Divorce? And how did you get the courage to actually go through with it?

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Aug 10, 2019
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Yes he’s on a lot of medication but he’s in denial he thinks nothing is wrong with him.
I might have a sense of what you're going through....my wife suffers from schizophrenia which has some common elements with bi-polar. Our situation is different however, we only have one child....a 5 year old.

What I can tell you is this...psychiatric medications are not a silver bullet unfortunately, and there's no magic formula for which ones will work and which ones won't. The medication that works for one person with Bi-Polar won't work on another....there can be a lot of trial and error....and even if you're lucky enough to find the right drug or mix of drugs, there's a good chance that it will stop working after a period of time.

What we've found is that there are three important elements, medication, exercise and diet.....three legs of a wobbly stool....neglect one and the stool will wobble, it might even tip over.

You mentioned that you feel like you're alone, that everyone thinks he's a great guy....that you haven't shared this beyond family. God can do amazing things, and He uses people to offer help, hope and encouragement. I've shared my struggles with friends and neighbors and the blessings that have poured forth have been incredible.

I can share more if you like, but I don't know if you're still checking this thread.

God bless, and know that God is there in both good times and bad....
 

kaylagrl

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My firm belief is that you must first get clarity as to what you really desire to do. No one but you can do that because all of the decisions are yours to make.

1. No where do you state that you are earnestly praying for godly wisdom in this matter.

2. Your husband doesn't love you, and he loves himself more than he loves God, or you, or the children.

3. It is clear that you have done little to educate yourself as to how to survive after a divorce.

4. It appears that you're the 'responsible' parent in your home so stop waffling and make a decision; but make the necessary decisions and don't look back. Stop being selfish considering what someone else thinks.

5. Grow up and get out or stay there and suffer. Be certain the results are that your children will resent you both. Him, for not getting the help he so desperately needs, and you for putting them through a miserable marriage to a weak, uncaring, self-defeating father.

Finally, you and I both know things won't get better by themselves ... and neither will you until you 'grow a pair' through committed prayer!

Being married is tough on everyone who is married no matter what; but God made us to "couple." Get on with it.

And marriage was never about marrying the right person, but more so about being the right person. And your marriage has far and long ago been over about you being happy ... and him playing a tennis match in his brains about who and what he wants or supposed to be. It is about those children ... full stop!

P.U.S.H. ... and make the decision!

"1. No where do you state that you are earnestly praying for godly wisdom in this matter.
She did ask for Bible verses to help guide her. I think it's safe to assume she's praying about it.


2. Your husband doesn't love you, and he loves himself more than he loves God, or you, or the children.
Well those are a lot of assumptions, we can't really be sure of all that. The Op hasn't been back to tell us if he was a Christian once or what happened there.

[QUOTE="Ashton307, post: 3993981, member: 287794"] Stop being selfish considering what someone else thinks. [/QUOTE]

I think that's a little harsh. Many people frown on divorce for any reason, or may blame her for the divorce.She's human, that's a hard decision to make.

[QUOTE="Ashton307, post: 3993981, member: 287794"] Grow up and get out or stay there and suffer. Be certain the results are that your children will resent you both. [/QUOTE]

Wow!! Now that's really harsh!! She has four children. Again, it's not an easy decision to make. Your words were not kind nor encouraging.

[QUOTE="Ashton307, post: 3993981, member: 287794"] It is about those children ... full stop![/QUOTE]

Well I agree with you on that point. Children suffer more than we know. And they cannot walk away, they have no choice.
 

CharliRenee

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Well my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. What a perplexing situation. Welcome aboard CC...you can tell we are an outspoken bunch. Much love in Christ. I look forward to seeing you around in the forums.