The Girl Before And After!
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i never said i expect this or that. this thread i started because of what guys have said in the past. direct answers do not allow for deflecting, excuses or tangents. too many offshoots when discussing topics with people, (not here, i don't mean that ). not struggling & thank you for not implying anything to me.
This might just be me, but your posts often come across as stating that you and your wife meet certain standards that you expect everyone else can also reach, if only they quit being lazy and work harder.
In some cases, of course, working harder can make a difference.
But I never get a sense from your posts that you have an understanding of other people in different circumstances -- or that they might be where God wants them.
I grew up around people who were self-made, like you, so I'm familiar with some of the things you talk about it. I once lived in a neighborhood where our neighbors were CEO's, business owners, a veterinarian, etc.
It might just be me, but I take many of your posts as saying, "You should be more like my wife and myself," and I never really find that very encouraging.
At all.
I've been around people who are the way you describe yourself all my life, and that's not who I'm meant to be.
It always feels like you're trying to coach people into being what you are or what you think they should be -- what if they're meant to be something else?
But again, maybe it's just me, and there are probably other people here who find the things in your posts that I don't see.
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i'm saying that people can do better in life whether it's a better job, looking better, being happier, etc. check the statistics in america. americans have a high rate of laziness, indolence, & a lack of ambition. most people don't know what it is to really put their effort into anything. look at the athletes, they have reached the maximum level of perseverance, dedication, ability & success. yes, i give credit to my dad who always immensely taught us to always try our best. & i've heard from some people over my lifetime that i'm to strict. well, ask any successful person if their max effort was worth it & they'll say yes. i certainly do understand people's circumstances. i assisted the elderly & handicapped voluntarily for 37 years. understand that i'm only trying to encourage people they can do better. ask grandparents & even people older than that & they will tell you people were much more mentally & spiritually tougher long ago.
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God bless you for all your work in service to others, especially the elderly and differently-abled, as they are often overlooked.
I know you've stated many times in your posts that you are quite wealthy.
My grandparents and some other family members were also self-made and did well for themselves, mostly through saving everything they made.
But you would have never guessed it by looking at them, and they would have never told.
I'm just naturally more drawn to that kind of approach rather than public statements of, "I'm a millionaire who dines at the very best seats in Saratoga!", but we each have our own style.
As I said, I'm sure there are others here who can relate to your approach of announcing your status a lot more than I can.
I know you've stated many times in your posts that you are quite wealthy.
My grandparents and some other family members were also self-made and did well for themselves, mostly through saving everything they made.
But you would have never guessed it by looking at them, and they would have never told.
I'm just naturally more drawn to that kind of approach rather than public statements of, "I'm a millionaire who dines at the very best seats in Saratoga!", but we each have our own style.
As I said, I'm sure there are others here who can relate to your approach of announcing your status a lot more than I can.
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I'm just glad we have a crowd here with a good sense of humor!! 
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I had a friend once. She was slim for as long as I knew her. We went a while without talking at one point. But when we reconnect and met in person again she had gained a lot of weight.
She told me she finally had a boyfriend, so she just let herself go. That was it. Once she had someone she stopped trying to stay thin.
So you always have to be aware of women with this agenda.
And yes, I know there's things that men may do with similar intentions, but this topic is about women specifically.
She told me she finally had a boyfriend, so she just let herself go. That was it. Once she had someone she stopped trying to stay thin.
So you always have to be aware of women with this agenda.
And yes, I know there's things that men may do with similar intentions, but this topic is about women specifically.
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