There is no checklist, qualification, beauty, intelligence, wisdom or wealth, that can add up to all that simply falling in love accomplishes.
No matter how high and dry the wood is piled, without a spark there will be no fire, simply potential.
If this character were to actually get married, I'm not sure it would have anything to do with love.
Love does not ask, it believes all things.
Love does not seek out darkness, it hopes all things.
Love does not fight, it endures all things.
I don't think Love cares about the appearance of things. It simply is.Similarly Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. Its appearance is unnecessary, only its persistence.
The strange intimacy schedule is telling of a deeper issue. Perhaps there is a wound that needs healing and has not been addressed properly (5 cats) leading her to keep emotional/sexual intimacy at arms length, due to the fear of getting hurt during any feeling of vulnerability. Such deeply rooted guarded mistrust, is desperately hard to overcome, but with help, even this person can experience a healthy life long intimate relationship/marriage.