Loneliness Is Deadly

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Weslo said:
I think loneliness can kill because you have less a reason to care about your health so you're more likely to smoke,drink,or eat unhealthy. Also,as isolation continues one might be more prone to risky behaviors without there being someone there to stop them,just a thought. :)
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But that's not actually the meaning. A study was done on small towns with close knit communities vs larger cities. On the average people in small towns, who are all close, and know each other, live longer than people in larger cities where you are less likely to even know your neighbor, let alone dozens of people. Its the actual close relational connections that has a positive effect on people. There may be some truth to your idea as well, but really just the fact of having close relationships and frequent interaction with people has an affect all its own.
 
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Hi weslo
That's not true. All is based on your spiritual relationship with Jesus. He will uphold you no matter what you are faced with in life. If u don't know Jesus, then yes, I am sure people are more likely to fall into their sins. With Christ all things are possible. Big difference. His word, your relationship with Him will sustain His child from being in bondage to such strongholds. One must fall in love with Jesus first. When you are renewing your mind in Christ by reading His word daily and applying it to your life, one begins to change and when you trust Him with your life and put your faith in Him, He will release the things from you that are not of Him. Do you understand? For instance, if you love God and you want to be one of His children, your life will become more like His in the way, truth and life He lived. If you were reading in His word the wisdom He gives about not putting harmful things into your body because it is the temple, the only one on earth we get to live in, and you are smoking, drinking, doing drugs, etc., these are all harmful things that make the body perish. He wants that none should perish as spoken of in John 3:16-17. He wants you to have an abundant life in Him. It breaks His heart when people destroy themselves and others because they don't know Him. The very one who created them and gave them there very first breath. He loves you and them so much! He doesnt want to see that happen. He says people perish for lack of knowledge. That's true, because they don't choose to read and build a relationship with Him, that will change their whole life. Start today. Give it all to Him. He can be trusted. Hope this helps. God bless you as you popseek Him. :)
 
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Ok, I took too long to make edits on my previous reply according to admin. Last reply at bottom of paragraph should read as you seek Him - Not "popseek" Him. And sentence with "there" very first breath should read, "their" very first breath. (Easier to do it this way than through admin. Saved a lot of time.)
 
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biscuit said:
I have always been a loner and antisocial ... and that was pretty much by choice. I grew up among some of the most vile people and watch them growing up. Make no mistake about it, I had many great people to associate with. I just couldn't do the evil & sinful things they did even though I was not a christian or saved. Maybe it was God steering me away from them. At 60 I have absolutely NO REGRETS for being lonely or antisocial even though I was very popular with my peers. Even when I reject them they still respect my space and ideologies. I guess 1 John 2:15-16, would explain my behavior, even though I didn't know why I was different. It was difficult at times ...and I now know why.
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Let it be that cookies are also like d by HERMITs like me.. Ha! Ha!

I guess, most of loneers are so crackable that WE hide to avoid additional pains. Of course, "antisocial" is a lie for someone who is registered on a friendly site like CC and, more than once, I have found this BISCUIT has shared a warm fellowship with many on this community.

I{m happy you ARE ONE of those I sought and ASKED to have you as friend (a thing he is): Crackable, warm, human a Christian.

May GOD give you that LIFE partner, friend.
 
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With the family mostly destroyed, with few places that groups of people are joined in love and support for each other, most people have to learn to live without the units of people that God intended for us to have. Many of us are doing that well.

I had an interesting experience. I hadn't seen another person for almost two weeks, eating out of my freezer. I finally found someone to take me to the store, but I was feeling so ill it was hard for me to go. I didn't think I was lonesome, I was busy and happy. As soon as I was in the store, rubbing elbows with all those people, I wasn't ill any more.

I hope anyone of you who is able to drive, etc. will think of this if you know of someone who is completely isolated. God designed us to be a help to other people, it is a need like eating is a need. If you supply a contact, you are supplying a need.
 
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Well I'm scared. :l
 
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When I lost my job due to severe allergy to latex, I felt useless. Job centres placed me in the 'too hard to do basket'. Doctors were only too willing to label me with 'anxiety disorder' and 'depression' just to justify them prescribing drugs to supposedly help me think better.

i knew that besides the physical effects of the allergy, my mind was intact. I was just plain 'sad'. So, I prayed and devoted hours learning about who God really is. I read the bible and bought several books just to get to know Him. I thought that maybe I was put in that situation so I could spend that time with Him. By doing that, I met a christian bible study group leader. She encouraged me to stop taking the medication and start attending churh services even though I really didn't feel like it.

Since then, the negative feelings just went away. My mind was filled with the wonders of God's love and that is when I started to really believe in miracles. As I grew, I discovered new skills I had all along but was never aware of. I studied short courses to develop these further. Now, I am that busy, there is no room left to dwell about anything else.

I realized from my experience that God can transform a life. Sometimes a person may not realize why she is going through a difficult situation. I know now that it means that new doors are waiting to be opened. All we need to do is search...knock...and the door will be opened.
 
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Angela4131 said:
I realized from my experience that God can transform a life. Sometimes a person may not realize why she is going through a difficult situation. I know now that it means that new doors are waiting to be opened. All we need to do is search...knock...and the door will be opened.
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I understand completely where you are coming from. Door number 1. Door number 2. Door number 3. "Knock three times on the ceiling if you want me, twice on the pipes if the answer is no...". There are times when a door will get slammed shut. But there will come a time when you must take the key provided by God and open the door. The question is which door you will open.Then you must walk boldly through the open door in faith. This has been my experience. Safe Passage.
 
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Sometimes you are lonely but don't want companionship either.

Ive had my fair share of people in life.

I no longer look out at the crowd and wish I was within them.

I look past them and see something much better.

You can keep your crowd with all its shiny bells n' whistles.

I have something that will last much longer and is infinitely better.
 
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Rudimental said:
Sometimes you are lonely but don't want companionship either.

Ive had my fair share of people in life.

I no longer look out at the crowd and wish I was within them.

I look past them and see something much better.

You can keep your crowd with all its shiny bells n' whistles.

I have something that will last much longer and is infinitely better.
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Sometimes I feel that way. Other times it flat out sucks.

Think I'll keep my solitude for a little while longer, however. These things called 'humans' can be too complicating to deal with.
 
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Rudimental

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I hear ya. It's easier said than done. But just be careful what you wish/pray for. You might just get it.
 
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Angela4131 said:
When I lost my job due to severe allergy to latex, I felt useless. Job centres placed me in the 'too hard to do basket'. Doctors were only too willing to label me with 'anxiety disorder' and 'depression' just to justify them prescribing drugs to supposedly help me think better.

i knew that besides the physical effects of the allergy, my mind was intact. I was just plain 'sad'. So, I prayed and devoted hours learning about who God really is. I read the bible and bought several books just to get to know Him. I thought that maybe I was put in that situation so I could spend that time with Him. By doing that, I met a christian bible study group leader. She encouraged me to stop taking the medication and start attending churh services even though I really didn't feel like it.

Since then, the negative feelings just went away. My mind was filled with the wonders of God's love and that is when I started to really believe in miracles. As I grew, I discovered new skills I had all along but was never aware of. I studied short courses to develop these further. Now, I am that busy, there is no room left to dwell about anything else.

I realized from my experience that God can transform a life. Sometimes a person may not realize why she is going through a difficult situation. I know now that it means that new doors are waiting to be opened. All we need to do is search...knock...and the door will be opened.
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Hurray for you! This is the answer to loneliness. Elijah was completely alone for--wasn't it a whole year when he was fed by ravens?

Loneliness is a state of mind. It is a lot better to be lonely than to be surrounded by people who feed you bad thoughts for your mind. You can use your own company for this, too. Loving others is necessary for us to live well, so if loneliness only makes you dwell on yourself, it is a bummer. But being alone can be a good thing if it is used right. It gives you a chance to put the best thoughts in your mind, thoughts of what the Lord tells us works the best for us, and those found in scripture.

Being alone with yourself really shows you what you are made of, if you are good company for yourself or not.
 
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tourist said:
I understand completely where you are coming from. Door number 1. Door number 2. Door number 3. "Knock three times on the ceiling if you want me, twice on the pipes if the answer is no...". There are times when a door will get slammed shut. But there will come a time when you must take the key provided by God and open the door. The question is which door you will open.Then you must walk boldly through the open door in faith. This has been my experience. Safe Passage.
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​You must be a Billy 'Crash' Craddock fan! LOL!! Me too.. :)
 
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blueorchidjd

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Oh man, this is a great thread! haha
You know what's funny?
I always feel lonely around people that say that they never get lonely, or that are really good at pretending that they have it all together. I like being around headcases like me, so that God allows grace to shine through the cracks. Just as he says that we are, broken cisterns or something like that.

But I guess there are still parts of me that God needs to work on IN me, there is still areas of disbelief in my life. and maybe that's why I feel like I am in arboretum instead of out in the woods taking in all the beauty.

I honestly sometimes feel like I will never get to the point where I will be 'in' the Christian community working for the cause of Christ. As well as a lot of other things that I worry about.
I have been going to this new church for the past month or so and I honestly say that I like it but the thought of getting into these bible studies just drains me. I love bible studies, but just I never feel like I connect to very many people..I find more of the religious birds than a true disciple. And it is suffocating when you walk into a church and that's all you see, religious men and women in their cute little coats, with their happy little heads, without a care in the world. Scratching their heads as they walk by.

And I guess that makes me feel underqualified to be a friend? Maybe that still means that I don't really understand the whole concept of Grace as I should. I mean, I get it, grace...but. I don't understand it 'completely' because I'm still partially in the flesh.

People also look at me really weird too, so Idunno.
I went to church yesterday and I kind of felt like an outcast, trying to sit proper and pretend that I had it together when my mind was all over the place and I was trying not to burst out in tears because of the conviction I was feeling and then the lady that was sitting next to me kept looking at her watch the entire time.

People are too proper.
I don't like them.
 
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Jesus did not sit in the synagogues much. He was out and about, and was kicked out and run out of churches, especially by the Pharisees. God says to come out of her.
 
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i like this thread. To be sad or happy is a choice. Remember the saying........"Smile and the whole world will smile with you, Cry, and no one will cry with you". I used to be a sad person back when I was younger, because I isolate myself from people. I only had one or two close friends But then later I realized that life is so wonderful, it is a gift from God. Why should I isolate myself from the world when I could be happy around other people and enjoy what the world could offer. Since then I changed my attitude. I go out and make more friends, talk to people and enjoy every moment with family. God is so good that He gave me life to enjoy and use it abundantly and productively in his ways. Life is too short to be sad. Let's be happy and enjoy life and enjoy every moment like it is our last.
 
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I know this brothers and sisters,

in our life times there will always be highs and lows, no matter what!
But, we have learned by being as low as you can go and by being as high as God will allow,
He always makes a way for us to pick ourselves up and then show us a new and better way
to come closer to Him.
 
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