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**steps up next to Jullianna
Let me help you here and I'll try to translate what you're saying in Man-ese. I hope I get this right since I'm not fully fluent in Woman-ese.
Those of us who frequent chat have all seen this scenario. The room is engaged in a discussion (or not) and suddenly some random guy puts the comment in the main, "------ (fill in female screen name) you're ------ (fill in hot, sexy or other objectifying adjective) referring to a lady that was just on mic that has a personal pic as an avatar or is on cam.
What Jullianna is saying is that:
A) For a lady that is attractive who intentionally does not "flaunt" her appearance these comments bring unwanted attention to her appearance. Some ladies are just as self conscious about their beauty as others are about their perceived lack of it. Why? Simple, ladies that have uncommon physical beauty routinely have to deal with other ladies claiming that they are flaunting their beauty even when they don't, and likewise they have to deal with men reducing them to nothing but a body. I'm sure it gets old.
B) There are literally dozens of ways to compliment a woman's appearance without using words that carry the connotation of objectification. If "hot" and "sexy" are the only two adjectives that a man knows that describe a lady's appearance he needs to buy a thesaurus and expand his vocabulary.
I actually had more to say, but I gotta cut this short since I've got some things I need to get done. I may expand on this later.
Let me help you here and I'll try to translate what you're saying in Man-ese. I hope I get this right since I'm not fully fluent in Woman-ese.
Those of us who frequent chat have all seen this scenario. The room is engaged in a discussion (or not) and suddenly some random guy puts the comment in the main, "------ (fill in female screen name) you're ------ (fill in hot, sexy or other objectifying adjective) referring to a lady that was just on mic that has a personal pic as an avatar or is on cam.
What Jullianna is saying is that:
A) For a lady that is attractive who intentionally does not "flaunt" her appearance these comments bring unwanted attention to her appearance. Some ladies are just as self conscious about their beauty as others are about their perceived lack of it. Why? Simple, ladies that have uncommon physical beauty routinely have to deal with other ladies claiming that they are flaunting their beauty even when they don't, and likewise they have to deal with men reducing them to nothing but a body. I'm sure it gets old.
B) There are literally dozens of ways to compliment a woman's appearance without using words that carry the connotation of objectification. If "hot" and "sexy" are the only two adjectives that a man knows that describe a lady's appearance he needs to buy a thesaurus and expand his vocabulary.
I actually had more to say, but I gotta cut this short since I've got some things I need to get done. I may expand on this later.
thank you............