Sleeping in the same bed with your bf/gf?

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I suggest if you had no other choice but to sleep in the same bed with your girlfriend or boyfriend getting some barbed wire, masking tape and a glue gun
 
if a girl had barbed wire, masking tape and a glue gun in her bedside table id be very worried
 
This is the craziest thing I've ever seen, and I'm surprised at some of the responses.

If you fear God and want to stay holy, why put yourself in spiritual danger?

We're told (by the Lord) to pray "Lord lead us not into tempation", and then we're gonna lead ourselves right into temptation? Does that make any sense?

Not to mention, the appearance of it. We had sort of a student church in our home in Thailand, and one of the supposedly born again students was sleeping with his girlfriend. We talked to him about it, and he claimed that they were simply sleeping in the same bed, with no sexual activity. That was too hard for us to believe. After pressing him more, he finally acknowledged that yes, of course, they were sexually active. (And since he wouldn't repent, we "handed him over to Satan", or in nicer terms, should I say, we corrected him, told it to the church, and banned him from our meeting until or unless he would repent.)

The Bible is very serious about sexual sin. Why take it lightly and put yourself in such a tempting situation?

But many Christians today think it's okay to "cuddle", "kiss", "make out", etc., before marriage. So why not sleep in the same bed, and do all that too? (I'm being sarcastic of course.)

"Be holy, for I am holy."
 
cheeky said:
I think it would be ok. As long as you are both on the same page about no sex before marriage. I think its going a little far saying that if you can sleep in the same bed without having sex means your not in love. I think it would be possable. As long as you have a back up plan for those times when temptation is knocking on the door like someone goes to sleep on the couch! lol
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Or you could just go eat ice cream...
 
But many Christians today think it's okay to "cuddle", "kiss", "make out", etc., before marriage. So why not sleep in the same bed, and do all that too? (I'm being sarcastic of course.)
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I agree. Kissing is really a form of foreplay.
 
RoboOp said:
This is the craziest thing I've ever seen, and I'm surprised at some of the responses.

If you fear God and want to stay holy, why put yourself in spiritual danger?

We're told (by the Lord) to pray "Lord lead us not into tempation", and then we're gonna lead ourselves right into temptation? Does that make any sense?

Not to mention, the appearance of it. We had sort of a student church in our home in Thailand, and one of the supposedly born again students was sleeping with his girlfriend. We talked to him about it, and he claimed that they were simply sleeping in the same bed, with no sexual activity. That was too hard for us to believe. After pressing him more, he finally acknowledged that yes, of course, they were sexually active. (And since he wouldn't repent, we "handed him over to Satan", or in nicer terms, should I say, we corrected him, told it to the church, and banned him from our meeting until or unless he would repent.)

The Bible is very serious about sexual sin. Why take it lightly and put yourself in such a tempting situation?

But many Christians today think it's okay to "cuddle", "kiss", "make out", etc., before marriage. So why not sleep in the same bed, and do all that too? (I'm being sarcastic of course.)

"Be holy, for I am holy."
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Amen to that, RoboOp
 
RoboOp:

I appreciate your input. You know, as humans, and especially when we're young... it almost seems innate to find a way to "bend" or try to "work around" the "rules" as much as possible. Or at least, of course, we all want to know how close we can get and still "not be accused of doing anything wrong."

The Christian author Philip Yancey noted in one of his books that God made rules for just about everything in the Old Testament (including instructions not to boil a young goat in its mother's milk), and that the Israelites "made it a national pasttime of breaking every single one of those commandments."

It's like a small child who wants to know how close he can get to the line without supposedly crossing it... and an adult may say, "Don't even get near that line!"

We humans always want to do the bare minimum and observe the least amount of restriction (whether it be in relationships, work, finances, etc.) and still be seen as righteous before God.
 
Sorry for the double post...

I also wanted to say, and I hope it's not disrespectful, but I'm glad some of these more controversial topics are here because in the past few years, a co-worker of mine started coming to church with me and was saved (thanks to God.)

She came from a family with NO religious background--it was all free love, drugs, etc. SO, she had and still has TONS of questions about what it means to be a Christian.

To us Christians who were raised in the faith or have been with it so long, it seems like clockwork... and ridiculous to some... but to these people who have no concept of God and His views on right and wrong...

I think it's very important that we have these discussion in order to help meet people at their own level of faith, even if they're just starting out. I never realized someone wouldn't realize this or that was wrong because I was raised with it for so long... but for someone who was raised with, "Sleep with whoever you want; do whatever feels good; smoke this, you'll feel better"--the Christian way of life can come as a huge shock and I hope talking about these things helps ease the transition, as well as teaches us "old timers" how to better aid those new (or considering looking into) the faith.

God bless!
 
Ok now sleeping in the same bed as your dog....that's not weird right?
 
Lol. If we are going to take about animals in bed, on any given day there can be between 1-5 cats sharing my bed with me. And yes, I AM a wierdo, so since I already called myself one, Sam, I think you won't need to.
 
AlaynaJ said:
Lol. If we are going to take about animals in bed, on any given day there can be between 1-5 cats sharing my bed with me. And yes, I AM a wierdo, so since I already called myself one, Sam, I think you won't need to.
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lol hey....... i wasnt gonna say nothin bout it
 
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