If you come at it in the fashion that you don't see the relationship between them actually working out as evidenced by his behavior and that he is not getting his needs met by her....
You got a decent chance at not having this all blow up in your face. (Killing messengers is a time honored tradition we still perform today)
You gotta remember...you too are single but NOT wanting to date Bill either....even though another young lady in your group would definitely want to date ol Bill. (Mentioning her obvious desires is not a bad idea while telling Bill what you as a friend see)
Sarah has too many issues....just does. She may be willing or even wanting a guy like Bill. But she doesn't really value him sufficiently to parade him about as "MINE....all you hussies back OFF".
And guys absolutely need to be paraded about as belonging to her....nevermind the rolling eyes and deep sighs about it all. We men really don't mean a bit of it. It's just our pathetic male egoes talking at that moment because honestly we are secretly thrilled to be treated as such.
Good guys have White Knight Syndrome. Nevermind the rust spots in our Armour, the chinks in our bent swords, and our sway backed nags we ride (also beer bellies) we ride off to rescue thou fair maidens from the evil dragons and Mr Snidely who ties them to railroad tracks.
We are really simple creatures in so MANY ways.
Tell him she is a nutcase wacko and will drive him nuts by never being satisfied....he'll get that. There's enough "Red Pill" blogs and videos to get it through his head if he watches those. Or tell him she is outside his accepted parameters on the hot/crazy matrix.
Lots of ways to say it....just be careful being the messenger.
Love it! And I agree with you. I kind of am pointing out the whole, paraded about in a way, just ... more of a flowery way. lol Actually, as a guy... I'd love your take on part of my letter and anyone else who wants to share their opinion. If you were given this, how would you take it?
---- Pasting only part of it ---- (Names obviously changed)
Sara should be your lily among the thorns, just as you should be her apple tree among the forest. That doesn’t mean you will never recognize another woman as attractive. It means the woman you choose should hold a place in your heart and attention that no other woman competes with.
But honestly, this letter isn’t really about Sara in particular. Where you emotionally stand with her is between the two of you. What concerns me is what may be underneath this pattern.
I know the hunger to feel seen. I know what it feels like to want someone’s glance to tell you that you matter in a room full of people. I know the pull of feeling attractive, wanted, noticed, or desired. Believe me, I understand that more than I wish I did.
But you do not need women to remind you what you are worth.
You do not need another glance, another flirtation, or another moment of attention to prove that you are valuable.
The woman who truly sees you is going to see so much more than that anyway. She is going to see your protectiveness. She is going to notice the way you light up when you care about someone. She is going to hear the wisdom in you when you talk about Scripture. She is going to encourage that fire you have for the Lord. She is going to see the parts of you that random attention can never touch.
And I think that is what is worth waiting for.
Don’t settle for shallow moments of validation when what I think you really want is to be deeply known and deeply treasured by one woman who sees you clearly and chooses you fully.
You are smart.
You are handsome.
You are kind.
You are caring.
You are wise.
And you are one of a kind. There is none like you because God made you who you are.
You don’t need a room full of women to validate what God has already made you. Know who you are before God, and when the woman you’ve chosen sees in you what God already sees, let that be enough.
