Remarriage
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Yes because "it is not good for man or woman to be alone."
If you are isolated....you likely aren't doing something right.
But that isn't to say that there are worse things than being alone.
I'm surprised—and yet not really surprised—to hear the only answers to the question so far have been yes. Scripture makes it very clear that death and adultery are the only cases where God will bless remarriage. This is an example of man's traditions trumping the word of God.
Absolutely. Scripture says that God wants us to have life and to have it more abundantly.
what about the wife who gets beat up in a marriage? how long is she supposed to get beat up? why can't she get married again when she did nothing wrong?
It’s actually sad how many “Christians” are extremely biblically illiterate. What you stated above is true - biblically. Man sometimes has other ideas that they think trump the Word of God.
The scriptures don't give an answer to this specific question; however, it's very clear that death and infidelity are the only cases where remarriage is sanctioned. Jesus gave one reason where divorce is acceptable: infidelity. If a battered woman gets divorced and remarried, and no infidelity is involved, she and her new husband commit adultery, according to Jesus. I can sympathize with women who get battered; but that's no excuse to deliberately ignore God's word.
Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except for a matter of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorcee commits adultery."
Read:
1 Corinthians 7:10-16
10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
An abused spouse can divorce an unbelieving abusing spouse - even if they say they're "Christian". The abusive spouse is not bearing fruit in keeping with the Holy Spirit and is also breaking their vow to love and protect their spouse and their marriage.
In terms of remarriage, the Bible says it depends on whether the unbelieving spouse consents to live with the believing spouse. If an unbelieving spouse is abusive, are they really "consenting to live" with the believing spouse who is being abused? I don't think so.
"Consenting to live" with each other means both people love each other and treat each other well. That's not the case with an abusive spouse. The abusive spouse does not love their abused spouse enough to want to stop hurting them, overcome their anger issues and change to treat their abused spouse better from then on.
So the abusive spouse is not actually "consenting to live" with the believing abused spouse. In such a case, the abused Christian spouse is no longer "enslaved" to that marriage. They can remarry after divorcing, hopefully to a believing spouse that will treat them well for as long as they live.
Some believe that abandonment is grounds as well according to 1st Corinthians 7.
to be clear, i'm talking about a woman who did nothing wrong in the marriage, she being a born again solid Christian, innocent of all ungodly action in the marriage. Some believe God will honor a new marriage for her.
He's correct. No matter the circumstances, the Bible is silent on the topic.
That doesn't mean a woman or children should remain in the same place of harm. They should leave and find safety. But abuse, in and of itself, is not a cause given for biblical divorce.
Ok...
The proper answer cannot be found in most English translations and it's in the 19th chapter of Matthew where it is really made precisely clear.
But you have to go back to the Hebrew language as well as understand the Anthropology of the society.
It's not turning God's word around either. It's the English translations that have been deliberately corrupted and confusingly translated to appease Christian Political Correctness.
There is an answer...it isn't simple and so cut and dried as a codified law as you have made it out to be....because that is not the normal Jesus behavior or answer.
But first read the end of Chapter 13...then read once again who Jesus was talking to in chapter 19. And understand that the answer is highly complicated and English doesn't do it justice.
One might assume that the parter is not a Christian. There are grounds to separate under those circumstances. But not to remarry......unless death or fornication occurs.
Perhaps there are casual readers who fit your box; however, there are also people who have studied the word and come up with different conclusions than yours. Don't assume everybody who differs is illiterate, for with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.