if they can not chose. They have an excuse. God kept the truth from them/
who said she could NOT love a God ...
who would take her mother to heaven, but send her father to hell.
We just must take God at His word.
He blesses those He wishes to, and He leaves the rest to their own devices.
The OP explains that God honors His justice,
and His justice is that sinners deserve to go to hell.
One of the reasons that God saves some is
to show His mercy and grace (undeserved favor)
towards some who do not deserve it.