Hey Tony,
I'm not going to yell at you or something. I'm not even mad at all, I'm going to tell you that I'm Catholic, all my life. I know what you're talking about, I've battled with it ever since the Bible made sense to me, made all sense to me. Ever since God spoke to me...
I was confused, very confused. I've been following the Catholic church as far as I can remember, and then I read the Bible, and it struck me, it stared at me. It made me ask who I am. But I'm happy. Why? Because God did all He can to show me the truth. The truth that religion won't save you, but a relationship in faith with Him will. I'm not and will never be in the right place to judge who are Christians and who are not. And I'm still Catholic, but everything that the Catholic church does, I'm not going to point out anything, but everything that the Catholic church does that is against what God's Word says I don't follow, I walk away from it. It was a very hard place to be at, confused, and not knowing what to believe. But I know now, what ever the world says, I will only follow God. No matter what doctrines and traditions and superstitions man adds to the church that is way against the Scriptures, that depends on you. To follow, or not. God said that we should be careful, for not all are what they claim to be.
I hope instead of saying that it's a straight way to hell, maybe we should preach the Good News, and the Truth to them. So that not only us, but they too, will have salvation. I pray for my family too, I hope you do.
God Bless you Tony.
Baggins