For the People Who Champion Lifetime Singleness - What's Your Advice for Dealing with Single Sexuality?

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cinder

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No. The reason there aren't many good people in the dating dating pool are for two reasons, someone with good sense already has snared them and people of good character and personality traits for long term relationships aren't in great supply in the 21st century
And the third: Those good people remaining single who think like that stay out of the pool reinforcing the idea that there are no good people left because they aren't in the pool.
 

Lynx

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No. The reason there aren't many good people in the dating dating pool are for two reasons, someone with good sense already has snared them and people of good character and personality traits for long term relationships aren't in great supply in the 21st century
I can see how one would think that, but I have to disagree... because that would mean I'M a terrible person! :eek: I'm single, so if all the good ones have been taken then I'm a not-so-good one.
 

true_believer

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And the third: Those good people remaining single who think like that stay out of the pool reinforcing the idea that there are no good people left because they aren't in the pool.
It definitely requires patience.
 

true_believer

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I can see how one would think that, but I have to disagree... because that would mean I'M a terrible person! :eek: I'm single, so if all the good ones have been taken then I'm a not-so-good one.
...and that's why I said there are at least TWO reasons.
 

Lanolin

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some people seem to divide people into good and bad people.
Um. why.

Jesus was called 'good' but He didnt like that label, You cant even call Him good. He said you can only call His Father good. As nobody is good but God.
 

oyster67

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No. The reason there aren't many good people in the dating dating pool are for two reasons, someone with good sense already has snared them and people of good character and personality traits for long term relationships aren't in great supply in the 21st century
:unsure:... I am surrounded by beautiful single ladies.:):coffee: Try again.
 

oyster67

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I can see how one would think that, but I have to disagree... because that would mean I'M a terrible person! :eek: I'm single, so if all the good ones have been taken then I'm a not-so-good one.
Yup! Me thinks you and me is good ones! (And so don't our ladies:cool:(y).)
 

Lynx

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...and that's why I said there are at least TWO reasons.
I have to disagree with the second one too. I know a lot of great people, but I'm too apathetic to go get any of them for a spouse...

But I live in the South, where politeness is still the default. For now, at least. I hear the majority is a lot different in some areas of the world. Good people might in fact be in very short supply in some regions.
 

true_believer

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some people seem to divide people into good and bad people.
Um. why.

Jesus was called 'good' but He didnt like that label, You cant even call Him good. He said you can only call His Father good. As nobody is good but God.
How about good character vs bad character? Those are real things.
 

oyster67

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I have to disagree with the second one too. I know a lot of great people, but I'm too apathetic to go get any of them for a spouse...

But I live in the South, where politeness is still the default. For now, at least. I hear the majority is a lot different in some areas of the world. Good people might in fact be in very short supply in some regions.
Life is good for guys like us.:):coffee:(y)
 

Lanolin

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How about good character vs bad character? Those are real things.
maybe just people that do good things and bad things?
people are just people. Check the fruits sure but check your own first. You probably dont have all of them either.
 

oyster67

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maybe just people that do good things and bad things?
people are just people. Check the fruits sure but check your own first. You probably dont have all of them either.
Fruit check everybody! I got peace like a river and a fountain, at least for now.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Joel 3:18 And it shall come to pass in that day, [that] the mountains shall drop down new wine, and the hills shall flow with milk, and all the rivers of Judah shall flow with waters, and a fountain shall come forth of the house of the LORD, and shall water the valley of @shittim .
 

Dpax1231

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It is a great question, as I just came to know Jesus and follow him 2 years ago, I lived a life being sexually immoral and promiscuous, even after I started walking with Christ, I had started having sex with a woman and dealt with terrible shame and guilt. Then I went thru a "I'll just stay single forever" stretch. But I was burning with lust. I don't think there's anything Holy about being a horny celibate. Just to be completely honest I still am battling with pornography use and masturbation. Which I know is sinful and I get convicted about yet fall back into often. Yet I don't believe I should get married solely that it may help me be free of that sin. I believe scripture says marriage is a representation of Christ and the church. And we should show reverence to the institution of marriage. I've been truthful and confessed some win that embarrasses me yet if we don't have honest answers we cannot serve others in love. If you could keep me in prayer God bless
 

Lanolin

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Fruit check everybody! I got peace like a river and a fountain, at least for now.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Joel 3:18 And it shall come to pass in that day, [that] the mountains shall drop down new wine, and the hills shall flow with milk, and all the rivers of Judah shall flow with waters, and a fountain shall come forth of the house of the LORD, and shall water the valley of @shittim .
peace is a good thing to have, but there are also other fruits as well. :)