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I am happy with life. Being single is not a factor in whether I am or am not happy. I happen to be single, but that doesn't control whether or not I am happy.
Now if I happen to find a nice lady, we get along well and we wind up getting married, I imagine I will be happy then too. Probably happier than I am now.
But in the meantime I'm not going to ruin my current happy by trying to chase after something I don't have. I've got better things to do. Things I am happy about.
Now if I happen to find a nice lady, we get along well and we wind up getting married, I imagine I will be happy then too. Probably happier than I am now.
But in the meantime I'm not going to ruin my current happy by trying to chase after something I don't have. I've got better things to do. Things I am happy about.
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I'm content with the single life. I take myself out once in a while and I meet up with my bestie for lunch once a month. Having said that, there are some wonderful aspects of a relationship that I really miss a lot.
There's been numerous times I've been a lot more miserable in a relationship than alone.
Also, I've always been terrified of marriage. I'd have to be without any sliver of doubt that it was the Lord's will before I'd even entertain the idea. So, in that light, it's probably best that I stay as I am.
I'm whole, because the Lord is with me. And I'm going to remain thankful for His presence in my life and the wholeness I get from Him.
There's been numerous times I've been a lot more miserable in a relationship than alone.
Also, I've always been terrified of marriage. I'd have to be without any sliver of doubt that it was the Lord's will before I'd even entertain the idea. So, in that light, it's probably best that I stay as I am.
I'm whole, because the Lord is with me. And I'm going to remain thankful for His presence in my life and the wholeness I get from Him.
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I'm content in being single.
I really don't base my joy/happiness on my relationship status.
When I meet someone who I get along with splendidly, then great
I really don't base my joy/happiness on my relationship status.
When I meet someone who I get along with splendidly, then great
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Hi @G_Favour,
Welcome to CC!
Please forgive me for pondering a bit on your perfectly valid question... It's interesting to me that singles are asked this routinely -- I guess it's always expected that singles are, in a way, "supposed" to feel like they are lacking and missing something.
I can't help but wonder if the "happy and whole" question gets asked on such a regular basis in other populations. For example:
* Are you happy and whole as a married person? (I've known several who aren't.)
* Are you happy and whole as someone without kids?
* Are you happy and whole as someone with only one child (why aren't you having more?)
* Are you happy and whole as parents of teenagers - who won't talk to you?
* Are you happy and whole as someone whose spouse has a chronic illness?
Anyway... I'm just talking to myself. Your question is very normal and one we see here regularly -- I'm just wondering to myself why the single community is often talked to as if we are somehow handicapped (less likely to be happy, and certainly much less likely to be whole) than other groups of people.
I used to be a VERY discontent as a single, often feeling like I'd been cheated and was missing out on something crucial by not having a spouse and family. But the older I get, the more I wonder how much of that feeling is created by society and church culture. Now of course, God has a calling on some (probably the majority) to be married and have families. But what no one ever explained to me is that God can also have OTHER just as equally important callings for people, even (gasp!) as singles, and I've found a lot more contentment and peace ever since.
Granted, it's taken many, many years to learn that lesson. But to be honest, I'm at a point now where, even though I'm open to a relationship and possibly marriage, it might take a lot to convince me.
When I finally realized my singleness might not be going away any time soon, one of my goals was to be able to help friends and family (who are scattered all over.) It's taken a long time, but I'm now closer to being in that place where I can be of help (or at least a good laugh) to the people I love in all kinds of different settings and situations.
For me, knowing that God is using the unique way He made me to hopefully be useful to others truly makes me feel more whole and much happier than I ever was when I out trying to "cure" my "singleness."
Welcome to CC!
Please forgive me for pondering a bit on your perfectly valid question... It's interesting to me that singles are asked this routinely -- I guess it's always expected that singles are, in a way, "supposed" to feel like they are lacking and missing something.
I can't help but wonder if the "happy and whole" question gets asked on such a regular basis in other populations. For example:
* Are you happy and whole as a married person? (I've known several who aren't.)
* Are you happy and whole as someone without kids?
* Are you happy and whole as someone with only one child (why aren't you having more?)
* Are you happy and whole as parents of teenagers - who won't talk to you?
* Are you happy and whole as someone whose spouse has a chronic illness?
Anyway... I'm just talking to myself. Your question is very normal and one we see here regularly -- I'm just wondering to myself why the single community is often talked to as if we are somehow handicapped (less likely to be happy, and certainly much less likely to be whole) than other groups of people.
I used to be a VERY discontent as a single, often feeling like I'd been cheated and was missing out on something crucial by not having a spouse and family. But the older I get, the more I wonder how much of that feeling is created by society and church culture. Now of course, God has a calling on some (probably the majority) to be married and have families. But what no one ever explained to me is that God can also have OTHER just as equally important callings for people, even (gasp!) as singles, and I've found a lot more contentment and peace ever since.
Granted, it's taken many, many years to learn that lesson. But to be honest, I'm at a point now where, even though I'm open to a relationship and possibly marriage, it might take a lot to convince me.
When I finally realized my singleness might not be going away any time soon, one of my goals was to be able to help friends and family (who are scattered all over.) It's taken a long time, but I'm now closer to being in that place where I can be of help (or at least a good laugh) to the people I love in all kinds of different settings and situations.
For me, knowing that God is using the unique way He made me to hopefully be useful to others truly makes me feel more whole and much happier than I ever was when I out trying to "cure" my "singleness."
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