Tips for asking women out.

[seoulsearch]

There will be girls swarming to Twilight parties all over the country this weekend. You could style your hair all spikey like, dab on a little body glitter/dark lip stain, and wear a "Team Edward" t-shirt.

I'm curious to see if StillWaters is more of a Team Jacob fan. I mean, the hair and the glitter are a given but I kinda think he's rooting for Jake.

 

[Oncefallen]

There will be girls swarming to Twilight parties all over the country this weekend. You could style your hair all spikey like, dab on a little body glitter/dark lip stain, and wear a "Team Edward" t-shirt.

Any man that does this is deserving when this happens

 

[Jullianna]

*tries to picture Oncefallen doing the Team Edward thing* nope....I got nuttin'

 

[Oncefallen]

^^this is a good thing.

 

[BarlyGurl]

Be yourself.

Be honest.
Be sincere.
Be genuine.
Be a gentleman.



This [apparently] is not what women want...



Yes it is!!! the problem might be that you are unable to identify the "KIND" of woman who wants that???

 

[GuyforChrist85]

lol this made me laugh, but its kind of true. at least for the initial date. the girl has to be interested in you first and waiting a few days will allow some women to sort out their thoughts and feelings. its the mystery that sometimes draws one in and as I said before most women like leaders not followers.

the thing that annoyed me the most when I was dating was a man who wanted me to plan everything and thought he was "empowering" me. it just seem unnatural and annoying. sometimes guys just need to step up and make some choices and make the effort to plan a date ahead of time.

I guess its the practical side of me that thinks if a guy can plan ahead about something as simple as a date, perhaps he can plan ahead for a future family and may be intelligent enough to be reliable when it come to timing, money, etc. However in the end it doesn't really matter when it comes to matters of the heart, the mind does not always have much say, but it does sometimes have veto power.

It's a funny thing that what works is completely counter-intuative. Now I am speaking strictly about the first stages of dating with my previous post. No matter what a lot of women will say, one of the most important things a guy can bring at the beginning is challenge. Do women want the fairy-tale love story? Of course, but that Prince Charming behavior just comes across as neediness from most guys. Do that if you are after a lot of girl "friends". Save that stuff for later when there is actual feeling behind it, and it's genuine. Too little is much better than too much.

About the calling part: If you call her the next day a lot of women will translate that to "This guy has no life" or "This guy has not had a date in years.". If she's got an interest level through the roof from the start it will not matter though.

God programmed so much of this, just like the leading part. It's biblical that the man leads. Now I believe that it's most definately a joint equal partnership, but there are rules to fulfill for both parties.

While my non lost puppy dog approach may not be popular, it is what works.

 

[violakat]

*tries to picture Oncefallen doing the Team Edward thing* nope....I got nuttin'

Must resist doing pic.

 

[violakat]

About the calling part: If you call her the next day a lot of women will translate that to "This guy has no life" or "This guy has not had a date in years.". If she's got an interest level through the roof from the start it will not matter though.

God programmed so much of this, just like the leading part. It's biblical that the man leads. Now I believe that it's most definately a joint equal partnership, but there are rules to fulfill for both parties.

While my non lost puppy dog approach may not be popular, it is what works.

So, lets see, how well has this method of not calling for several days worked for you? Because, most women I know, you would never have a chance.

 

[violakat]

So, lets see, how well has this method of not calling for several days worked for you? Because, most women I know, you would never have a chance.

I think I'm too tired, cause I feel like I'm being very rude here. Sorry Guy

 

[GuyforChrist85]

I think I'm too tired, cause I feel like I'm being very rude here. Sorry Guy

No offense taken at all =) I'll agree that there is a percentage of women that frown upon this, but in my experience it was pretty low. It's more or less just the guy focusing on his purpose in life and not so much "you cannot call within 3 days or she'll reject you!"

And to answer the question, it worked very well with most and ultimately has gotten me engaged to a wonderful woman.

 

[GRA]

Yes it is!!! the problem might be that you are unable to identify the "KIND" of woman who wants that???

I started out with the intent to write a "serious" post. So, I wrote those first 'Be *.' lines - followed by two or three additional paragraphs. Then, a certain thought ran through my head that instantly made me decide to "go the funny route"...

And since it was Ritter who started this thread...

I re-wrote the latter part of the post to something I thought he might find humorous.



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[Chrissy77]

The hard reality is...

It doesn't really matter how you ask a girl out. (barring complete creepiness or outright bribery)

She already knows in her heart before you even ask her if she would go out with you or not. (this applies to women you've just met too)

If she likes you it doesn't matter how awkward or embarrassing your attempt to ask her out is, she will still say yes.
And if she doesn't like you it doesn't matter how original, entertaining or well-thought out your attempt to ask her out is, she will still say no.

I must be the odd ball.. Alright no smart comments there. I will have to have a conversation with the man before I ever go out with him. A person can do well by putting up a front but the moment you have one conversation with them, they reveal their true personality, especially on the phone. That is when the answer gets a definite YES or NO.

 

[Ritter]

Well ladies and gents, I gave it a whirl.

First attempt was successful. I'm better at this than I previously thought.

 

[Relena7]

Well ladies and gents, I gave it a whirl.

First attempt was successful. I'm better at this than I previously thought.

So you decided to try the squirrel mascot thing?

 

[Ritter]

No, it was the Republican swag method.

It doesn't work in every area of the country among single young women, but I was in the right place at the right time. All those sleepless nights of making walk routes, reconfiguring the office, and eating things that will surely bring me to an early grave have finally paid off.

 

[Ritter]

A waitress who wasn't waiting my table at the time found it sufficiently interesting.

 

[Strong1]

You go boy!
See? All of the differences of opinions, and strategies, and just........."wow" (Shake your head like...)
ideas prove one thing. Don't ever ask for others advice in this area. Just do Ritter!
I'll bet dollar, none of this even affected you. The opportunity came and you did you......nice. Hope she's all that, and then some.

 

[Jordache]

I've been approached by strangers a lot. I live in Los Angeles and I walk a lot. Meeting a stranger for a date is NOT the way to go. Firstly, you're bound to pick em because their hot. There's no way you can look at a stranger and determine that she has a great personality or if she loves Jesus as much as you do. Perhaps you may meet an interesting stranger. Then become her friend. Pool your friends together and have fun. Then pop the question when you feel you know her a bit better.

 

[Powemm]

you can't put a square peg in a round hole...

Building a relation ship takes time.. Foundations don't cure overnight, they take weeks sometimes to cure properly..
I live on a farm .. take care Of horses and cattle .. Ive often thought how nice it would be if a guy showed up" simply to help.."
Come up along side to assist in the harder things " branding, manning the head gate , etc" stepping up naturally in positions that are very challenging and quite honest put me in positions i sometimes get straineduscles and hurt in....with no motives... sharing a laugh , working together , with no expectations of something going either of our way... Step up and do together what it takes to get whats needed done.. just being. trust builds on solid appearances, showing up to help without being asked..stepping in when no one else does.. words of encouragement when a failure occurs etc... Actions speak louder than so many words.... perhaps instead of asking... Pay attention and show up consistently in the harder things...let your actions speak loudly... Mow a lawn... Fix a fence , or whatever need your talents can help support
... that would definately be eye catching and eye opening for me . anyone can call from a curb anywhere... if you're in a coffee shop and see someone you admire don't ask to buy her a cup of coffee, simply pay ahead of her and buy it.. don't know how much? Pay a five amd tell the guy to put the change in the tip jar in front of her... males in the animal kingdom do elaborate displays when courting... Think outside the box.. Think ahead her every move and see wich steps you can take to make her walk easier . just my two cents

 

[Jullianna]

No, it was the Republican swag method.

It doesn't work in every area of the country among single young women, but I was in the right place at the right time. All those sleepless nights of making walk routes, reconfiguring the office, and eating things that will surely bring me to an early grave have finally paid off.

You gotta post video of that Republican swag thing