I’m not exactly certain as to how many people will read my introduction thread, but my goal to be here, in all honesty, is definitely for support. Secondly, is there anyone out there going through a similar situation that I’m about to share? Happily married for 18 years, as of 10 months ago my husband in sharing his heart said he no longer loved me, that his feelings were numb for me. The 10 month journey has shattered my heart beyond anything I ever could’ve imagined in my 54 years of life. My story is lengthy but I will try to keep it to the shorter version, I truly believe that my husband is riding on a roller coaster filled with depression related to midlife crisis. He has been teacher for 30+ years & has recently announced his retirement less than 13 months away. He has shared his heart and his thoughts regarding the retirement that scares him because this is all he knows. His workplace has definitely become his identity over the last 30 years. The changes I see in him in the last 10 months frighten me. He is a completely different person! On a positive note, we are both seeing counselors.. I chose a Christian counselor, he did not (not that that’s a bad thing). I certainly have an awareness of a coworker that has become a friend and yes, turned into an emotional affair. When I attempt to speak truth to him I certainly see he’s blinded and feels that this relationship is OK. He in No way feels that what he’s doing could truly lead to the death of “us”. Unfortunately this coworker is who he is training to take his place once he leaves. Such a complex situation but I did not see this coming this was almost like a light switch.. very quick! As I said before, my heart has been shattered beyond measure. He did end up leaving last summer for three months. We are currently back living in the same house until he can gain insight/answers with counseling. Although divorce was discussed, no hasty decisions are being made. God is good I know he has great plans for me and for my husband and for our marriage. I know God loves marriage! I guess my ultimate goal here is to have prayer warriors to hold us up, as I see so many of these situations with not very positive outcomes . I see such a spiritual warfare going on within my husband. He is such a good man.
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