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How Often Do You Give/Receive Hugs?
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I know a 400 lb biker called tiny that would love to hug ya tommy!
M M stands for Motorcycle Ministry
M M stands for Motorcycle Ministry
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Married and hugs? Married men and women have hugged me. Unmarried men and women have hugged me. Single men and women have hugged me. And I have hugged both as a single, unmarried and married. I don't really see the marriage as a stopper of hug giving or receiving, but I do expect a lot of hugs when I do get married.
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Hey Everyone,
A recent conversation had me thinking about how often single people give or receive any kind of physical affection. I think most everyone has read articles in which it's been documented that some babies who were given life necessities but no physical affection or care have perished, and I often wonder what kind of effect a lack of contact has on people as adults.
Why is it assumed that a lack of affection is just a natural occurrence as people get older?
Of course, as Christians, sexual contact is not an option for us singles until we get married, but what about more innocent things such as holding someone's hand (a friend or relative), a warm (but not overly long or suspiciously creepy) hug, and an affectionate kiss on the cheek (such as between friends or relatives)?
I admit to being a fairly affectionate person, and lack of an outlet for even the most innocent forms of affection has me feeling at a loss.
I consider myself very fortunate to have grown up in a family in which, even though I'm an adult, my parents smother me with hugs and/or verbal affirmations, and I can feel the perk in my soul just from being around that exchange for even just a few moments. The only hugs I receive these days are from my parents, but unfortunately, I don't get to see them nearly as much as I would like.
What about the rest of you? If you'll give me a few moments, I'm going to create an anonymous, multiple-choice poll that will reflect this threads original question.
However, some of the topics that won't be adequately covered by the poll are:
* Who do you exchange these affections with? (Parents, children, church members, etc.)
* Perhaps you don't feel comfortable with any kind of affection at all? Why? (If you would feel comfortable sharing.) And if you're not comfortable with affection, what kind of effect do you think that will have on a future marriage?
* Who were your role models in showing affection, and do you strive to be more or less like them? (For example, if you had parents who hugged you often, do you aspire to be like them? Or if you had parents who never hugged you or each other in front of others, do you plan to be the same way in your own marriage and family?)
Remember, the poll is anonymous, so no one can see your answers, as well as multiple choice, so feel free to choose as many as you feel apply.
I am hoping, however, that the poll will not be seen as a substitute for an actual discussion and am hoping that people will feel free to share their thoughts, opinions, and experiences.
Married people are welcome to answer as well--was it liberating or challenging to to from being single, to being around someone--and trying to show them affection, all the time?
We singles appreciate our married friends here who teach us the realities of married life without talking down to us.
I'll be looking forward to your answers.
A recent conversation had me thinking about how often single people give or receive any kind of physical affection. I think most everyone has read articles in which it's been documented that some babies who were given life necessities but no physical affection or care have perished, and I often wonder what kind of effect a lack of contact has on people as adults.
Why is it assumed that a lack of affection is just a natural occurrence as people get older?
Of course, as Christians, sexual contact is not an option for us singles until we get married, but what about more innocent things such as holding someone's hand (a friend or relative), a warm (but not overly long or suspiciously creepy) hug, and an affectionate kiss on the cheek (such as between friends or relatives)?
I admit to being a fairly affectionate person, and lack of an outlet for even the most innocent forms of affection has me feeling at a loss.
I consider myself very fortunate to have grown up in a family in which, even though I'm an adult, my parents smother me with hugs and/or verbal affirmations, and I can feel the perk in my soul just from being around that exchange for even just a few moments. The only hugs I receive these days are from my parents, but unfortunately, I don't get to see them nearly as much as I would like.
What about the rest of you? If you'll give me a few moments, I'm going to create an anonymous, multiple-choice poll that will reflect this threads original question.
However, some of the topics that won't be adequately covered by the poll are:
* Who do you exchange these affections with? (Parents, children, church members, etc.)
* Perhaps you don't feel comfortable with any kind of affection at all? Why? (If you would feel comfortable sharing.) And if you're not comfortable with affection, what kind of effect do you think that will have on a future marriage?
* Who were your role models in showing affection, and do you strive to be more or less like them? (For example, if you had parents who hugged you often, do you aspire to be like them? Or if you had parents who never hugged you or each other in front of others, do you plan to be the same way in your own marriage and family?)
Remember, the poll is anonymous, so no one can see your answers, as well as multiple choice, so feel free to choose as many as you feel apply.
I am hoping, however, that the poll will not be seen as a substitute for an actual discussion and am hoping that people will feel free to share their thoughts, opinions, and experiences.
Married people are welcome to answer as well--was it liberating or challenging to to from being single, to being around someone--and trying to show them affection, all the time?
We singles appreciate our married friends here who teach us the realities of married life without talking down to us.
I'll be looking forward to your answers.
I like hugging my nephew.....im not sure how much I do it but I do lol I don't really hug anyone else or want to most of the time I don't like that kind of stuff for the most part and I'm kind of a jerk at times I don't want people in my personal space, CATS ARE DUMB FOR THIS VERY REASON, not only that but I was never a huge affectionate person and wasn't really shown that as a child. I didn't want to hug my dad cuz I hated him, in a weird sort of way, and I didn't want to hug my mom cuz I felt it was just awkward. I did cuddle a lot though especially in my sleep I liked sleeping next to my mom. Oh and my mom making me and my brother hug and kiss each other on the cheek after a fight didn't help either. I'll hug kids all day long though kids are great cx. If we're talking about girls I used to hug tons of girls but not any more for reasons I just don't wanna be clung onto a bunch of different women. Not only that but I'm not exactly innocent when it comes to females and such so my mind can go to all kinds of places POSSIBLY rather not take that chance. BUT I like hugs ig or maybe I like cuddling, if I had a significant other I'd enjoy hugging her cuz I mean......idk I just would? Cuddling part is only for my wife I don't want to get that close to a female while laying down or anything that's suicide. Also boobs are a thing (can I say that?) and like I said I'm not innocent sadly so I even have to be careful with normal hugs I tend to kind of just do the side hug thing but if you're not family in some way, shape, or form then nah I'm not going to hug you if you're a girl around my age unless I like you then you might get one maybe, just don't get offended if it seems like I'm trying to touch you as little as possible because although I am, it's because you're cute . If I didn't like you I probably would try to associate with you as little as possible so you don't get the wrong idea and so I don't look like a thot, the fact that I'm trying to be friends with you probably shows I have some kind of interest, maybe not romantic but still. Was this too long?
. If I didn't like you I probably would try to associate with you as little as possible so you don't get the wrong idea and so I don't look like a thot, the fact that I'm trying to be friends with you probably shows I have some kind of interest, maybe not romantic but still. Was this too long?-
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