I'm having a slight problem of having no faith that I'll never get a girlfriend.

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Anthos said:
I don't no of any verse of such. but i believe if you should keep your been shy apart and start been friendly, interacting with them making them your friends then you see that there is nothing to it. It's very easy but please don't get carried away and live your Christian life behind because if you do, then you be sinning against God. And let God guide you in your relationship so you wouldn't go off track. Be brave and stay blessed for God loves you. L.O.L.
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Yes, i agree. Also, women are attracted to the confidence level of a potential match. Think about the type of man and husband/father you want to be, and keep a look out for someone who matches that. And yes, Always let God be your guide, and remember, you will attract what you put out. Amen and Gods speed
 
dothackzero said:
So yeah, still having a problem of having no faith in this area...

I don't know how to connect to girls, and God is basically isolating me from them. and I'm not even talking about finding a girlfriend right now. I'm talking just being able to be friends with girls like you guys are able to. Basically, I have absolutely no faith that I'll ever get a girlfriend or married.
Anyway, I know I'm not ready for a girlfriend yet( I personaly want to take care of porn thing before I get one.). The thing that's driving me crazy is that I don't see any chance of me getting one when I am ready.
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Sounds like you dont KNOW what you want. and if your messing with porn, dont drag someone else into that mess! also, dont be so desperate/whiney.
Girls/women dont like that. its uncomfortable and annoying. maybe you should work on yourself for now and spare someone else and yourself the agony of..."howcome it didnt work." pull it together, and (then ) find that match.
 
dothackzero said:
So is their anything in the Bible about God giving us a wife?
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Nothing particularly about a wife, but there is about making the desires of your heart known, and that good gifts to those he asks (Matt 7:11) in accordance to His Will. If God is good and if loves you (which He does), then he must have your best interest in mind. And I hear you! It sucks waiting and wondering if I'll be single for the rest of my life. After all, I might have the gift of singleness (rolls eyes) lol. Apparently, people have said that to Christian singles before... Anyways, I would say, don't hold out for God to drop her right on to your door step. I like the one reply about practicing commenting/complimenting girls in your everyday life to help you with your shyness. Honestly, if I see a guy that looks attractive/ seems like a good person, it is so hard for me to go up and say hi. It is something that I need to work on as well. You're not alone.
 
arwen7 said:
Nothing particularly about a wife, but there is about making the desires of your heart known, and that good gifts to those he asks (Matt 7:11) in accordance to His Will. If God is good and if loves you (which He does), then he must have your best interest in mind. And I hear you! It sucks waiting and wondering if I'll be single for the rest of my life. After all, I might have the gift of singleness (rolls eyes) lol. Apparently, people have said that to Christian singles before... Anyways, I would say, don't hold out for God to drop her right on to your door step. I like the one reply about practicing commenting/complimenting girls in your everyday life to help you with your shyness. Honestly, if I see a guy that looks attractive/ seems like a good person, it is so hard for me to go up and say hi. It is something that I need to work on as well. You're not alone.
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Correction -He gives good gift to those who ask (Matt 7:11). I should read before posting...
 
Shaije said:
Sounds like you dont KNOW what you want. and if your messing with porn, dont drag someone else into that mess! also, dont be so desperate/whiney.
Girls/women dont like that. its uncomfortable and annoying. maybe you should work on yourself for now and spare someone else and yourself the agony of..."howcome it didnt work." pull it together, and (then ) find that match.
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Actually, I do have pretty good idea of the type of girl I'm looking for. As for porn, Jesus taking care of the fight for me.

And besides, if people have to wait to be perfect to get married. The human race would have died out.
 
Brother, I know how you feel. Ive been single all my life, never even went on a date yet. I am in a position where I am not in college yet and kind of stuck at home with the fam and working. Church, work, home has pretty much been my life for the past year.

Don't lose faith in this area, God has someone for you its just the waiting part that is a pain in the butt. :3
 
As a fellow brother, I will encourage you to worry about your own faith. Even though you have not met your future wife, pray for her. (I know it sounds stupid but it really means a lot when you tell your future wife that you have been praying for her daily.) Personally I'm contemplating about writing a prayer journal for my future wife. At the same time, relationships should be focused on one sole thing: the strengthening of faith between both partners. Before you even consider dating a girl, ask yourself: "Would this girl be better off spiritually by dating me?" If the answer to this question is "no," then I would suggest you not to date but to prepare yourself spiritually. With the pornography problem, not only does it come between your relationship with your future spouse, but it also gets in the way of your relationship with God since all sin does.


And don't worry about finding a future wife. Here's some encouragement:

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened." - Matthew 7:7-8

"The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." - Genesis 2:18


Realize that the desire to find a spouse is imprinted in pretty much every man, it's a God-created desire. But we have to rely on God for the correct timing.
 
Just because I pretty much only talk about finding a wife on this website doesn't mean I'm not trying to grow stronger as a Christian in life. Basically, I'm getting very well fed in the word everyday. What I'm lacking in is offline fellowship, and a wife.

*Is tired of people thinking that just because I talk about girls all the time, means that I'm not spending enough time with God or learning more about God.*
 
dothackzero said:
What I'm lacking in is offline fellowship, and a wife.
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Do you go to church? And if you read my post a bit more carefully, I never said you were not close to God. What I meant with my post is that your relationship with Christ is much more important than your future wife. You will meet her in time, just be patient.
 
Usually a couple times a week. But with with the type of social skills I have, I'm just not getting the fellowship I need.
 
dothackzero said:
It really is just hard when things aren't going anywhere...
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Ya if feels like you are a statue in your own life at times. But I find this period of my life with lack of social interaction to be a learning and growing experience with my Lord. Being single in this present time has Brought me even closer to my Jesus.

Even though waiting is hard it just molds us into who God is creating us to become in him. :)

You will be in my prayers brother may u find what u are seeking in Christ.

God bless!
 
I hate where I work. I tried getting the mornings at work instead of the nights(so I'd actually have times for friends and stuff) But they wouldn't let me. And because of that I'm pretty much locked in at working Fri, Sat, Sun nights. Which means it would make it even harder to hangout with friend and finding a wife...

But yeah, please pray for favor to find a new job(Progamming)
 
Will do brother. :)

dothackzero said:
I hate where I work. I tried getting the mornings at work instead of the nights(so I'd actually have times for friends and stuff) But they wouldn't let me. And because of that I'm pretty much locked in at working Fri, Sat, Sun nights. Which means it would make it even harder to hangout with friend and finding a wife...

But yeah, please pray for favor to find a new job(Progamming)
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Hmmm... My mom recently told me this during our sunday school. Life is like a pop quiz, there's an easy quiz,not so difficult quiz, and extremely difficult quiz. It's is like a pattern. For example, today you'll be given an easy quiz and then next day you'll have an extremely difficult quiz. Choosing to face your battles with God by your side is the best game plan you can ever make. There's no problem that you cannot overcome with the help of God. In the midst of crisis, we ought to be faithful and stand firm despite the circumstance and most of all we should rely on Him even more.God uses our tribulation and trials to bring our faith to the next level. I think God is testing you to be more patient.

Do you trust God and believe His promises? Our lack of faith in God can restrict Him from finalizing His work in our lives and molding us to be the person has intended for us to be. When we find it so hard to trust God, be reminded who God really is. If we trust people of strong credibility who may not always keep their promises, then what's the purpose do we have not to trust God who fulfills every promises He makes who trust in Him?


"But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint"
(Isaiah 40:31).


Psalms 37:34 Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see it.

Lamentations 3:25 The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.

Wait for God's perfect time. When we run out of patience, we lose our trust on Him. Don't be pressured that you are stil single coz you are not alone. I know you want to be feel loved and cared by an opposite sex. Well, who doesn't want to feel special? Don't rush things coz what if you'll make a wrong decision. As the song goes, " its so sad to belong to someone else when person comes along." Let God make your love story and hand him the pen so that he can start writing your love story. Instead of complaining to God why are you still single, why dont you pray for your future wife. :P
 
dothackzero said:
I hate where I work. I tried getting the mornings at work instead of the nights(so I'd actually have times for friends and stuff) But they wouldn't let me. And because of that I'm pretty much locked in at working Fri, Sat, Sun nights. Which means it would make it even harder to hangout with friend and finding a wife...

But yeah, please pray for favor to find a new job(Progamming)
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Dothackinfinitybuddy, I'm going to go out on a limb here.....

God has blessed you with a job, which a lot don't even have these days, and, not only that, but a GOOD job, if 'programming' means 'computer programming.'

$o, that $@id at you, Christ bro, you are STILL 3-4 years under the average age (27, 28) people get married these days, so, that doesn't say any thing more than 'statistic,' so, that is that. And, this is this, we are to follow the Lord for our life, read the Word, pray for understanding, be blessed as He in us leads us to all Truth, for God is The Spirit of all Truth.

What is God speaking to you now, DHi ???

Why are you frustrated with His way for your life, it is on c.c. now, and, maybe not my tried, imparted help to you helps much, but, surely God has shown you many who have spoken Truth to you that has resonated/stuck with you.

Again, don't want God to hurry up, because then Satan could hurry in. Be content with your GOOD life now, and, as I say time and again, I am 100% supportive of your coming on here and being accountable. I hope, if led, the Lord leads, look into an elder or even fellow singles buddy to be accountable with. Ultimately, remember, God works in us, delivers.us from bondage in our lives, follow Him.

Loosen up, lighten up, be confident, God KNOWS exactly what He has out there perfect for you, just see this as His time to grow you closer ti Him, like lilyofthelight said.

Find yourself COMPLETELY seeking Him, and God only knows, but since our hearts'desires are given us for delighting in Him, as ArewenHis said, in so many words , of Matthew, 'Good gifts given those who ask,' is good, and, 'Ask in His name and you shall receive,' not to mention psalms 37:4 says, you very well, Christ bro, could find a 'her,,' which will be from Him, in His perfect timing for you :)
 
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GreenNnice said:
Dothackinfinitybuddy, I'm going to go out on a limb here.....

God has blessed you with a job, which a lot don't even have these days, and, not only that, but a GOOD job, if 'programming' means 'computer programming.'

$o, that $@id at you, Christ bro, you are STILL 3-4 years under the average age (27, 28) people get married these days, so, that doesn't say any thing more than 'statistic,' so, that is that. And, this is this, we are to follow the Lord for our life, read the Word, pray for understanding, be blessed as He in us leads us to all Truth, for God is The Spirit of all Truth.

What is God speaking to you now, DHi ???

Why are you frustrated with His way for your life, it is on c.c. now, and, maybe not my tried, imparted help to you helps much, but, surely God has shown you many who have spoken Truth to you that has resonated/stuck with you.

Again, don't want God to hurry up, because then Satan could hurry in. Be content with your GOOD life now, and, as I say time and again, I am 100% supportive of your coming on here and being accountable. I hope, if led, the Lord leads, look into an elder or even fellow singles buddy to be accountable with. Ultimately, remember, God works in us, delivers.us from bondage in our lives, follow Him.

Loosen up, lighten up, be confident, God KNOWS exactly what He has out there perfect for you, just see this as His time to grow you closer ti Him, like lilyofthelight said.

Find yourself COMPLETELY seeking Him, and God only knows, but since our hearts'desires are given us for delighting in Him, as ArewenHis said, in so many words , of Matthew, 'Good gifts given those who ask,' is good, and, 'Ask in His name and you shall receive,' not to mention psalms 37:4 says, you very well, Christ bro, could find a 'her,,' which will be from Him, in His perfect timing for you :)
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Computer programming is what I want to get into. Right now, I'm just pushing carts at a Grocery store.
 
If you trust in God, delight yourself in Him, he WILL give you the desires of your heart, dodudebuddy.

Try not to focus on this encompassing subject of finding a girl, focus on God.

Can you do that for Him ? He wants you to do daily devotionals, read through the bible (get an 'inductive' study bible) , and, just get into the Word.

Girls who love God won't tell you what their doing while waiting for God's chosen knight to come shining into their life, but, I can tell you this, GIRLS LOVE SCRIPTURE. You want a girl, right,, and, you don't just want any girl that happens to walk by? No, you don't. You want a girl, maybe 'the girl' is a better way to put it, who is following God. And, that is what I mean, kind of, by what I.said earlier: You chase after God, and, how to do it is by DEVELOPING A PRAYER LIFE in addition to what other kind of thing in your life?

Scripture !


Get a girl , better chance, anyway, as you won't get a girl until the Lord leads it to.happen and THAT is how you want it to happen


Throughout bible times, God used people who showed a heart to serve God: Hannah who was barren and became pregnant with 'major prophet' Samuel, Abraham showed willingness to sacrifice only son so God made Abe blessed and 'the father of many nations (12 tribes of Israel), Saul listened to God, and, became great missionary.

That list goes on and on of people after God's own heart, like David, the youngest boy, who was a lowly shepherd, and, God made Him a king and great army general, for His love for God at a teen age. Joseph, youngest of 12 brothers, stayed faithful to God through so much early on in life, and, became 2nd in command, only with less leadership than Pharoah.

God bless you, Christ bro, I hope and pray God is understood by you as 'just,' and will show you great things as you seek after Him with all your heart .

Scripture. Read it, learn it, memorize, dot buddy , God's Word, just reciting scripture will do so much for your walk with God :)
 
You know the devil does his best to knock us children of God down on our butts. When those thoughts start popping into your mind you need to picture the devil whispering those thoughts into your ear and just reject them. Instead picture the kind of lady that our Lord may have for you and let the excitement of you putting your faith and hope in our Lord to provide you with the perfect wife for you....fill you up. You are what you think. The Bible states that to be the truth. This will sum it up for you when these thoughts start to torture you again. God: Is Love and perfect peace the Devil: Is Hate and Evil. You have the power to chose to let something into your mind. You have the power to chose how it affects you. Realize your own personal power and believe in our Lord. The devil walks around looking to devour those who are unaware. Don't be caught with your pants down when you need to run. Feel me. Guard your mind. Pray. Never cease praying. And believe that our God is way beyond awesome and good. Lay this at the feet of our Jesus and ask for him to provide a wife for you and then pray for the faith and the patience that you will need until his timing is perfect for your life. Faith is a beautiful gift that he gives to you the more you seek him. The day it dawned on me that I truly trusted God with every fiber of my being was the day that death stopped being something I was afraid of instead I came to realize that life on earth is only the practice before the game. With it came the knowledge that death is only the beginning if you are a child of God. That is when we will truly live because we will be living with God in Heaven. So keep praying. Don't stop. Realize that the walk of a child of God is really sorta hard, the devil makes sure of that. Say quietly I claim the peace of Jesus on Jesus's name, thank you Jesus also. I will pray for you.

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