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Also I guess the too nice thing has been a thorn in my backside as of late too.
I know this really friendly girl, who is super friendly with everyone. I've tried to suggest the possibility of being really good friends (much like forming an exploratory committee) and she just stays really friendly after hours of conversation. It never seems to crack that deeper, "hey I'm human and this is why", level. Its like she has 2 gears, sleep and really friendly.
So I've sort of been keeping her at arms length. In part because I don't understand her and also because I think she could be an alien robot spy with super friendly programming.
I know this really friendly girl, who is super friendly with everyone. I've tried to suggest the possibility of being really good friends (much like forming an exploratory committee) and she just stays really friendly after hours of conversation. It never seems to crack that deeper, "hey I'm human and this is why", level. Its like she has 2 gears, sleep and really friendly.
So I've sort of been keeping her at arms length. In part because I don't understand her and also because I think she could be an alien robot spy with super friendly programming.
T
I dont think we were saying that niceness is not good. I pointed out that there was a difference between being nice and being a push over. You can be both nice and dominant.
Just because you are nice doesn't mean you have to let people run over you and act as if you don't have an opinion about stuff and you only want to do what she wants. Thats actually not nice at all. Thats just a simple boring male who has no desire to take his God appointed leadership role seriously. That's why he will never get a girl unless he finds a domineering woman because she wants to "wear the pants" and because he has no ..... then he will let her.
No, no, no,.... much, much, much more extreme than that. I thought you said you read the other thread because it is way more honest and revealing than I tend to be on chat groups. Two assaults both caused by talking to white girls. Both girls were declared "*****es"" of ethnic guys. One severe injuries resulted and involved being pummelled by ten people, the other much less severe and only ffour to one. Most common response of idiot liberal Canadians "what business did you have talking to these girls anyways?" Well, they both just kinda came my way... and then the rest followed. But I mean, really, even without these incidents its a real sucker game. Getting told what a nice respectable loser I'm supposed to be while watching every other group do as it pleases. Doesn't really make any sense. And, hey, who says |I'm just bitter? Ever heard of watch and learn. If women all say they want bad boys, who am I to deprive them by holding to outdated standards and treating them in a way that they apparently find uninteresting and I find inhibitive myself?
Liamson, I dunno, something about you deeply inspires me. I have become convinced that you should be President some day... hopefully before your country bankrupts too far. Just something about your casual ways is pure genius. My best advise to you is to never take advise from me. If so you will go places.
Okay, first off, every time I look in a mirror it cracks. So the seven years bad luck is kinda on you if I do. Second, its not cowardly to be scared of women. Its common sense to be scared of women. They are so scary. If they don't leave you with a broken heart aching for years they leave you trapped with a whole bunch of rugrats nibbling your sanity into complete baldness.
I have to admit, I like your style too. I may not agree entirely with your perspective but, your approach is amazing. (takes notes) 
Yeah, I agree. That's why I've come to refuse to support stupid causes like Haiti, bank "bailouts",affirmative action, wars for Israel,etc. because like you say, you're not really doing any of them any favours by letting them walk all over you with their demands while they continue their super stupid behaviours. But I guess the problem is women much like dumb political causes tend to get really shrill if you don't go for their really dumb viewpoints and find ways to punish you if you don't fall in line. Like you should try telling some of the christian girls up here the bible doesn't actually say pre-marital sex is okay if you're doing it as some whacked out heroic effort to promote multiculturalism.
K
Julianna you reminded of something that Marilyn Monroe said : " I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it."
As you said, I think the problem is that some men don't really know what a woman is ( I repeat SOME men) , so we as women have to try harder to make us look as a respectable human beings. Some men would even use the " she was dressing like she wanted it" to justify a raping ,so sadly sometimes we have to be double tough to prove them their perception is wrong, even though their perception is not justified.
How many times have you walked in the streets and been whistled or shouted with denigrant "compliments" by some men like if you were a walking piece of meat? I just recently moved to the USA so this has just happened twice to me here, so I don't know how much it really happens lol, but at least in Mexico, even in big cities it still happens a lot. I remember a friend who told me that she was walking in the streets when an ADULT GROWN man whistled at her and later she identified that man as a friend's father. The worst part is that his daughter has the same age as my friend, the one he whistled at. Gross right?
Maybe soooome girls like to be treated like that,and I don't think they really enjoy it, but they were raised like that (background,culture,etc ), but I think most women feel offended and kind of humiliated. Of course we like a man who knows how to appreciate our beauty but IN A RESPECTFUL way and in the proper place, we don't want to be treated as mindless sex toys. When people say all women like bad boys I really want to punch somebody in the face (or maybe I just need a hobby). Maybe they are right in the sense that you can watch how women tend to fall in venenous relationships, I mean, have you watched The Hills ? Heidi and Spencer are a one big example that comes to my mind haha. But I think this comes from the nurturing and giving nature most women have. Even if a man hurts you, you still love him, and you kind of want to feel special by being the one who" changed" him ( a big mistake ladies).
It's not like you voluntarily say YEAAH I WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE TRASH!, maybe it's just that some women don't really know how a relationship should be, or they are toooo in love to let him go. The same happens with men. Women complain that they just like ...hhmm, how can I say this? SUPER liberal girls? haahaha u know what I mean.
These stereotypes are more common in wordly persons, not godly. I don't think a real christian guy would loook for a girl who doesn't respect herself and wanders around naked. Or a real christian girl would look for a "bad guy" who wants too look cool doing "cool" things like being indifferent and deceitful to her.
Being TOO nice, or TOO naughty are both wrong. I personally would like a man who knows how to stand by himself, who is smart, and knows how to express himself ( directly but respectfully) and guides me and support me when I dont' know where I'm standing. This doesn't mean I want a man to boss me around , that doesn't care what I say or think ,or makes me feel stupid when I fail, unless he wants a ticket with no return to GodKnowsWhere.
In brief, I think generally we women want a man with whom we can sustain and walk together to the same direction and who loves us. When men do that, it's easier for women to return what is given.
Well at least, I honestly would like that. If you like Spencer Pratt type or Hitler please don't generalize and say we ALL find them sexy lol.
As you said, I think the problem is that some men don't really know what a woman is ( I repeat SOME men) , so we as women have to try harder to make us look as a respectable human beings. Some men would even use the " she was dressing like she wanted it" to justify a raping ,so sadly sometimes we have to be double tough to prove them their perception is wrong, even though their perception is not justified.
How many times have you walked in the streets and been whistled or shouted with denigrant "compliments" by some men like if you were a walking piece of meat? I just recently moved to the USA so this has just happened twice to me here, so I don't know how much it really happens lol, but at least in Mexico, even in big cities it still happens a lot. I remember a friend who told me that she was walking in the streets when an ADULT GROWN man whistled at her and later she identified that man as a friend's father. The worst part is that his daughter has the same age as my friend, the one he whistled at. Gross right?
Maybe soooome girls like to be treated like that,and I don't think they really enjoy it, but they were raised like that (background,culture,etc ), but I think most women feel offended and kind of humiliated. Of course we like a man who knows how to appreciate our beauty but IN A RESPECTFUL way and in the proper place, we don't want to be treated as mindless sex toys. When people say all women like bad boys I really want to punch somebody in the face (or maybe I just need a hobby). Maybe they are right in the sense that you can watch how women tend to fall in venenous relationships, I mean, have you watched The Hills ? Heidi and Spencer are a one big example that comes to my mind haha. But I think this comes from the nurturing and giving nature most women have. Even if a man hurts you, you still love him, and you kind of want to feel special by being the one who" changed" him ( a big mistake ladies).
It's not like you voluntarily say YEAAH I WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE TRASH!, maybe it's just that some women don't really know how a relationship should be, or they are toooo in love to let him go. The same happens with men. Women complain that they just like ...hhmm, how can I say this? SUPER liberal girls? haahaha u know what I mean.
These stereotypes are more common in wordly persons, not godly. I don't think a real christian guy would loook for a girl who doesn't respect herself and wanders around naked. Or a real christian girl would look for a "bad guy" who wants too look cool doing "cool" things like being indifferent and deceitful to her.
Being TOO nice, or TOO naughty are both wrong. I personally would like a man who knows how to stand by himself, who is smart, and knows how to express himself ( directly but respectfully) and guides me and support me when I dont' know where I'm standing. This doesn't mean I want a man to boss me around , that doesn't care what I say or think ,or makes me feel stupid when I fail, unless he wants a ticket with no return to GodKnowsWhere.
In brief, I think generally we women want a man with whom we can sustain and walk together to the same direction and who loves us. When men do that, it's easier for women to return what is given.
Well at least, I honestly would like that. If you like Spencer Pratt type or Hitler please don't generalize and say we ALL find them sexy lol.
T
The problem with what you are saying is that you are lumping most women together. Some of us may have been offended because we don't operate like that. I think your heart is hardened due to some unfortunate events and you need to ask God for some healing. Having hatred for people in you r heart only does harm to yourself.
Your verbal attacks on non white men are incredibly bigoted. You have decided, that because you have had a few unfortunate incidents with some non white men that they are all or most, bad. That's very sad. As a Christian woman who loves God with all her heart and soul, who happens to be Black, I think its important that we look at people as people. Everyone is born a sinner and remains that way. We have the forgiveness of God, if we ask for it and His grace that carries us. We have no right to decide that a group of people is "all" one way. Many of us "coloreds" are Bible believing Christians by faith and we walk the walk, we are intelligent, educated, providers, nurturers, and productive members of society.
I am sorry about those things that have happened to you that have bade you a bitter young man. Remember the enemy will continue to use what he knows works on you best. By continuing in anger and disgust for men of non European ancestry and the white women who love them, you are allowing the enemy to control a major part of your life, living.
J
Love the Monroe quote. And the fact that you too have "I wanna punch someone in the face" moments make me love you even more. The whistling, pinching, hiney slapping, breast grazing....*sigh*
I would say that it comes from immaturity, but as I was leaving court a while back, a guy who had to have been at least in his 80s was sitting on the steps and said, "I haven't seen a wiggle like that in a long time". I didn't turn around around, but, to be honest, I did chuckle all the way to my car. Coming from a friend's dad would be totally creeping though..ugh.
And the fact that you too have "I wanna punch someone in the face" moments make me love you even more. The whistling, pinching, hiney slapping, breast grazing....*sigh* I would say that it comes from immaturity, but as I was leaving court a while back, a guy who had to have been at least in his 80s was sitting on the steps and said, "I haven't seen a wiggle like that in a long time". I didn't turn around around, but, to be honest, I did chuckle all the way to my car. Coming from a friend's dad would be totally creeping though..ugh.
