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what ever happened to mail order brides?
Even mail order brides want to marry up, otherwise they would have married a local boy.
what ever happened to mail order brides?
The mainstream interviews porn stars give are unreliable. Much of their social media, interviews, conference appearances, etc... are due to threats from the industry. If you want to work you'll publicize and normalize porn.That is a high percentage of pastors that suffer with a porn problem. I think society thinks of it as a normal part of life. I am also surprised that these porn actors have husbands/wifes and kids. It is just a normal job that pays well so it is accepted by their partners because of the money it brings in. I remember watching Louis Thereoux a journalist and interviewer who interviewed some porn actors about their jobs and asked them questions. He is a great interviewer and did some really interesting shows.
Yes. American women especially are living in cuckoo land when it comes to relationship ideals. I read an article by a woman who gave up her matchmaking business because she found it impossible. Many men have given up dating as they are unable to meet women's demands and are rejecting female hypocrisy. Like wanting absolute equality except when it comes to paying for dinner.
Mark Gungor, the supreme relationship expert, said it best. "When you ask a woman what she wants in a partner, she describes another woman!"
This is the consequence of decades of belittling men and the attempt to dominate and control them from kindergarten onward. Satan hates God and His ways and is determined to destroy the image of God in humanity. God created us male and female. Satan is determined to undo that distinction. He is succeeding.
Isaiah 3:12 "Youths oppress My people, and women rule over them. O My people, your guides mislead you; they turn you from your paths." Sound familiar? Think Greta Thunburg and Kamala Harris. God's order is being reversed and Christians need to engage in spiritual warfare. It may be too late, but we have to try at least.
Times are changing. I’m not saying that porn “actors” are mentally healthy but I don’t think you can label them all as drug addicts and victims of sex abuse anymore. I would suggest there may be more father abandonment issues. Girls in general are more promiscuous. Sleeping with every boyfriend and casual sex is more accepted. Look at the increase of hook up sites. More girls are willing to try crazy stuff. Are they coerced? Possibly, but I don’t think there is that taboo as much in the mainstream. There more acceptance and less shame. Obviously the church is still firm on its stance but let’s be real. The dudes at church are watching more porn than ever.The mainstream interviews porn stars give are unreliable. Much of their social media, interviews, conference appearances, etc... are due to threats from the industry. If you want to work you'll publicize and normalize porn.
A Very high portion of the women come from childhoods filled with abuse, which is why they go into porn. They have no self esteem and are already used to the abuse that goes on behind the scenes, or even on screen.
They're also almost all drug addicts, especially the women. If they weren't one before entering they become one to cope with the misery of their jobs.
Also not all enter voluntarily. Some are forced, blackmailed or other forms of coercion.
Of those who are married there is a high likelihood abuse goes on there as well.
Ok, full disclaimer, I'm married. But I saw this post on my FB feed and it's getting a lot of feedback. So here is the article,
https://thefederalist.com/2021/05/0...der-a-husband-like-you-can-a-starbucks-drink/
Now when I was single I spent a lot of years traveling and really didn't think about everything I wanted in a man, other than being a Christian. It was a back burner thing for me. But within this article is a link to an article another woman posted "Single Ladies List." Now from the perspective of a married lady I had a chuckle that this. And I thought it's no wonder men are so confused about what women want, I think they are confused themselves. The list is huge, but I want to try and post some and start a discussion, for both sides, about expectations in marriage. I look forward to seeing the answers. Here we go...
Boo must be:
1. -Expressive of love and devotion and affirmation of me
2. -Emotionally expressive, romantic, demonstrative in gifts and gestures
3. -Fun to be around
4.-Confident but not arrogant or cocky or unhealthily charming/too flirtatious
5. -Not afraid to pursue me, or if he is, he still does diligently
6. -Quirky, non-boring sense of humor
7. -Present, not distracted
8. -Easy to be around
9. -Curiosity about me, to study and know and understand and best love me, an interest in where I’ve come from and what makes me me
10. -Unafraid to affirm and show affection
11. -Great listener
12. -Is clear about his priority of me
13. -Sensitive and aware
14. -Not an approval addict , -Not an attention addict
15. -Notices and pays attention to little things: dates, anniversaries, details, places that are significant to us and me and him
16. -Values my words and contributions to conversation
17.-Pays attention to me when with friends, wants to serve and be near
18.-Sentimental and soft-hearted
19.-Rugged and appreciates nature and beauty
20.-Writes notes and communicates love regularly
21. -Whimsical and cares about living a great story together
22, -Loves children, old people, friends, family, lingering
23. -Regularly shows me affection in various ways and reminds me he’s thinking of me
24. -Supportive always, even in disagreement
25. -Cares deeply about my wounds
26. -Nurtures, loves and promotes my voice literally and figuratively
27. -Recognizes and respects my physical limitations with great love and sympathy
28.-Cares about and prioritizes and sacrifices for my needs
29. --Cares about my experiences with romance, loss, sense of curse, feelings of worthlessness, knows and tends to wounds
30. -Hunger to understand my background influences and experiences
31. -Not patriarchal
32. -Great with money
33. -Willing/adventurous eater -Loves exploring -Loves eating out, enjoys little luxuries -Plans vacations and trips with and for me
34. -Loves to cook with me and for me
Ok, this even all her list, but these are some of the interesting things she posted. I'd like to hear your opinions on this.
what? nobody BUYS a cat lol
cats just go to whoever they want to live with.
nobodys labelling them they themselves are speaking out about the abuse.Times are changing. I’m not saying that porn “actors” are mentally healthy but I don’t think you can label them all as drug addicts and victims of sex abuse anymore. I would suggest there may be more father abandonment issues. Girls in general are more promiscuous. Sleeping with every boyfriend and casual sex is more accepted. Look at the increase of hook up sites. More girls are willing to try crazy stuff. Are they coerced? Possibly, but I don’t think there is that taboo as much in the mainstream. There more acceptance and less shame. Obviously the church is still firm on its stance but let’s be real. The dudes at church are watching more porn than ever.
Dogs? Bachelor men and their dogs? I'm more a cat person, myself. Cats are much more dignified and sensible, and you don't have to get up at 3am if they happen to need to pee.its a bit weird how theres these stereotypes about single women and cats but nobody seems to mention the counterpart, bachelor men and their dogs.
Of course when you put them together the odds are they may not get along, but Im sure there must be some cat and dog friendships that do work out.
I don't know, but I suspect that JESUS wouldn't meet the expectations of most women.Also, a question for men, what type of expectations (if any) should women have of men's appearance, jobs/income, or education?
Absolutely, I agree with this
its a bit weird how theres these stereotypes about single women and cats but nobody seems to mention the counterpart, bachelor men and their dogs.
Of course when you put them together the odds are they may not get along, but Im sure there must be some cat and dog friendships that do work out.
I recall going to visit this co housing community and they had all thse rules about how many pets you could have and how the community had to vote whether you could have a pet or not. Im sure the pets themselves had no idea that this was going on for their potential home. It sounded like something off survivor reality tv.
Dogs? Bachelor men and their dogs? I'm more a cat person, myself. Cats are much more dignified and sensible, and you don't have to get up at 3am if they happen to need to pee.
I’m curious, what do you consider abuse? There is such a broad range. What I might consider abuse, someone might consider foreplay. All I know is that if I ever came face to face with a child molester or human trafficker, I would have no problem enforcing a permanent solution so they couldn’t hurt anyone again.nobodys labelling them they themselves are speaking out about the abuse.
whats shocking is sexual ABUSE is accepted. even though its always happened people still accept it as normal.
Even mail order brides want to marry up, otherwise they would have married a local boy.
Porn is banned in some countries, actually. Though I'm not sure if it is illegal anywhere. Probably somewhere.Porn is already normalized nowadays in X-rated movies/shows, so it would be impossible to find watching 18+ porn illegal. I watched a very popular drama series awhile ago, about corruption in the 1920s Atlantic City area, and there is a lot of nudity and porn (without the closeups) in that series. I also watched this drama series about brothels in 1700s London, a lot of nudity/porn there too. Even popular movies, such as Fast Times, American Pie, Fifty Shades are shown on cable TV and have porn in those movies.
I'm not just randomly labeling based off of opinion or old ideas. These are the statements made my former porn stars of today's current era of porn. Both former actors and producers, men and women, discuss the issues of former abuse and current addiction.Times are changing. I’m not saying that porn “actors” are mentally healthy but I don’t think you can label them all as drug addicts and victims of sex abuse anymore. I would suggest there may be more father abandonment issues. Girls in general are more promiscuous. Sleeping with every boyfriend and casual sex is more accepted. Look at the increase of hook up sites. More girls are willing to try crazy stuff. Are they coerced? Possibly, but I don’t think there is that taboo as much in the mainstream. There more acceptance and less shame. Obviously the church is still firm on its stance but let’s be real. The dudes at church are watching more porn than ever.