to him to answer people's posts and direct the conversation as he saw fit.
If I were just taking the ideas and writing a thread as my own presentation, I wouldn't feel a need to ask permission and would have just done that right away (though there are times when I DO ask permission before using other's ideas.)
But because what I have in mind would actually be HIS thread and not mine, I feel a need to ask first.
So now that I've explained exactly what I would do - @EternalFire, do I or don't I have your specific permission to do this? This is the 3rd time I'm asking. If you continue to not answer directly here on this thread, as I specifically asked that you make your answer public here, I will take that as a no and, in keeping to my word, I won't post the thread. But the offer is always open, and will also be in the future if you would like to see other topics posted about in my future threads as well.
I don't mind when people have questions or suggestions -- it's all just part of the process.
But when they clearly have their own black-and-white agenda of how they want me to think and what they want me to do, then try to strong-arm me into reading what they want me to read, study, or modify my behavior without ever showing any consideration for my point of view, or in this case, without even writing threads on the forum themselves to show they have experience with what they're criticizing, and ignoring what I say when I state my stance -- I will most definitely draw a line.
I would then simply explain that Eternal Fire is interested in seeing a conversation about these things he's posted, and that I disagreed and felt that there WAS a need for a different thread. This new thread would actually HIS discussion and not mine, so he would be the leader and actual OP (Original Poster,) and it would be up to him to answer people's posts and direct the conversation as he saw fit.
If I were just taking the ideas and writing a thread as my own presentation, I wouldn't feel a need to ask permission and would have just done that right away (though there are times when I DO ask permission before using other's ideas.)
But because what I have in mind would actually be HIS thread and not mine, I feel a need to ask first.
So now that I've explained exactly what I would do - @EternalFire, do I or don't I have your specific permission to do this? This is the 3rd time I'm asking. If you continue to not answer directly here on this thread, as I specifically asked that you make your answer public here, I will take that as a no and, in keeping to my word, I won't post the thread. But the offer is always open, and will also be in the future if you would like to see other topics posted about in my future threads as well.
I don't mind when people have questions or suggestions -- it's all just part of the process.
But when they clearly have their own black-and-white agenda of how they want me to think and what they want me to do, then try to strong-arm me into reading what they want me to read, study, or modify my behavior without ever showing any consideration for my point of view, or in this case, without even writing threads on the forum themselves to show they have experience with what they're criticizing, and ignoring what I say when I state my stance -- I will most definitely draw a line.
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At the risk of either bringing the thread back on topic or further derailing it: If there's any question, for either the guy or the girl in the relationship, I think they should both get tested. They should do it together, as a couple.
Fine, walk away. I'm gonna go cry into a pint of Ben&Jerry's Brownie Batter(tm) ice cream [link], then take out my frustration on a variety of great flash games from PopCap Games(r) [link]
Fine, walk away. I'm gonna go cry into a pint of Ben&Jerry's Brownie Batter(tm) ice cream [link], then take out my frustration on a variety of great flash games from PopCap Games(r) [link]
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My agenda will always be to shift the focus toward Jesus, the Word of God, and his Father, the One and Only True God.
I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and wages war. His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns. He has a name written on him that no one knows but he himself. He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God. The armies of heaven were following him, riding on white horses and dressed in fine linen, white and clean. Coming out of his mouth is a sharp sword with which to strike down the nations. “He will rule them with an iron scepter.” He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty (Revelation 19:11-15).
I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and wages war. His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns. He has a name written on him that no one knows but he himself. He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God. The armies of heaven were following him, riding on white horses and dressed in fine linen, white and clean. Coming out of his mouth is a sharp sword with which to strike down the nations. “He will rule them with an iron scepter.” He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty (Revelation 19:11-15).
I completely understand that.
(Request, for the 4th Time, that keeps going unanswered.)
Do I have your permission to post a thread quoting your statements and directing the topic to your direction and liking, allowing people to answer your own thread as they wish?
The only reason I haven't is because you haven't said yes.
And the fact that you won't answer leaves me to assume you are saying no.
(Request, for the 4th Time, that keeps going unanswered.)
Do I have your permission to post a thread quoting your statements and directing the topic to your direction and liking, allowing people to answer your own thread as they wish?
The only reason I haven't is because you haven't said yes.
And the fact that you won't answer leaves me to assume you are saying no.
well if course I prefer a date with Jesus. Everyone ought to date Jesus. Everyday.
Why would you wanna date someone else. I dunno. Not something I really think about that much to be honest.
Life gets so busy I dont have time (or money) to date someone. Booking ahead, making reservations etc. Organising an exclusive social life is something that maybe those who can afford to pick and choose have the luxury of perhaps?
regarding children, if they are young and you want to go on a date with someone whos a parent, you better be organising a babysitter cos its actually a crime to leave children unattended for an unreasonable length of time. Just because you want to go on a date.
if someone has several partners the its better to go to a dance where they get to dance with everyone not just you.
Why would you wanna date someone else. I dunno. Not something I really think about that much to be honest.
Life gets so busy I dont have time (or money) to date someone. Booking ahead, making reservations etc. Organising an exclusive social life is something that maybe those who can afford to pick and choose have the luxury of perhaps?
regarding children, if they are young and you want to go on a date with someone whos a parent, you better be organising a babysitter cos its actually a crime to leave children unattended for an unreasonable length of time. Just because you want to go on a date.
if someone has several partners the its better to go to a dance where they get to dance with everyone not just you.
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you probably dont want to date someone whos then just gonna leave their children with their ex who may have been abusive for example.
wouldnt you take the children along or organise a safe relative or trusted nanny to look after them?
Being a parent means you do have responsibilities whether married or unmarried. for example I cant recall my parents dating each other and leaving us children at home alone.
wouldnt you take the children along or organise a safe relative or trusted nanny to look after them?
Being a parent means you do have responsibilities whether married or unmarried. for example I cant recall my parents dating each other and leaving us children at home alone.
What does the word date mean to you?
Definition of dating : go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested).
I don't think anyone should want to date Jesus.
We are to put Jesus first in everything and always spend time in his presence, but that is not a date by any means.
Commonsense.
Not many people are so stupid or desperate that they are going to leave young children home alone just to go on a date. If so, then they are not worth dating.
This is just so odd that I don't even really know what to say.
I mean think about it...Say you're interested in dating someone who has had multiple partners in the past. Would you want to go to a dance where that person was dancing with all their previous sexual partners?
Now that would be awkward to say the very least....lol
Definition of dating : go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested).
I don't think anyone should want to date Jesus.
We are to put Jesus first in everything and always spend time in his presence, but that is not a date by any means.
Commonsense.
Not many people are so stupid or desperate that they are going to leave young children home alone just to go on a date. If so, then they are not worth dating.
This is just so odd that I don't even really know what to say.
I mean think about it...Say you're interested in dating someone who has had multiple partners in the past. Would you want to go to a dance where that person was dancing with all their previous sexual partners?
Now that would be awkward to say the very least....lol
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This sounds weird, but it does make a good point somewhat.
Most people are not going to leave their child home alone or with an abuser, but it is possible that some may be tempted to leave their children to start a new relationship. I would never want to date anyone with children who didn't put their children first. Also if anyone decides to date a person with children, then they also need be willing to put those children's welfare first, as well.
Also, I would never date a man with children, if there was a chance that he and the mother of his children might be able to get back together. I wouldn't want to be a home wrecker.
Most people are not going to leave their child home alone or with an abuser, but it is possible that some may be tempted to leave their children to start a new relationship. I would never want to date anyone with children who didn't put their children first. Also if anyone decides to date a person with children, then they also need be willing to put those children's welfare first, as well.
Also, I would never date a man with children, if there was a chance that he and the mother of his children might be able to get back together. I wouldn't want to be a home wrecker.
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At this point I'd take the hint that he doesn't really want to start a discussion. He's just interested in castigating everyone for not being as spiritual and heavenly minded as he is. Almost makes me want to start a thread about Jesus being fully human and what it looks like for Christians to imitate Christ in his humanity as well as his holiness.
Yeah!
Remember, getting angry, flipping tables over, making a whip and using it to drive people out IS still on the table.
So is being asleep in the boat while your friends are worried sick.
So is being so frustrated by your friends' lack of faith that it breaks you down and you start crying.
Remember, getting angry, flipping tables over, making a whip and using it to drive people out IS still on the table.
So is being asleep in the boat while your friends are worried sick.
So is being so frustrated by your friends' lack of faith that it breaks you down and you start crying.
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