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Greetings My Sisters and Brothers in Christ,

Happy Friday to everyone! Since many will be celebrating Valentine's Day this weekend, I pose these questions to all CHRISTIAN singles: Do you feel that God divinely intervenes in your dating life, and if so, why and how?
 
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Anointed4God said:
Greetings My Sisters and Brothers in Christ,

Happy Friday to everyone! Since many will be celebrating Valentine's Day this weekend, I pose these questions to all CHRISTIAN singles: Do you feel that God divinely intervenes in your dating life, and if so, why and how?
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I'm convinced that people come into your life and leave it completely at God's Will . Everything in this life is a learning experience .
 
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Suze said:
What is the difference ? I'm not being facetious , I'm.english .
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Maybe dating is to just have fun but in courtship, you get to know the other person, who they are and what they are about. Important in considering pursuing an enduring and intimate relationship that may lead to marriage. Dating is for the fun stuff, but that person may not have your back if and when tough times come.
 
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Suze said:
I'm convinced that people come into your life and leave it completely at God's Will . Everything in this life is a learning experience .
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I have certainly learned a lot about relationships, especially when led by the grace of God.
 
tourist said:
Maybe dating is to just have fun but in courtship, you get to know the other person, who they are and what they are about. Important in considering pursuing an enduring and intimate relationship that may lead to marriage. Dating is for the fun stuff, but that person may not have your back if and when tough times come.
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Thank you , I get it now 👍 .
 
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Edify said:
I think with the Falling Away it will be more dangerous to date someone we don't really know, esp. in church
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How is it dangerous "dating" someone in church? I feel like it's more dangerous "dating" in the world rather than in church because in church yk that person,yk his/her intentions than someone in the world. Hence why I mentioned courtship cause it's pure and has good intentions. I mean it is a form of dating, but that relationship leads to marriage unlike dating "just for the fun of it". Yes I admit some ppl tht date end up getting married, but why take 5+years to get married?and most of the times these relationships are unhealthy. Prove me wrong.
 
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tourist said:
My policy on dating is to not waste your time dating someone that you would not consider marrying.
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It's been many years since I've participated in the world of dating, but I always dated a girl that I enjoyed being with. I never thought about marriage at the time. When I met my wife, I knew without a doubt that she was the woman that I would spend the rest of my life with. Three months later we were married. I took the bus 85 miles every weekend to date her. It's been over 65 years, and I'd do it all over again.
 
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Billyd said:
It's been many years since I've participated in the world of dating, but I always dated a girl that I enjoyed being with. I never thought about marriage at the time. When I met my wife, I knew without a doubt that she was the woman that I would spend the rest of my life with. Three months later we were married. I took the bus 85 miles every weekend to date her. It's been over 65 years, and I'd do it all over again.
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❤️
 
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Anointed4God said:
Greetings My Sisters and Brothers in Christ,

Happy Friday to everyone! Since many will be celebrating Valentine's Day this weekend, I pose these questions to all CHRISTIAN singles: Do you feel that God divinely intervenes in your dating life, and if so, why and how?
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The Lord leads in all kinds of interactions.
The last "date" I was on, maybe a year ago, was not planned and I didn't know the person. We simply sat at a picnic table across from each other because it was the only place to sit while waiting. We were complete strangers. We had a pleasant conversation that went on for a long time, so I called it a "date". That's how my dates normally went in the past when attending a church activity, the singles ministry I used to have or wherever. It's a way to get to know someone and to share with them some things about self.
I just wish that I led her to Christ because that was the reason I believe that He put us there. I learned that I need to make that the priority, to share the gospel clearly and lead in prayer before leaving. After all that might be the last chance.
 
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Billyd said:
It's been many years since I've participated in the world of dating, but I always dated a girl that I enjoyed being with. I never thought about marriage at the time. When I met my wife, I knew without a doubt that she was the woman that I would spend the rest of my life with. Three months later we were married. I took the bus 85 miles every weekend to date her. It's been over 65 years, and I'd do it all over again.
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This is so beautiful 💕😊
 
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Faithy said:
As Christians, shouldn't we opt for courtship rather than dating?
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Exactly my thought. That's what we're taught in church and what we see in the Bible. Dating is for the world. A 14-year-old could date for fun, but courtship is for the purpose of marriage; you're not just getting into boyfriend/girlfriend for the sake of it, rather you're in a relationship with someone you plan on marrying, and soon; not in 10 years or 5 years or indefinitely, but with a timeframe in mind.
Note: I do not say that relationships over a long period of time isn't ok.
 
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Urielllla said:
Exactly my thought. That's what we're taught in church and what we see in the Bible. Dating is for the world. A 14-year-old could date for fun, but courtship is for the purpose of marriage; you're not just getting into boyfriend/girlfriend for the sake of it, rather you're in a relationship with someone you plan on marrying, and soon; not in 10 years or 5 years or indefinitely, but with a timeframe in mind.
Note: I do not say that relationships over a long period of time isn't ok.
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And I'm not saying you must marry whoever you court - remember how Joseph planned on sending Mary away before the Angel appeared to him.
 
Anointed4God said:
Greetings My Sisters and Brothers in Christ,

Happy Friday to everyone! Since many will be celebrating Valentine's Day this weekend, I pose these questions to all CHRISTIAN singles: Do you feel that God divinely intervenes in your dating life, and if so, why and how?
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yes, totally the last 2 women i met was God's doings. the last 1, i married!
 
Faithy said:
How is it dangerous "dating" someone in church? I feel like it's more dangerous "dating" in the world rather than in church because in church yk that person,yk his/her intentions than someone in the world. Hence why I mentioned courtship cause it's pure and has good intentions. I mean it is a form of dating, but that relationship leads to marriage unlike dating "just for the fun of it". Yes I admit some ppl tht date end up getting married, but why take 5+years to get married?and most of the times these relationships are unhealthy. Prove me wrong.
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Faithy said:
How is it dangerous "dating" someone in church? I feel like it's more dangerous "dating" in the world rather than in church because in church yk that person,yk his/her intentions than someone in the world. Hence why I mentioned courtship cause it's pure and has good intentions. I mean it is a form of dating, but that relationship leads to marriage unlike dating "just for the fun of it". Yes I admit some ppl tht date end up getting married, but why take 5+years to get married?and most of the times these relationships are unhealthy. Prove me wrong
Suze said:
What is the difference ? I'm not being facetious , I'm.english .
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The difference is in the purpose, intentions, etc.
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People date for fun; they want to get with someone, have a boyfriend or girlfriend just for fun, not for marriage, though it could lead to it. That's why you see children dating; they're not planning on getting married anytime soon but they do it anyway.

However, courtship is a means to an end, and the end is marriage; not always, but most of the time. It is being in a completely platonic relationship (no kissing, because that's also a sexual activity) with someone you plan on marrying. That's what we see between Joseph and Mary, though they lived in a different time than we. As Christians, our relationship before marriage should be pure from lust, and let's be honest, dating isn't.

Also, in courtship SOMETIMES, the church (the marriage committee or whatever you call it in your church) is aware of the relationship between you two and they kind of put a structure in place that helps you guys stay pure, if you follow it. In dating, most of the time, you are on your own.
 
Urielllla said:
People date for fun; they want to get with someone, have a boyfriend or girlfriend just for fun, not for marriage, though it could lead to it. That's why you see children dating; they're not planning on getting married anytime soon but they do it anyway.

However, courtship is a means to an end, and the end is marriage; not always, but most of the time. It is being in a completely platonic relationship (no kissing, because that's also a sexual activity) with someone you plan on marrying. That's what we see between Joseph and Mary, though they lived in a different time than we. As Christians, our relationship before marriage should be pure from lust, and let's be honest, dating isn't.

Also, in courtship SOMETIMES, the church (the marriage committee or whatever you call it in your church) is aware of the relationship between you two and they kind of put a structure in place that helps you guys stay pure, if you follow it. In dating, most of the time, you are on your own.
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Dating some one from your church is a bit like dating some one that u work with . Seems like a good idea , who knows ? it may work out . If it doesn't ......it can lead to some seriously awkward moments and even cause divisions in those places . We have a very crude saying in the UK , if enough people ask me to repeat it I will but otherwise I shall keep it to myself .
 
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