Is Being Single Tougher For Guys Than For Girls?

[persecuted]

Stating the obvious sometimes isn't that helpful. Negative reinforcement doesn't either. Praying for others works much more, as clearly his idea of a woman's worth is very non biblical and unethical.

lol... the great irony of being lectured by a Mexican. Gotta be honest on this one, many of my present attitudes were shaped by the "wonders" of Canadian multiculturalism whereby the girls of my race lost their morality first with the insistance by hispanics, blacks, and other ethnic males that white girls have some demented racial obligation to be whores for them. Not that its unique to Canada since its clearly in American movie and music culture too.

Haha, I get it, after I get lectured on how I'm supposed to "forgive the sexual sins" of everyone else, its time to condemn me for not being the moral spotlight in a world of sin. No, haven't heard that one before either. lol.

 

[Adrianv125]

lol... the great irony of being lectured by a Mexican. Gotta be honest on this one, many of my present attitudes were shaped by the "wonders" of Canadian multiculturalism whereby the girls of my race lost their morality first with the insistance by hispanics, blacks, and other ethnic males that white girls have some demented racial obligation to be whores for them. Not that its unique to Canada since its clearly in American movie and music culture too.

Haha, I get it, after I get lectured on how I'm supposed to "forgive the sexual sins" of everyone else, its time to condemn me for not being the moral spotlight in a world of sin. No, haven't heard that one before either. lol.

Your vision of life is simply not ample enough. Race doesn't really have anything to do with intellect or knowledge. And behaviors are completely dependent of every single person. You decide what goes in through your eyes and ears, and you decide what exits out of your mouth and what kind of actions you practice. This applies to any person of any race, and it applies to each person. Everyone is responsible of themselves, and not as a group.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Stating the obvious sometimes isn't that helpful. Negative reinforcement doesn't either. Praying for others works much more, as clearly his idea of a woman's worth is very non biblical and unethical.

Wait wait wait wait..... are you really talking to me about this??

You are probably the most arrogant person i have ever not really met.

You spout of nothing but over used bible verses that have nothing to do with anything, you act holier than thou then tell others they arent even saved when you know nothing of them or their life, then have the nerve to come on here and talk to me about something you do in every single post??

You are such a joke... Im sure thats pretty obvious to everyone on here. You have nothing else to say to me, nor do i to you.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I never said I was ugly. I said I was a complete zero. There is a big difference. I think I could be a great bar guy, but marrying stock? haha.... that was taken care of years ago. I think its actually great that myself and your gender have mutual animosities towards anything long term between us. Just waiting for God to give me a special one night stand pass since its clearly the situation he's desgined me for.

Whats a bar guy???

Im sure your not a complete zero. ooooooor are you???

 

[Pheonix]

lol... the great irony of being lectured by a Mexican. Gotta be honest on this one, many of my present attitudes were shaped by the "wonders" of Canadian multiculturalism whereby the girls of my race lost their morality first with the insistance by hispanics, blacks, and other ethnic males that white girls have some demented racial obligation to be whores for them. Not that its unique to Canada since its clearly in American movie and music culture too.

Haha, I get it, after I get lectured on how I'm supposed to "forgive the sexual sins" of everyone else, its time to condemn me for not being the moral spotlight in a world of sin. No, haven't heard that one before either. lol.

swhere on earth did you grow up? I'm from canada too and I've never see anything to make me think that ethnic minorities had anything to do with white women becoming "whores". They did a fine job of that themselves simply by denying God and his authority.

 

[Pheonix]

where that attitude came from was the women's liberation movement. To be equal to guys you have to act like them. Well congratulations are in order. they now act more like men than the men do.

I wonder how that whole equality thing is going now that they are more chained now than they ever were. Free love is the most disgusting and enslaving idea that has ever come about. the really sad thing is that women these days have swallowed it hook line and sinker, and most of the tackle box, the rod reel and scaling knife. Love is never free and the idea that it is has caused the current attitude toward sex.

and yes I know we have kind of gotten off topic here. sorry

 

[violakat]

where that attitude came from was the women's liberation movement. To be equal to guys you have to act like them. Well congratulations are in order. they now act more like men than the men do.

I wonder how that whole equality thing is going now that they are more chained now than they ever were. Free love is the most disgusting and enslaving idea that has ever come about. the really sad thing is that women these days have swallowed it hook line and sinker, and most of the tackle box, the rod reel and scaling knife. Love is never free and the idea that it is has caused the current attitude toward sex.

and yes I know we have kind of gotten off topic here. sorry

Feminism actually started to protect women from men who abused them. I'm not saying that all men were abusers and that all women were abused. But this was the basis for the start of feminism. At one time, many men believed that they had the right to use their wives and daughters in anyway they chose. Daughters were often traded with to another man in marriage, for land, wealth, etc., with no thought of the other man's moral background. Also, women were considered to be brainless and of no value except for their beauty, by many men.

Feminism gave women the right to choose to marry or not marry, have a career or work from home. Did it go to far, yes, since many men who stand up for what's right are considered male chavenistic pigs, and that women are looked down upon if they choose to stay at home and take care of the household. And as you said, Phoenix, with it also came immorailty.

So for everything, there are two sides of the story.

 

[Jullianna]

Maybe for some folks the word "ugly" only applies to outward appearances... Don't know about anyone else, but I'm seeing a whole lot of ugly in this thread.

 

[persecuted]

Instead of giving an opinion, I'll further this discussion with a true it happened in Canada story.

I was at a campus hockey game (hockey very Canadian) and when it ended there was a stream of people headed up to the exits. Three not bad looking white girls went up the stairs and at least two of them smiled at me. Unfortunately I was still stuck in my row by a slow moving senior and it took about five minutes for me to get up to the concourse area.

By this time, these three white girls were being dogged by two black guys. The black guys weren't actually at the game but rather were just cruising campus looking for sex. I did the math and figured I would just kinda weasel my way into the conversation with the girl on the end. Since these girls definetly smiled at me I saw no reason to just walk and let the standard pimps and ho gangsta boys win out.

Before long, two separate conversations were going. Me and the black guys chose to just completely ignore each other. BUT I could clearly hear both conversations. These girls were literally telling the black guys that they were whores.... SIMULTANEOUSLY they were lecturing me on how immoral cheerleaders were as I had weaseled into the conversation by telling these girls they should be cheerleaders for the team. For about four minutes they carried on telling the black guys how easy they were and what total whores they were while continuing to suggest to me they were high moral virgins. Finally their contradictions even got to them as their eyes bulged out and they took off down the hallway realizing what they were doing.

I've thought this the most blatant I've seen of white women and their behaviours in Canada but the true reason this incident sticks with me is that I know it isn't isolated in the least. There are all sorts of girls who think they have a right to whore out with ethnic men but that all of us white guys are supposed to not only behave as complete patsies in our single lives, but to also be there for marriage when they are tired out whores.

 

[IQ]

Maybe for some folks the word "ugly" only applies to outward appearances... Don't know about anyone else, but I'm seeing a whole lot of ugly in this thread.

I'm seeing a whole lot of pain. That's what sin always does... it creates, develops and cultivates pain. Our solution to this pain is Christ, in repentance, forgiveness, and a reliance on Him to obey.

 

[Jullianna]

Amen, IQ I completely agree.

 

[Calmador]

There's light support from what I've seen in most men... sometimes guy friends tell me about them losing thier girl friend or how they wish they had a girl right now... and there's light support like a guy might say. Atleast you don't have to spend $ on a girl right now and besides your a cool dude you'll get a girl somedays :3

So yeah, just light support and guys are tougher about emotional pain... so personally I think girls have it worse. Girls care about being with someone more then a guy it seems. Think that's your answer. kthxbye RAWR! (bunny hops away)

 

[persecuted]

Whats a bar guy???

Im sure your not a complete zero. ooooooor are you???

A bar guy: I meant someone who hangs around nightclubs looking for cheap loving all the time and nothing more.

lol... yup, complete zero, right here. IF I were to describe it more I'm sure you'd agree. Unfortunately as it stands our definitions are probably different and you'll take it slightly different than meant to be... although of course I don't think it can be taken that much different than meant to be. I think the difference in thought here is something like"the ability to be charming momentarily at times doesn't amount to bleep all in the grand scheme of things. "

 

[Adrianv125]

Wait wait wait wait..... are you really talking to me about this??

You are probably the most arrogant person i have ever not really met.

You spout of nothing but over used bible verses that have nothing to do with anything, you act holier than thou then tell others they arent even saved when you know nothing of them or their life, then have the nerve to come on here and talk to me about something you do in every single post??

You are such a joke... Im sure thats pretty obvious to everyone on here. You have nothing else to say to me, nor do i to you.

Does scripture offend you? Because that is what I post. I post nothing but it and go by what it says. I don't act holier than thou, I follow what the word says. And it was obvious that she never had a relationship with Christ because she viewed Christianity as legalism(as in an enslavement to things you have to do), which it totally isn't. I think any true Christian would agree that anyone who sees Christianity as legalism wasn't really never a Christian.

We're not supposed to repay evil with evil. Instead of asking me why I say what I say you judge it based on your opinion and categorize me as arrogant. But now worse than that, if I was wrong, wouldn't your position as a sister in Christ be to correct me in love and in truth? Are you even my sister in Christ?


Matthew 5:22

22 But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause[a] shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raca!’ shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire.

1 John 4:20

20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can[a] he love God whom he has not seen?

From your words, it's pretty obvious you hate me.

 

[seoulsearch]

As I went on a walk this morning, I asked God if there was anything positive that I could contribute to some of the posts I've read here the past few days.

All I can say is that when people express strong, negative emotions, it usually means they've been deeply hurt, and for that, I am sorry.

Please also remember that sometimes when a person is acting out in extreme sexual ways (giving themselves to people easily, etc.), it is often, not always, but often, a sign that they were abused in the past. Many who have gone through that kind of abuse feel that their body is the only thing people will be interested in, or they decide that they will just give themselves away before someone can take the right away from them again.

And, some of the people who express the strongest opinions are going through some of the toughest battles themselves... I've found that in many cases, the men who say the most negative things about women have the strongest roots in things like violent pornography. Not always, but often. The hate and bitterness gets a hold of the heart and always finds a way to manifest itself...

But the most important thing to remember is that God calls us to love. If we see someone acting in non-Christian behavior, God calls us to pray for them, to ask that God will bless them and bring them to Himself. If we see someone posting something we strongly disagree with, again, God calls us to bless that person and help them through their own hurt.

I do hope that some of the hurting people here receive what God is desiring to give to them (and this includes myself.)

 

[Jullianna]

As I went on a walk this morning, I asked God if there was anything positive that I could contribute to some of the posts I've read here the past few days.

All I can say is that when people express strong, negative emotions, it usually means they've been deeply hurt, and for that, I am sorry.

Please also remember that sometimes when a person is acting out in extreme sexual ways (giving themselves to people easily, etc.), it is often, not always, but often, a sign that they were abused in the past. Many who have gone through that kind of abuse feel that their body is the only thing people will be interested in, or they decide that they will just give themselves away before someone can take the right away from them again.

And, some of the people who express the strongest opinions are going through some of the toughest battles themselves... I've found that in many cases, the men who say the most negative things about women have the strongest roots in things like violent pornography. Not always, but often. The hate and bitterness gets a hold of the heart and always finds a way to manifest itself...

But the most important thing to remember is that God calls us to love. If we see someone acting in non-Christian behavior, God calls us to pray for them, to ask that God will bless them and bring them to Himself. If we see someone posting something we strongly disagree with, again, God calls us to bless that person and help them through their own hurt.

I do hope that some of the hurting people here receive what God is desiring to give to them (and this includes myself.)

excellent post

 

[The_boy]

God has designed us with a need for companionship. We need to be loved and to know it. But some of us understand love differently than others. I understand love most through tough and words of encouragement. I have a problem though: I don't let but my innermost circle of friends touch me. I was beaten severely by my father and beaten up daily in school. So I often don't feel loved or cared for at all. The couple times I've had a girlfriend is when I felt most loved. The very nature of the relationship requires touch, because most women DO touch each other while guys tend to avoid physical contact (save for sports). As a man, I think we have it harder because we DON'T support each other like women do, and to do so can be very awkward for us.

 

[seoulsearch]

God has designed us with a need for companionship. We need to be loved and to know it. But some of us understand love differently than others. I understand love most through tough and words of encouragement. I have a problem though: I don't let but my innermost circle of friends touch me. I was beaten severely by my father and beaten up daily in school. So I often don't feel loved or cared for at all. The couple times I've had a girlfriend is when I felt most loved. The very nature of the relationship requires touch, because most women DO touch each other while guys tend to avoid physical contact (save for sports). As a man, I think we have it harder because we DON'T support each other like women do, and to do so can be very awkward for us.

I am very sorry that you went through this. I've known other men as well who have gone through pretty much their entire lives with only negative attention in their lives or little to no support and it makes me feel terribly discouraged, because every person, man or woman, needs a strong support network. It really hurts my heart to hear about people who have gone through such traumatic experiences.

It is my sincere prayer than anyone, guy or girl, who has had such experiences (and abuse comes in many forms, for some, they may have had all the necessities but never anyone to listen to or encourage them), will find good things that God has for them.

One of my favorite passages is Jeremiah 29:110--"For I know the plans I have for you, plans not to harm you but to give you HOPE and a FUTURE."

 

[The_boy]

I am very sorry that you went through this. I've known other men as well who have gone through pretty much their entire lives with only negative attention in their lives or little to no support and it makes me feel terribly discouraged, because every person, man or woman, needs a strong support network. It really hurts my heart to hear about people who have gone through such traumatic experiences.

It is my sincere prayer than anyone, guy or girl, who has had such experiences (and abuse comes in many forms, for some, they may have had all the necessities but never anyone to listen to or encourage them), will find good things that God has for them.

One of my favorite passages is Jeremiah 29:110--"For I know the plans I have for you, plans not to harm you but to give you HOPE and a FUTURE."

Thank you seoulsearch. It's something I'm slowly becoming used to. It does hurt when I'm depressed and none of the few people that I trust to touch me aren't there for support. But worse than that is that they don't realize when I need them around. I've met one person who recognizes it immediately would make physical contact with me but sadly, she lives 1000 miles away. I've known her for 6 years and she's more dear to me than anyone ever has been. I wish that I had been allowed to live closer to her so that she could. She would find comfort in me as well, because she's a lot like me.