Is Remarriage a Continuous sin? (POLL)

[BlackTigress777]

If a husband Divorces his wife for reasons Other than Adultery and NO LONGER wants to be with her EVER again and if the divorced wife finds another husband who's better and more well suited for her, is her Remarriage a Continuous sin, a sin that is forgiven right away because of her intentions to do good with her new husband, or the Original husband's sin (fault) because he Caused her to sin?

 

[AAAPlus]

There's three possible scenarios that the Bible lays out. One is if one partner does not claim to be a Christian at all. If that partner leaves, even though the other believing partner was willing to keep them unconditionally, then the believing partner is free to re-marry. They are not bound in this instance.

Another is if one partner dies. Then the other is free to re-marry.

The last (most common) scenario is if either partner leaves for any other reason. In that case, they both must remain unmarried or else marry each other again. If one of them goes on to marry someone else, that person AND the person they married become adulterers until they break off their marriage.

 

[Strong1]

The only "out" that Jesus "okayed" was for the cause of adultery. I can't find anywhere in scripture where He gave a cause for remarriage. (except death)
I'm 100% positive that many will disagree with me,(and scripture) on this. Oh well.

Yes, today, there are many valid reasons why a person would not want to continue in a marriage, like continuous + adultery, addictions, abuse, disrespect.......the problem is not God's, He gives clear direction not only in maintaining a marriage, but in CHOOSING the right spouse. Anyone who says that their spouse fooled them somehow before marriage, and was a complete other person......well, i'll put money on a bucket of hagen das, a room full of hurting women, and pj's that their in denial.

 

[intercessorginger]

The bible says that if the Unbelieving spouce leaves, you are free to remarry.if the person who is not a believer decides to leave, let that person leave. When this happens, the brother or sister {in Christ} is free. God called you to a life of peace.1 Corinthians 7:15. The sister is no longer bound to consider the one who had forsaken her as her husband.
(John Darby's Synopsis of the New Testament)

 

[jimmydiggs]

You should not re-marry.

Luke 16:18: Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.

Mark 10:11-12: And he said to them, 'Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.'

1 Corinthians 7:10–11 (ESV)
10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

A second marriage is permissible only if the first spouse dies.

1 Corinthians 7:39 (ESV)
39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

Romans 7:1-3, Do you not know, brethren—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only during his life? 2 Thus a married woman is bound by law to her husband as long as he lives; but if her husband dies she is discharged from the law concerning her husband. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies she is free from that law, if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.

That is to say; Couple A married for first time, spouse dies in car accident at 35, other spouse is free to marry. <-- no divorce in this situation

 

[lost1972]

I don't believe god is going to hold you accountable for a wife that leaves, my ex walked out on me, I tried everything to get her back, I told her we needed to go before God and heal the marriage, but she chose to leave anyway, it took me years to decide to get married again, having some issues now but we are trying to work them out,, but I don't believe God is going to hold me accountable to my first wife who abandoned her marriage, she was free to come back for many years and just didn't want to.

 

[RedTent]

I don’t think the real question is in what is sin in regard to marriage and remarriage.

What you are really asking is how to give yourself over completely to God when we are sinful and live in a sinful world. When our whole world has been part of it, can we be made new, can we live a new life in Him?

I think we can. Christ died for our sins, to wipe them out and give complete forgiveness. But I don’t think we can do it a bit at a time, just a step at a time but it takes giving ourselves completely to God’s way, whatever that is for us. I also think that way is personal, God has a plan for each one of us. One way to find that way would be with a fast where the body needs are humbled to take on the spirit of God.

 

[abair]

everyone have right to remarry

 

[RedTent]

[abair; ]everyone have right to remarry

Do you mean that God gives everyone the right to remarry in all circurstances? Do you have scripture back up?

 

[kenisyes]

If Christian A divorces or forces out Christian B, A is guilty of sin. B is free to remarry. (I Cor. 9:5 see below)

If non-Christian C divorces or forces out Christian B, B is free to remarry. C is estranged from God anyway. (I Cor. 7:15)

Jesus' comment applies only to the nature of A's sin: 1.) If B did not commit adultery, the sin is causing adultery (by making B go elsewhere for sex than to A). B commits no sin by I Cor. 7:15, and I Cor. 9:5 (the necessity of a helpmeet for fulfilling God's life call takes precedence over the legal issue.). 2.) If B did commit adultery, A's sin is unforgiveness, unless B has forced A out by other deliberate acts of estrangement. Then it is B's sin and A can remarry. Jesus' did not consider C, since He was addressing the Law which applied only to Jews and to those of us who would be "grafted on".

In any event B can remarry, but should not until he/she has addressed why the behavior took place, as this is part of the repentance that must accompany forgiveness.

 

[flight316]

It seems as though the idea was for married people to be committed and stay together forever due to the difficulties of a broken family. I know the rules but I would think that in certain cases it might be best to leave, such as violence and physical abuse, incest, extreme financial neglect and abuse ( ex. Gambling, severe addictions, death threats, etc. ).

 

[jimmydiggs]

If Christian A divorces or forces out Christian B, A is guilty of sin. B is free to remarry. (I Cor. 9:5 see below)

Talk about eisegesis.

 

[nw2u]

Huh? I didn't see this here. I thought a spouse could divorce if there was adultery in the marriage and both are believers. I thought there was no sin on the spouse who did not commit the adultery and that spouse could remarry. Do I have this right?

 

[OnThisRock]

The Lord will tell you if you are free, as well as lead you to the scriptures to prove how He views the situation! As soon as He did this for me, I was clear and have no doubt. Now he is preparing me for the future. When you follow the Lord closely, He will reveal this over time. I fell into legalism on this matter, and the Lord quickly led me out of it because He has a path for my life, and is really specific how things will be fulfilled. But, I will not claim that my path is right for each person. The Lord has a special plan for each person. God is a Spirit. Follow the Spirit's leading!

What GOD joins together, no man can separate. Alot of people are getting married without God's full permission and guidance on the matter and then feel stuck and confused about it. Seek God first, and all things will be revealed.

 

[nw2u]

Mathew19:9 Fornication is only reason to excuse divorce.

1 corinthians Better not to marry. Can marry if it will keep us from sinning further. We serve our wives instead of God. We put earthly things before God. We won't be damned for it.

 

[lost1972]

It seems as though the idea was for married people to be committed and stay together forever due to the difficulties of a broken family. I know the rules but I would think that in certain cases it might be best to leave, such as violence and physical abuse, incest, extreme financial neglect and abuse ( ex. Gambling, severe addictions, death threats, etc. ).

it is, but if your spouse leaves you, and refuses to reconcile the marriage, God isn't going to hold you accountable for that spouses sin

 

[Strong1]

Do we all agree, that God honors vows that we make, or holds us to them? Can that be backed up with scripture? (Matt 5: 33-48)
How can we say the same vows to more than one person, (Im not even speaking spiritually, but I guess it still would be) "For better or for worse.......in sickness and in health....TILL DEATH DO US PART"
I just cannot find any way to justify remarriage beyond the death of a spouse, according to scripture or even the laws of FORGIVENESS, that God expects from us.

It's really easy to convince your self to do something outside of God's will for our lives because of discomfort, and say "God has given me the okay" It's also very dangerous.

 

[AAAPlus]

Do we all agree, that God honors vows that we make, or holds us to them? Can that be backed up with scripture? (Matt 5: 33-48)
How can we say the same vows to more than one person, (Im not even speaking spiritually, but I guess it still would be) "For better or for worse.......in sickness and in health....TILL DEATH DO US PART"
I just cannot find any way to justify remarriage beyond the death of a spouse, according to scripture or even the laws of FORGIVENESS, that God expects from us.

It's really easy to convince your self to do something outside of God's will for our lives because of discomfort, and say "God has given me the okay" It's also very dangerous.

This. 100% agree.

To those who voted that it's okay to remarry if your intentions are good; no, your intentions are selfish. Rather than following the way of life God (one who knows WAY better than you) laid down for you, you're deciding that you'd rather do things your own way.

Your intentions do not have any effect on what the Bible says. Can you murder someone if your intentions are good? What if they were a terrible teacher/professor and you're saving all their students the trouble by murdering them, is it okay to murder because of your good intentions? What about robbing a bank so you can pay your bills; your intentions were good. Actually, they were selfish. What about stealing a car so you can take some orphans to the ice cream store? You had good intentions, but you'll still be punished just as harshly.

Divorcing and then re-marrying is wrong.

So someone might argue "I've been divorced, does that mean that since I made a mistake I have to now spend the rest of my life alone?". You're looking at it the wrong way. For one, your ex-spouse might eventually come around. Don't think that's possible through God? Read the new testament and see what awesome stuff God does through people, and how He changes lives. Say they don't come around...well, then you're still not "alone". God just means for you to not be married right now. You can either accept that or you can live your life in open rebellion against Him. This is a broken world, and if you're divorced I just want to say that my heart breaks for you. That's the worst thing I think can happen to a person. God clearly shows all through scripture that He wants you to be married. But this is a broken world, so not everyone will be. But consider that spending the rest of your life "alone" is absolutely nothing in light of God's eternal salvation.

 

[John51]

Where does repetance, grace and resoration fit in here?

 

[chuinchoy]

1) Anyone who divorse his wife and marries another women commits ADULTERY (Mark 10:11).
2) Anyone who divorse her husband and marries another man, commits ADULTERY (Mark 10:12).
3) The man who marries the divorced women, commits ADULTERY (Luke 16:18).
4) A wife MUST not seperate from her husband. But if she does, she MUST remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband MUST not divorce his wife (1Corinthians 7:10-11).