Is Remarriage a Continuous sin? (POLL)

[chuinchoy]

A man who commits adultery lacks judgement, whoever does so DESTROY HIMSELF (Proverbs 6:32). To those who are interested to know what did King Solomon, the wises man ever lived has to say about adultery, please read Proverbs chapter 5, chapter 6 :20-35, Proverbs charter 7.

 

[chuinchoy]

For those who wants to know what our bible says about marriage/divorce, please read 1 Corinthian chapter 7.

 

[lost1972]

1) Anyone who divorse his wife and marries another women commits ADULTERY (Mark 10:11).
2) Anyone who divorse her husband and marries another man, commits ADULTERY (Mark 10:12).
3) The man who marries the divorced women, commits ADULTERY (Luke 16:18).
4) A wife MUST not seperate from her husband. But if she does, she MUST remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband MUST not divorce his wife (1Corinthians 7:10-11).

my ex wife walked out and asked for a divorce, I do not believe god is going to hold me accountable for her actions, I left the door open for many years for her to come back, and she was simply not interested.. I had no interest in wanting her to leave or wanting a divorce but that's what she wanted,

 

[jimmydiggs]

it is, but if your spouse leaves you, and refuses to reconcile the marriage, God isn't going to hold you accountable for that spouses sin

The only situation where re-marriage is allowed that I can find in scripture, is when the spouse dies.

 

[niceguyJ]

Where does repetance, grace and resoration fit in here?

That question could be asked in a lot of situations. I think the answer is always the same though:

Someone who seeks Jesus and repents will certainly be forgiven. However, sin has consequences that can last after that forgiveness has happened.
Sometimes the sins of others do effect us, unfortunately.

Lets say a man murders another. He goes to prison with a life sentence. He repents and comes to Jesus while serving that sentence. Are they just going to let him out then? Nope. He still must endure the consequences of the sin he committed and stay in prison. The family of the victim in this scenario also has to endure the sadness this man has caused their family, even though they were totally innocent. Sin has consequences.
God never said life would be easy all of the time in this fallen world.

 

[John51]

All this is true....it is a sin and leads to adultry......it sounds like your saying there is no way back.
If he walked away.....she can not make him come back. She can only seek forgivness, repent and be restored.
Where is the love and grace?

 

[chuinchoy]

my ex wife walked out and asked for a divorce, I do not believe god is going to hold me accountable for her actions, I left the door open for many years for her to come back, and she was simply not interested.. I had no interest in wanting her to leave or wanting a divorce but that's what she wanted,

What is the reason behind that your wife leaves you. I am sure that there is a reason. It takes 2 to tango. Can you resolved that on your part first, then only on her part when she see you change?

 

[chuinchoy]

All this is true....it is a sin and leads to adultry......it sounds like your saying there is no way back.
If he walked away.....she can not make him come back. She can only seek forgivness, repent and be restored.
Where is the love and grace?

She should find out the reason why he walked away then to resolve them. In any relationship, it alway takes 2 to tango.

 

[John51]

not loving

 

[lost1972]

She should find out the reason why he walked away then to resolve them. In any relationship, it alway takes 2 to tango.

no sometimes it just takes one to decide they dont want to be married anymore and walk out, I'm sick of hearing that it's always both persons fault, both spouses may have made mistakes, but usually one wants to save the marriage and one doesn't. Dont blame the person who wants to save the marriage, after my ex left I was devastated, I think at one point I lost touch with reality and made a very serious attempt at suicide. Do you think a compassionate God is going to look at the heartbroken spouse who wants to save the marriage and has done everything they could, to save it, and say, no you must now spend the rest of your life alone because your wife abandoned you?

 

[jimmydiggs]

Do you think a compassionate God is going to look at the heartbroken spouse who wants to save the marriage and has done everything they could, to save it, and say, no you must now spend the rest of your life alone because your wife abandoned you?

Give me some scripture detailing when re-marriage is allowed. Thx.

 

[chuinchoy]

no sometimes it just takes one to decide they dont want to be married anymore and walk out, I'm sick of hearing that it's always both persons fault, both spouses may have made mistakes, but usually one wants to save the marriage and one doesn't. Dont blame the person who wants to save the marriage, after my ex left I was devastated, I think at one point I lost touch with reality and made a very serious attempt at suicide. Do you think a compassionate God is going to look at the heartbroken spouse who wants to save the marriage and has done everything they could, to save it, and say, no you must now spend the rest of your life alone because your wife abandoned you?

I am sorry that i upset you, thousand apologies. I also understand / appreciate your situation right now. The reason being you are the one whom iam speaking to not your ex. If your ex were here, I would have said the samething to her. At this moment, I could only see that you be the one to initiate the saving part. God will give you whatever you need to do it if you are willing.

It is my own personal views that whenever a conflict occurs, we should look at the root-cause and come out with ways to resolve it rather than blaming each other because that would not resolve the conflict. It is going to bring more hurts and make the situation worse.

 

[chuinchoy]

not loving

Not loving=no burning fire. Should put more fire so that love is rekindled.

 

[lost1972]

I am sorry that i upset you, thousand apologies. I also understand / appreciate your situation right now. The reason being you are the one whom iam speaking to not your ex. If your ex were here, I would have said the samething to her. At this moment, I could only see that you be the one to initiate the saving part. God will give you whatever you need to do it if you are willing.

It is my own personal views that whenever a conflict occurs, we should look at the root-cause and come out with ways to resolve it rather than blaming each other because that would not resolve the conflict. It is going to bring more hurts and make the situation worse.

this was in 1991 I waited years for her to come back she simply had no interest in doing so, tried everything I could to make her stay and she simply didn't want to, came home from work and she had cleaned the place out and gone back to mom and dad, who didn't help the situation

 

[onlinebuddy]

The verses quoted above, pin the issue down clearly. I thank those whose posts I have "liked."

The final verdict comes from scripture, and scripture is clear that divorce is not God's plan. Also, remarriage is not God's plan, whatever the reason may be. The provision for remarriage is made only on one condition: if the spouse dies, and that too is not advised.

Yes, at times remarriage can be encouraging, but we must not seek encouragement outside God's will. By doing so, we sin against God. If we obey God, he has ways of encouraging us. We will be better off obeying him than doing our own thing.

 

[ritelec]

Marriage ...till death..............end of story...there are no if's.!!!

 

[lost1972]

I was going to note that the ex also wasn't a christian, She was catholic but didn't want to attend church or anything, I told her God would save the marriage if we came before him and asked for him to reconcile things, but she didn't want to do that. I pray for my ex, I believe she may have started attending a christian church now, my current wife was married twice, first husband molested her daughter, she divorced him, then later tried to fix things and he did it again, second husband beat her, both of them have passed away now

 

[killerrabbitrunaway]

If a husband Divorces his wife for reasons Other than Adultery and NO LONGER wants to be with her EVER again and if the divorced wife finds another husband who's better and more well suited for her, is her Remarriage a Continuous sin, a sin that is forgiven right away because of her intentions to do good with her new husband, or the Original husband's sin (fault) because he Caused her to sin?

Don't listen to ANYONE on here--listen to what God tells you. What do YOU think/feel/believe? These are just people talking on here. Some of these responses are exactly why I'm afraid to even stay on this Christian path--because of other Christians, and their judgment on me...Maybe this wasn't such a good idea, after all--this is the 2nd time I've been on here, and been disheartened by others, rather than feeling any of Christ's love.

 

[loveme1]

Matthew 5

Consider this

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

 

[AAAPlus]

. Do you think a compassionate God is going to look at the heartbroken spouse who wants to save the marriage and has done everything they could, to save it, and say, no you must now spend the rest of your life alone because your wife abandoned you?

I wrote this earlier in this thread, and I'll just emphasize this again:

So someone might argue "I've been divorced, does that mean that since I made a mistake I have to now spend the rest of my life alone?". You're looking at it the wrong way. For one, your ex-spouse might eventually come around. Don't think that's possible through God? Read the new testament and see what awesome stuff God does through people, and how He changes lives. Say they don't come around...well, then you're still not "alone". God just means for you to not be married right now. You can either accept that or you can live your life in open rebellion against Him. This is a broken world, and if you're divorced I just want to say that my heart breaks for you. That's the worst thing I think can happen to a person. God clearly shows all through scripture that He wants you to be married. But this is a broken world, so not everyone will be. But consider that spending the rest of your life "alone" is absolutely nothing in light of God's eternal salvation.

Don't listen to ANYONE on here--listen to what God tells you. What do YOU think/feel/believe?

Going off of what you feel rather than what the Bible says is true leads to a weak relationship with God. He lays down what is right, not your feelings. I can't find anywhere in the Bible where strong followers of God went off of their feelings...but somehow many in our modern day church think that "following your heart" is deeply spiritual. In many cases where the Bible doesn't say anything about it (for example; where you should buy a house or where you should take a job, what laundry detergent to buy, etc) then by all means follow your heart. But not for something like this.