Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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P.S. Some women, meaning me at least, perceive clumsiness/nervousness as being sweet. I was once with a guy and could literally see his hands shaking as he reached for his food!! I felt so bad for him. I just tried my best to smile and crack a few jokes and make him feel comfortable.

Don't worry if you don't have the fanciest things or ride either. The first official date I went on when I was about 17 (I was a late bloomer)--the guy took me out in his parents' old, rusted Chevette that he was using until he had enough money to buy his own car (sorry to all of you who've read my post about this before) and I don't think he knew it, but apparently there was a hole in the floor of the car on his side.

It was pouring down rain, and as we drove along the highway.... *SWOOSH*--a HUGE geyser of water shot up from the floor at him while he was driving... I know he was mortified but tried not to show it. I felt terrible for him!! Tried to really put his mind at ease.

But I wound up dating him for four years.

So keep searching for what God has for you... and I pray that God will have you meet the right people (and girls) along the way.
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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seoulsearch said:
All people have cousins, sisters, brothers, friends, contacts. They might get to know you and say, "Hey, you know what? I know this person, I think you'd have a lot in common. Would you like to meet him/her?

Don't give up!
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and yet all of my friends turn into dead ends for finding girls...
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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It does take time, yes. And how much, I have no idea. I've been divorced ten years and am still waiting, and I know that's no comfort. I know how it feels because I get pretty frustrated too.
 
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Boxme

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I was engaged for a nightmarish 4 years.

Was single for a while. Now dating again.

There's a lot to be said for being single.

Quality relationships are a lot of hard work.

It's worth it, don't get me wrong. But don't be in a big hurry.
 
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luke15chick

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I know this isn't exactly addressing the topic, but in a way it is. In this post and in a few others, I have run across the statement that there are no good Christian girls. Now being that I am a female and am on this website and there are numerous other females on this website, it's rude and insulting to say that. I don't say there are no good Christian guys just because I've had a few bad experiences (because I've also had some really good experiences) and actually on a post where a girl did say that I informed her that she needed to be in a different crowd. It would be more accurate for one to say that they have yet to have found a person that is a good fit for them rather than to write off a whole poplulation.
 
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Baptistrw

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luke15chick said:
I know this isn't exactly addressing the topic, but in a way it is. In this post and in a few others, I have run across the statement that there are no good Christian girls. Now being that I am a female and am on this website and there are numerous other females on this website, it's rude and insulting to say that. I don't say there are no good Christian guys just because I've had a few bad experiences (because I've also had some really good experiences) and actually on a post where a girl did say that I informed her that she needed to be in a different crowd. It would be more accurate for one to say that they have yet to have found a person that is a good fit for them rather than to write off a whole poplulation.
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You tell em Rheemus!
 
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luke15chick

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yeah, thanks. it's for you too.
 
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Jordan9

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luke15chick said:
I know this isn't exactly addressing the topic, but in a way it is. In this post and in a few others, I have run across the statement that there are no good Christian girls. Now being that I am a female and am on this website and there are numerous other females on this website, it's rude and insulting to say that. I don't say there are no good Christian guys just because I've had a few bad experiences (because I've also had some really good experiences) and actually on a post where a girl did say that I informed her that she needed to be in a different crowd. It would be more accurate for one to say that they have yet to have found a person that is a good fit for them rather than to write off a whole poplulation.
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Never thought about it like that, wow! I know that the phrase "there are no good Christian girls" is gone from my vocabulary now.
 
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24f

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Hey!

Well i dated someone from when I was 18 for 4 1/2 years and thought I was going to marry the guy... Now I'm 24, I've been single for a year... well I've dated on and off but no relationships. I'm only now at the point where I'm happy being single because I know that God is preparing me for something, not necessarily someONE but for something. I know you've heard it a million times, but just be patient, there clearly isn't anything wrong with you, God probably just doesn't want you wasting time and heartache on relationships that don't work out. It' also clear that you have standards in place for the kind of girl that you want to be with, keep those standards, don't let them drop because of lonliness... I did and now look back with the wonderful gift of hindsight and ask 'Lord what was I thinking???!!!' Our human endevours are useless, we will only accomplish with grace from God, I made the mistake of thinking that I could direct my lovelife and it really didn't work out. Be strong dude, you're cool, sit back and wait for that perfect woman to come crashing into your life!

xx
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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So yeah, I've noticed something very important, and it sucks... There are no girls my age anywhere I go.

I've been going to few grad partys during this week, and there's no girls my age.
I goto 2 diffrent chruchs, and neither one of them have girls my age.
I goto a Bible study on saturdays, no girls my age...
At work, all the girls have boyfriends... But then again none of them talk to me anyway, other than when they need me to do something...
 
dothackzero

dothackzero

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24f said:
It' also clear that you have standards in place for the kind of girl that you want to be with, keep those standards, don't let them drop because of lonliness...
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That's part of it, the rest of it is just that no girl has ever shown any intereast in me...

As far as standards go, I'm looking for....

A girl that loves God, though perferably someone that's about as strong of a Christian as I am. So we'll be able to grow together as Christians..
A girl that hasn't done anything beyond making out with a guy, or another girl. Or in other words a virgin. :p
A girl that's waiting till she's married for sex, or anything else that would be fun in a sexual way.
A girl that doesn't smoke, drink or do drugs.
A girl that has a healthy weight.
A girl that doesn't mind a guy that plays video games, watches anime, or listens to metal, even though they aren't really Christian stuff. And probably even a lot of us would concider it evil. :p

There is more I'm looking for than just this, but I can't really think of the other things. I just tend to notice the other things though obseriving the girl, to figure out what else I like.
 
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SamIam

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my mom gave me great advice she said... you should always marry your best friend. I never had that option cause i didnt have a friend the opposite sex , i wish i would have though... i was in a rush to find that'' person for me'' as it seems you are.. and I thought i had.. and we got married, only to realize we werent friends at all, and i didnt even recognize who this person was after we were married, was like night and day. When we were dating i over looked alot of things, cause i wanted to get married, i had low self confidence like you and a low self esteem, and thought... we'll this is as good as im gonna be able to get so i settled, although i didnt think at the time i was. Were divorced now, but The marriage was a joke, and i'll regret it everday for the rest of my life. I urge you to please be patient and wait on god, . ... and if you do have a best friend thats a girl, i would marry her. I have a best friend now, and even though we will never get married, this is the exact type of person i would wanna marry.
 
dothackzero

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SamIam said:
my mom gave me great advice she said... you should always marry your best friend. I never had that option cause i didnt have a friend the opposite sex , i wish i would have though... i was in a rush to find that'' person for me'' as it seems you are.. and I thought i had.. and we got married, only to realize we werent friends at all, and i didnt even recognize who this person was after we were married, was like night and day. When we were dating i over looked alot of things, cause i wanted to get married, i had low self confidence like you and a low self esteem, and thought... we'll this is as good as im gonna be able to get so i settled, although i didnt think at the time i was. Were divorced now, but The marriage was a joke, and i'll regret it everday for the rest of my life. I urge you to please be patient and wait on god, . ... and if you do have a best friend thats a girl, i would marry her. I have a best friend now, and even though we will never get married, this is the exact type of person i would wanna marry.
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Yeah, that's what I'm planning on doing. The problem is that don't really even have a good friend that's a girl. ;_; Around here I mean.
 
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SamIam

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dothackzero said:
Yeah, that's what I'm planning on doing. The problem is that don't really even have a good friend that's a girl. ;_; Around here I mean.
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who says they have to be around where you live......
 
dothackzero

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chelsers said:
That's a really good point. And what you said above, that was great advice.
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So then I should date a girl in japan then?

What whould you think if I got most of the back of my cut off and left the hair on my front and sides long?
 
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SamIam

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dothackzero said:
So then I should date a girl in japan then?

What whould you think if I got most of the back of my cut off and left the hair on my front and sides long?
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you can date a girl wherever you like.... if you can do long distance and you have the money to fly back and forth to japan.... as for the rest of what you said.......... i think you should shave your head bald paint your face blue and scream FREEEEEEDDOOOOOMMMM at the woman you wanna date....
 
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chelsers

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dothackzero said:
So then I should date a girl in japan then?

What whould you think if I got most of the back of my cut off and left the hair on my front and sides long?
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Why not? People move all the time.

I personally like shorter hair on a guy.
 
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