Groups of people often adopt slurs used against them in an ironic way, but when used by people not in that group it is considered a slur. Think of African Americans, or homosexuals. You can use that word if you want, but you won't convert anyone to your cause.
Palatable self-deprecating slurs are acceptable among your own, but you consider them insults from others. When you choose to receive an insult from non-Trans, and other homosexuals, when you're not being insulted by your own, you're not persuading anyone to your side of the argument.
And don't compare your community's verbiage to that of blacks.
When the higher ups in the music industry persuaded the first hip hop artists to substitute a vowel for the consonant in the slur, they weren't doing so to empower the people who conceded to the change, and ran with it.
They were leading people hungry for the money and fame to accept a lie. And by doing so, proceeded to spread a word in the adoption of it into their culture that would have them openly calling each other the same 'ol N word. It all hinged also on a wager among the financier's of those early artists. And they weren't then black financier's either.
Make no mistake, we know there are consonant worthy N words in our community as well. We know it, they know it.
Now, certain of us stupidly think we empowered ourselves by using the vowel version of the N word.
That slur version has never left my lips. Nor my husband's, or our children's.
If Tranny is a selective endearing word to your people, but taken as a slur when uttered by others, you all have been led into the same trap.
And among you all that altering selective designation in nomenclature doesn't stop with the T word either. You know that.
Lastly, we don't convert anyone to "our cause".
No one comes to Christ unless the Father calls them.
IF you are Trans-suffering, and arrive here thinking to further your cause, that you're OK as is, and I think your new member arrival into this thread 4th post in is suspect, it is you who will fail in your cause.
You're not OK as is when you presume to look at yourself and judge you'd be better off thinking your anatomy should be other.
Seek help. If God calls, pray attention. Don't think you'll be tolerated here if you presume to push the false idea homosexuality and Trans-affliction are normal or God appointed.
They're not.