Is attraction always deceptive?

[GRA]

I definitely can't top what GRA said...

WOW! I am not used to being at the 'top' of anything...

(Except the "roll call" list when I was in school.)

"I promise not to let it make my head swell..."



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[djness]

That's the funny thing about attraction though. The guy who looks like a Ken doll might be a downright jerk, and suddenly... he starts to look pretty doggone ugly, even when you try to justify all his self-centered actions.

On the other hand, the guy with the crooked tooth, messy hair, and lanky walk might not look like an Abercrombie model but you might see that he has a way with kids or prays with people or helps those around him... and you may find yourself pretty smitten.

The Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things... and even Samuel thought he knew which of Jesse's sons would surely be king. Certainly not the runt of the litter who was so overlooked they hadn't even bothered calling him... to them, he was just a little boy out watching sheep.

I don't know if this will help anyone else, but I went through times when I was very attracted to several guys right in a row (and yes, came to dread the feeling as well) and now I'm rarely attracted--sometimes, of course, but not often.

When I asked God what was going on, He told me it was the attention that I was attracted to. The idea of someone paying attention to me... the idea of being a couple... the idea of having someone blow up my phone every five seconds. Ever since I've been praying for the right desires instead of just attention or escape from the boredom of reality, it's been easier.

Not without a lot of rough spots. But I feel "cleaner" in my heart (fewer life-draining attachments) and more at peace.

1 Samuel 16:12
So he sent and had him brought in. He was ruddy, with a fine appearance and handsome features. Then the LORD said, "Rise and anoint him; he is the one."
David was a handsome fellow.

 

[GRA]

Given the many examples of demon possesed people in the bible , their ferocious behavior at any given time, how does a demon posessed person attend church regularly, get married and then is one day just ''found out''?
I have never met a person who is posseed nor will i ever hopefully, but it doesn't seem like they just carry on busniness as usual without anyone ever knowing.

You might just be very suprised at how many "demon possessed" people you have "run across" in your daily life who "just carry on business as usual" without [those around them] ever knowing "what is inside"...

Satan has learned [from history] that he can "make more in-roads" into every society by utilizing more subtle ways - which allows him to influence more people (even Christians).

Someone who is "demon possessed" does not necessarily [always] 'exhibit' behavior that is "ferocious" in outward appearance...

In recent history, there has been a great movement (world-wide) - that most people are totally unaware of (and not inclined to believe) - of Satan-Worshippers (sometimes called Luciferians) - who voluntarily "give themselves over" to Satan - who want to be "demon possessed"...

"And you wonder why the governments of the world have 'gone crazy'..."

"And you wonder why congress has been making 'utterly-stupid' laws..."

(that 'defy' all of "common sense")

"Yet - folks (Christians, even) just refuse to believe that Satan has made 'deep in-roads' into every major organization on the earth..."

("It is very sad...")

Yes - Satan is VERY 'subtle' and VERY "crafty" -- deceiving even born-again Christians who have the Holy Spirit...

("Just pointing this out - I don't mean to de-rail the thread...")



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[zeroturbulence]

I have come to despise the feeling of being attracted to someone.

There have been so many.
Oh so many.
That I've been attracted to.

To me attraction seems 100% unreliable.
So unreliable, I don't even want to act it on anymore.
No let me rephrase.

So unreliable, I don't want to feel it anymore.

My sense of attraction has occurred so often, and been wrong so many times, I just want it to go away.
I feel like attraction may be one of the ultimate deceptions for me.

But here's the thing.
What if there is that ONE time attraction will lead me in the right direction

Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?

Megatron says..

"There is no Decepticon named Attraction, my friend."

 

[GRA]

In recent history, there has been a great movement (world-wide) - that most people are totally unaware of (and not inclined to believe) - of Satan-Worshippers (sometimes called Luciferians) - who voluntarily "give themselves over" to Satan - who want to be "demon possessed"...

In fact, there are so many of these people in the world today that - the probability is VERY HIGH that 'there be some who are members of CC - masquerading as Christians'...

Something to think about...



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[Descyple]

I have found that attraction "towards" me is often deceptive. When women first see me, they think I am Brad Pitt. But when they find out I know nothing about the movie "Legends of the Fall", they realize I am not who they thought I was.

So yes, attraction can be deceptive!!!

P.S. I wonder if humor can be deceptive too - lol.

 

[Jullianna]

Yes - the personality traits of a person are more 'critical' in the "bigger picture" of relationships. And, that being said, I would also say that physical attraction can be deceptive if it "hides" something in the personality traits that is "undesirable"...

But - "as a rule" - I do not believe that attraction is always deceptive.



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I'm not a fan of using absolutes like "always" or "never", but I suppose we all do it, huh? I agree that neither is always deceptive.

One interesting thing is that the deception doesn't always swing the way we expect it to. People often expect highly attractive people to be user jerks and less attractive people to rely more upon attractive personality traits. But, I've met a couple of VERY attractive guys I expected to be silverspooned pretty boys who turned out to be very sweet, honorable, hardworking guys with exceptional family values.

I've also met some folks I might consider to be less physically attractive and discovered it only got uglier closer to the heart...and this caused me to ponder why that might be...which usually causes me to treat them with greater kindness. That sort of ugliness usually results from either a whole lotta pain and suffering or extremely bad life choices, doesn't it?

 

[Jullianna]

I have found that attraction "towards" me is often deceptive. When women first see me, they think I am Brad Pitt. But when they find out I know nothing about the movie "Legends of the Fall", they realize I am not who they thought I was.

So yes, attraction can be deceptive!!!

P.S. I wonder if humor can be deceptive too - lol.

Still not gettin' how this one is still single.... hahaha

 

[Descyple]

Still not gettin' how this one is still single.... hahaha

Perhaps I should increase my knowledge about Brad Pitt's movies, then I could use my Brad Pitt look-alike scenarios to my advantage, and not be single anymore - lol.

Also, when women ask me "How is Angelina" I should stop saying "Who?" That probably gives away my real identity too!

 

[jb]

...Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?

I suppose it all depends on how high you set you sights, if low, then you'll fancy any girl in a skirt, but if high then you start to get a bit of reality in any given instance...

 

[GRA]

I'm not a fan of using absolutes like "always" or "never", but I suppose we all do it, huh?

Exactly...

General Rule: "nothing is 'never' or 'always' - including the "nothing" in this statement..."

One interesting thing is that the deception doesn't always swing the way we expect it to. People often expect highly attractive people to be user jerks and less attractive people to rely more upon attractive personality traits. But, I've met a couple of VERY attractive guys I expected to be silverspooned pretty boys who turned out to be very sweet, honorable, hardworking guys with exceptional family values.

It may be that they did not "have the silver spoon" - and had to "work hard" - thereby "learning the lessons" that then shaped them into who they are. And, they just happen to be "VERY attractive" guys.

I've also met some folks I might consider to be less physically attractive and discovered it only got uglier closer to the heart...and this caused me to ponder why that might be...which usually causes me to treat them with greater kindness. That sort of ugliness usually results from either a whole lotta pain and suffering or extremely bad life choices, doesn't it?

The two things are not by any means "directly connected" to each other. There are many more 'facets' that are "in the equation" -- so many things affect our lives and our attitudes - and thereby, our "dispositions"...

There may be "generalities" that have their basis in truth - but, then again - "not always" necessarily also applies.



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[GRA]

well in the first place, attractive means different things to men and women, so ladies, i know you know what attractive means, because you spend so much time in the bathroom getting ready, but i don't think you feel the same things men do, at least when it comes to being attracted to someone. that's a good thing btw.

...and it 'occurs' differently among men ("and women also, I imagine").

I personally am attracted to the 'natural look' ("no make-up is ideal") - in general, the more make-up a woman wears, the less attractive she is to me ("Especially if she is 'just down-right gaudy' in appearance.") - because, it is artificial. Sure - she may certainly - in an instant - get my attention. But, "the longer I look" - the less I like what I see -- because I cannot see "the real her" - instead, I see 'a mask'.

Please understand the context of the last sentence. To me, it is just as important to see "the real her" in both the 'internal' AND the 'external' - not "covered over" by anything - but, "honest and true"...

Please also understand that I am not saying these things as "an absolute hard-core concrete position on the matter" - I can certainly "deal with" a small amount of make-up that is used to enhance what she already has...

"But, when it goes from 'enhance' to 'create' - is when it becomes a real problem..."

I do not believe in - nor "play into" - the modern (satanic) deception that 'a woman MUST wear make-up or she will not be perceived as attractive'.

"This is just SO wrong - it is NOT true..."

to answer the question though. God made women attractive in that way to get our attention guys. like flowers are beautiful, and smell nice to attract bees. i think Adam looked at Eve for the first time and said "WOW!" being attracted to someone isn't necessarily a sign from heaven that you should try to get to know them better though. its just a thing, but it is fun when you find someone that is attractive, you are attracted to, and they are attracted to you as well. God made it that way, to be fun i think anyway. so no attraction isn't always deceptive.

"Do you enjoy a flower in its 'natural state' - or do you put make-up on it first?"



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[GRA]

"Do you enjoy a flower in its 'natural state' - or do you put make-up on it first?"

"Sounds 'absurd', doesn't it?"

Well...???

We all know what it is like (I imagine) to want to "get away from the man-made things in our world" and experience 'natural' places and things - which we readily and easily determine are by far the most beautiful things we have ever seen... (Because God made and fashioned them.)

Why would the 'natural body' of a human being be any different?

The "whole make-up thing" (the modern extent of it, at least) is nothing but a satanic deception that is designed to make somebody rich while giving women a bad self-image...

THAT is absurd.

Just "food for thought"...



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[zeroturbulence]

I have come to despise the feeling of being attracted to someone.

There have been so many.
Oh so many.
That I've been attracted to.

To me attraction seems 100% unreliable.
So unreliable, I don't even want to act it on anymore.
No let me rephrase.

So unreliable, I don't want to feel it anymore.

My sense of attraction has occurred so often, and been wrong so many times, I just want it to go away.
I feel like attraction may be one of the ultimate deceptions for me.

But here's the thing.
What if there is that ONE time attraction will lead me in the right direction

Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?

Ok here is why I think you feel attractiveness is deceptive...


Follow my logic on this..

1. Most of us are usually only attracted to attractive people (lets face it - have u ever been attracted to someone you find unattractive? See.)

2. Attractive people are also attracted to attractive people.

3. So unless we ourselves are very attractive, we will find ourselves being attracted to those who are not attracted to us.

Capiche?

(capiche = "understood?" in italian)

 

[GRA]

Ok here is why I think you feel attractiveness is deceptive...


Follow my logic on this..

1. Most of us are usually only attracted to attractive people (lets face it - have u ever been attracted to someone you find unattractive? See.)

2. Attractive people are also attracted to attractive people.

3. So unless we ourselves are very attractive, we will find ourselves being attracted to those who are not attracted to us.

Capiche?

(capiche = "understood?" in italian)

"Sounds very familiar..."



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[violakat]

Perhaps I should increase my knowledge about Brad Pitt's movies, then I could use my Brad Pitt look-alike scenarios to my advantage, and not be single anymore - lol.

Also, when women ask me "How is Angelina" I should stop saying "Who?" That probably gives away my real identity too!

You know, there's this portrait of a guy whose holding a camera that you really make me think of. I can't think of who it is right off hand, but it's like your a younger version of him.

 

[zeroturbulence]

"Sounds very familiar..."



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If someone already said that, I don't see it. I just went back and read through.

 

[GRA]

If someone already said that, I don't see it. I just went back and read through.

I was saying that in regard to the partial-sentence "statement" in your post that I 'highlighted' -- as it applies to my life's experiences...

EDIT: I think the 'logic' is good...



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[Descyple]

You know, there's this portrait of a guy whose holding a camera that you really make me think of. I can't think of who it is right off hand, but it's like your a younger version of him.

If you remember who it is that reminds you of me Violakat, do let me know (I just hope it is not DJ Qualls or Pee Wee Herman), that would ruin my whole day!!!

 

[GreenNnice]

Perhaps I should increase my knowledge about Brad Pitt's movies, then I could use my Brad Pitt look-alike scenarios to my advantage, and not be single anymore - lol.

Also, when women ask me "How is Angelina" I should stop saying "Who?" That probably gives away my real identity too!

Maybe, cype, you should go to Tibet, by 7 years I'm thinking someone will pitt, I mean, point you out