If a guy has placed himself in "stalker" status in a woman's eyes? I know for me personally? There is no turning back. No there isn't. No. None.
I am a very forgiving person. But I will feel safe in my own skin, mind and soul. Even if the guy is well meaning.
This is a place the blame on the victim when in reality, the "man" should have been more aware of what he was doing in first place and when the line in the sand started to get fuzzy, he should have checked himself. But blaming the victim for his actions will never ever fly with me.
I understand your sentiment, but I think there can be a bit of problem with this whole 'stalker' thing. See, there is no objective standard as to what stalking actually is so it's defined entirely by the supposed 'victim'. Essentially, a man is a stalker if someone says he is. For example, I know a chap who was accused by a lass of stalking simply because he had a good memory, and was able to recall details she had told him the previous time they had met.
So again, I think I can understand your feeling, but there's always another side to the story, and I believe that Christian charity demands that we see people in the best light possible, which means giving folk the benefit of the doubt. I suppose what I don't understand is that if you
know the bloke is well meaning, how could that possibly make you feel unsafe?