Hey Everyone,
A recent post reminded me of something that happened in my church as a kid--someone very well-known in the church got married to their opposite gender best friend.
Rumor had it (NO! Say it isn't so!! Rumors in church!) that they two had been best friends for many years and had made an agreement that if neither one was married by age XX, they would marry each other.
Needless to say, the marriage didn't last long... not even a year, I remember correctly.
The two were strong Christians, raised in church, attended Bible colleges, both held positions in the church--they were obviously very Christ-centered--and were best friends... Now I can't say for sure, but I would guess they felt they were on the right path. After all, isn't this the "magical formula" people say will produce the Christian fairytale marriage everyone talks about? So what do you think went wrong?
Have any of you had similar agreements or ideas with a friend? Do you think it would work? Why or why not? Do you know anyone else who's had a "marriage pact", and how did the story turn out?
In high school I had a guy friend who once said that even if he and I never felt romantic love, "We'd be best friends and that's something a lot of people never have." We eventually went separate ways in life and you know how they always say hindsight is 20/20? I don't think we would have succeeded at marriage very well at all. Our friendship was awesome but we were very different people.
HOWEVER, as the years go by... I have a guy friend who knows me better than anyone else in my life and even though there's never had any romanticism involved, I can't say I haven't considered it!!
What makes our hearts so lonely and desperate that we are willing to grasp at what seems like the final straws?
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Of course, the poll is anonymous and multiple choice!
A recent post reminded me of something that happened in my church as a kid--someone very well-known in the church got married to their opposite gender best friend.
Rumor had it (NO! Say it isn't so!! Rumors in church!) that they two had been best friends for many years and had made an agreement that if neither one was married by age XX, they would marry each other.
Needless to say, the marriage didn't last long... not even a year, I remember correctly.
The two were strong Christians, raised in church, attended Bible colleges, both held positions in the church--they were obviously very Christ-centered--and were best friends... Now I can't say for sure, but I would guess they felt they were on the right path. After all, isn't this the "magical formula" people say will produce the Christian fairytale marriage everyone talks about? So what do you think went wrong?
Have any of you had similar agreements or ideas with a friend? Do you think it would work? Why or why not? Do you know anyone else who's had a "marriage pact", and how did the story turn out?
In high school I had a guy friend who once said that even if he and I never felt romantic love, "We'd be best friends and that's something a lot of people never have." We eventually went separate ways in life and you know how they always say hindsight is 20/20? I don't think we would have succeeded at marriage very well at all. Our friendship was awesome but we were very different people.
HOWEVER, as the years go by... I have a guy friend who knows me better than anyone else in my life and even though there's never had any romanticism involved, I can't say I haven't considered it!!
What makes our hearts so lonely and desperate that we are willing to grasp at what seems like the final straws?
I'd love to hear your thoughts. Of course, the poll is anonymous and multiple choice!
